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(Original Air Date: 01/17/07) Most kids dream of growing up and moving away from home, but what happens when your adult children still haven’t flown the coop? Amanda, her husband, Mike, and their baby are all living in her parents’ tiny three-bedroom apartment. Amanda’s sister, Heather, says Mike and Amanda are so disrespectful to her mom, Brenda, and stepdad, Mike, that they need to be kicked to the curb! Heather says Amanda is lazy, and Mike lost his job as a correctional officer when he was convicted of selling drugs to the inmates! Brenda says she can’t bear the thought of her daughter and grandchild living on the street. Can Dr. Phil get her to cut the purse strings? Then, Brianne has been with her boyfriend, Greg, for nine years and says he’s the biggest mooch she’s ever met. Greg has never paid rent and admits he’s had between 50 and 75 jobs in the last six years. Brianne’s Aunt Terri says Greg is a lazy loser, and she’s sick of his excuses. Will Greg be able to get on his feet, or should Brianne cut her losses and move on?  Tell us what you think.

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March 28, 2008, 8:29 am PDT

03/27 "Get Your Act Together!"

What a pair of bums Amanda and Mike are. She only wants him to get a job so SHE can stay home and do nothing. She should be mad because he is insulting and using her mother. I had to stay with my mother once when I moved from one state to another. I cooked, I cleaned, I ran errands, I did the laundry, and worked at the same time until I found an apartment. It was just what I felt I should do.

He's never going to leave because he is comfortable there, and has to do nothing. She has no pride and he has no backbone.

I have rarely seen two more selfish, egotistical, lazy people, and using "baby blackmail" just typifies them. Not to mention the look of hate Amanda gave her sister. $400 in 6 months amounts to maybe $75 a month, and that isn't going to pay for baby needs, food, utilities, etc. And neither Amanda or Mike look like they are skipping the meat portion.

"Gramma" should file for CINS custody, legally evict them, and change the locks. They are not going to stop sucking off others, and frankly, once they go, they will probably repeat this behavior with another family member (maybe his?) or friend who misguidedly takes them in.
 
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March 28, 2008, 8:34 am PDT

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Hi there,

The bit about the figure skating:  if you follow the quotes backwards, you will find this guy's post where he is complaining because his parents (in their OWN home) wanted to watch TV shows that THEY wanted to watch instead of letting him watch figure skating.

 

That's where that came from. 

Do you work, do you have an income, do you do anything else beside care for your parents and complain? You say you would not want to see your parents in an assisted living situation or in a nursing home, so then why are you complaining about defrosting a freezer? Goodness lady, get it together, they are your parents. if the freezer needs defrosted, do it. How hard is that? Unplug the stupid thing, clean it out and move on. Oh my, what a hard days work.
 
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March 28, 2008, 9:29 am PDT

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I agree with the point you are trying to make with regard to the guest, but I disagree that both parents need to work in this country. In most middle class and upward families, only ONE income is needed. I am a prime example of that.

 

However, people want the bigger homes, new cars every few years, a vacation every year, eating out at least once weekly, summer camps for their kids, brand name clothing for their kids, electronic devices every Christmas for their kids, etc. There is SO MUCH WASTE in families that people have to work to pay their bills. However, much of that is about choice....

 

We went from 2 incomes to 1 after a difficult pregnancy and the birth of a sickly son. We didn't think we could make it; however, we learned quickly how much money we were WASTING on eating lunches out, buying new clothing too often, using credit cards (which we no longer EVER use), etc.

 

I have been able to stay home with our children the past 7 years and it's WONDERFUL. I wouuld not trade the experience for anything (including vacations and new cars!). Kids only grow up once. They are worth FAR MORE TO ME than "stuff!"

 

Too many of us (yes, even us women) value a job over our children. How do we justify allowing strangers raise our children much of the day five days a week? Why do we think we're more important when we have a job title like "teacher" or "doctor" or "nurse" instead of the title of full-time "Mommy?" We really need to re-evaluate what's TRULY important in life. I know there are thousands of other great classroom teachers who could replace me, but NOBODY could replace me in the lives of my two children. Just because I'm not paid to be with them doesn't mean that my work is not the most important job in the entire world. To those kids it is. And to God and me, it's the most important job I could have!

I so agree with you about both parents working, and sacrificing valuable quality time with their children, just to maintain a materialistic lifestyle. The dual income is often a choice, not a necessity. But, in Dr Phil's quests' case, I think they both need to work. While the husband's stupid choice to smuggle drugs into the prison where he worked does limit the field of employers willing to hire him, there are jobs available to him. That won't pay him well enough for his wife to stay at home with their child. But, he put himself into that predicament by breaking the law. And, he's just using his criminal record, and opinion that  certaisatn jobs are beneath him, as an excuse not to work. He's just too damn lazy. And, his wife doesn't have the experience, or skills, to be the sole breadwinner, either. So, they might as well both work. Until one of them is making enough that the other can stay at home with their child. Under their own roof.
 
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March 28, 2008, 9:38 am PDT

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How do you think they managed blending the generations on "The Waltons"?
The Waltons is fiction created by Earl Hamner, based on his own childhood. But, I still consider it a fair representation of life in those times. People had morals that most of today's sit-coms seem to ridicule. And, respect for their parents, and other elders, that many no longer have. Just watch your typical Dr Phil show if you don't believe me.
 
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March 28, 2008, 9:57 am PDT

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My pet peeve is people who pop out babies when they have no business doing so. Like you said: "If you can't afford to support your child, don't get pregnant, and if you can't afford to live on your own, don't get married.

 

I believe that these two deliberately got pregnant so that they would have something to blackmail her parents with so they could live there for free.

 

That sense of entitlement infuriates me! I feel sorry for the child.

 

This show was a rerun and I had hoped that by now Amanda and Mike would be out...however, one of the message board posters who knows this family...may've been the sister...said they are still living there and not much has changed except Amanda got a job, but isn't making enough money to move out. Gee...surprise, surprise! Her dork husband evidently still isn't working. Why? Because he doesn't HAVE to!   

It's been 70 days between the original show, and yesteday's rerun. That's 40 days past the deadline Amanda's enabling mother "promised" Dr Phil. And, who knows how many days past the day she actually made her "promise," when the show was being taped. The deadline probably passed at least three months ago. Of course, I'm not the least bit surprized that she didn't "grow a paisr" and kick them out. She's concerned about her grandchild. Keep the kid. Get custody. Get rid of deadbeat daughter and son-in-law. They aren't parents. They're breeders. She needs her tubes tied. And, he needs his vas deferens cut. Before they produce another means of blackmail.
 
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March 28, 2008, 10:42 am PDT

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Hey, where do I sign up for this "revolt"?  The government swipes 1/3 of every paycheck I get up early and drive to the office and work all day to earn in order to hand it to lazya$$es who get pregnant just to get more of my tax dollars; if I don't pay taxes, I go to jail.  Election after election, we elect or re-elect the Santa Clause who promises the biggest government hand-out freebies (hello, it's the Welfare recipients who keep voting them in).  I'm sick to death of generation after generation looking to the state to support them all their lives.  Why in the world should they take a minimum wage job when they make just as much or more sitting on their butts all day collecting Welfare, FDIC, WIC, Medicaid, food stamps, Section 8, etc.?  When are the suckers subsidizing this Welfare class going to wake up and smell the coffee???  Sign me up for that revolt when and if you find one, but I'm afraid it's already too late; "they" now outnumber "us"...

 

A big "duh" to the parents who spoil their kids rotten for 18 years and then expect them to suddenly become responsible, self-sustaining adults practiced in self-discipline and delayed gratification...

 

Double-duh...
 
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March 28, 2008, 11:39 am PDT

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What bird is that in your icon? Is it a House Sparrow?  

I'm not sure....I found this picture on Wunderground Weather photo gallery and downloaded it.

 

I liked it because it's so Spring-y.  :)
 
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March 28, 2008, 11:53 am PDT

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Well-put. BTDT as a single parent -- I hustled up and got a job PRECISELY b/c I didn't want to live with my parents forever.

 

Amanda needs to grow up herself. Neither she nor Brenda can change Mike.

 I agree.  Why is the baby not in daycare?  They should both work and make an income.  Mike was right they can't survive on $8 an hour but if they both work, it can be $16 an hr.  Plus the (grand)parents need a break from both of them and not be expected to also do all the mothering for that baby.  They daycare can give them all a break. 

 

Plus Mike and Brenda said they provide everything for the baby and not the grandparents.  That is not true.  If the grandparents where not giving them shelter and looking after them there would be not money for the baby.  So, indirectly, they are providing everything for the baby.

 

Thirdly,  They are complaining about sleeping on the floor and (grand) parents doing housework at 6 in the morning.  Are you kidding me?  Mike and Brenda should be doing all the housecleaning not complaining how they are not treated like six yrs old kids
 
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March 28, 2008, 12:13 pm PDT

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Hey, where do I sign up for this "revolt"?  The government swipes 1/3 of every paycheck I get up early and drive to the office and work all day to earn in order to hand it to lazya$$es who get pregnant just to get more of my tax dollars; if I don't pay taxes, I go to jail.  Election after election, we elect or re-elect the Santa Clause who promises the biggest government hand-out freebies (hello, it's the Welfare recipients who keep voting them in).  I'm sick to death of generation after generation looking to the state to support them all their lives.  Why in the world should they take a minimum wage job when they make just as much or more sitting on their butts all day collecting Welfare, FDIC, WIC, Medicaid, food stamps, Section 8, etc.?  When are the suckers subsidizing this Welfare class going to wake up and smell the coffee???  Sign me up for that revolt when and if you find one, but I'm afraid it's already too late; "they" now outnumber "us"...

 

A big "duh" to the parents who spoil their kids rotten for 18 years and then expect them to suddenly become responsible, self-sustaining adults practiced in self-discipline and delayed gratification...

 

Double-duh...

You can "thank" FDR for setting this "entiltlement" mentality engine in motion with his "New Deal" programs. And, LBJ for giving it more steam with his "War on Poverty" programs. While I've met two IRS agents I really like, a field agent and a taxpayer advocate who saved me from insanity, the whole system needs to be replaced with the Fair Tax. It doesn't punish productivity. You're taxed on what you spend, not what you make. And, the poorest are exempt. My congressman, Paul Broun, is for this. Former Presidential candidate Mike Huckabee is also fo it. And, support for it is growing in both houses of congress. But, for it to become reality, we need to vote in enough additional supporters. Neal Boortz and John Linder have written two books about the Fair Tax if you wish to explore it furher.
 
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March 28, 2008, 1:10 pm PDT

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You can "thank" FDR for setting this "entiltlement" mentality engine in motion with his "New Deal" programs. And, LBJ for giving it more steam with his "War on Poverty" programs. While I've met two IRS agents I really like, a field agent and a taxpayer advocate who saved me from insanity, the whole system needs to be replaced with the Fair Tax. It doesn't punish productivity. You're taxed on what you spend, not what you make. And, the poorest are exempt. My congressman, Paul Broun, is for this. Former Presidential candidate Mike Huckabee is also fo it. And, support for it is growing in both houses of congress. But, for it to become reality, we need to vote in enough additional supporters. Neal Boortz and John Linder have written two books about the Fair Tax if you wish to explore it furher.

True, but at least FDR's CCC required men to *work* for their bread-and-butter...  I say bring back the workhouses...  If it's starve or go to a workhouse, they'll go to a workhouse, but it won't be a nice subsidized apartment where they can do nothing all day in comfort...  Bet they'd "find jobs" real quick.

 

Yes, Huckabee had the right idea, and Ron Paul was the only one courageous enough to utter the word "Welfare"...  But who've we got running?  Two socialists and an old man...  This country is in BIG trouble.
 
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