Quote From: babsmom3I have read many of the comments about this show that aired. One that really got to me is from a woman that is caring for her parents and is 53 years old and whining about defrosting the freezer.
Listen lady, be thankful you still have parents. I moved from TX to OH in 1995 when I could tell that my Mother's health was starting to fail. I gave up my entire life in order to move to OH to care for my Mother. My daughter was getting ready to start high school and I wanted her to attend her full 4 years of school in one place, not moving from state to state. So the solution, move.
My Mother's health started getting really bad when my daughter was still in high school. Between driving to and from work everyday, a 1-1/2 drive each way (we lived in the country and it was definitely a long commute), going to my Mother's apartment in the city where I worked, to clean, do her laundry, get her groceries, take her to and from the doctors, specialists, emergency hospital visits and stays, etc., I was worn out. This did not include my responsibilities I had at my own home and trying to stay involved in everything my daughter was involved in at school, youth group, upcoming college visits, etc. You name it, I did it. I didn't care how much work it was, how tired I was, I managed. And believe me, I was no spring chicken.
I sent my daughter off to college at 17 years old in the summer of 1999. Finally, when my daughter went off to her second year of college in 2000, I had a serious discussion with my Mother about me moving to the city and us moving in together into a home. We rented a nice place together and I have been caring for her on a daily basis ever since. I am proud to say that my Mother is now 85 years old and still alive. And believe me, if I had not stepped up to the plate and took on the responsibility that every child should do, she would not be alive today. I am an only child, have no help with my Mother, but I handle it. Her doctors made me give her things to do at home to keep her active and moving around. Her chores are this - do the dishes a little at a time and run the sweeper when you feel up to it. My Mother is a CHF patient, has A-Fib, has had I cannot tell you how many life threatening surgeries over the years that I have been her caregiver. I actually lost a very good job because I had to choose to be at the hospital when my Mother had surgery or be at work. Jobs are a dime a dozen. Parents are not. Yes, we fuss at each other from time to time but that is because we are both stubborn.
I was just diagonised with a brain tumor that is inoperable. Do you think that is going to stop me from caring for my Mother? NO! Do think I came home from the neuro surgeon's office and laid this burden on my Mother? NO! She will never know about the tumor. What is the point? So she can worry herself to death about me? NO!
So stop your whining and get it together. Be thankful you have parents and are able to defrost the stupid freezer and be there when your parents need you. I do everything, the yard work, the laundry, the grocery shopping, the cooking, the gardening, the canning - EVERYTHING! Yes, I have slowed down since the headaches started and the brain tumor was diagonised. Sometimes we eat frozen food. So what? I cannot do as much as I did before, but I will be darned if my Mother is not taken care of.
So my advice to you is to STOP WHINING, STEP UP TO THE PLATE AND BE THANKFUL YOU STILL HAVE PARENTS TO LOVE AND CARE FOR. You said you were 53 years old, well you are acting like you a 5 years old. I am almost 52 years old, have numerous health problems myself, but it is not stopping me.
When things get overwhelming, go see a friend, go to a movie, call a friend on the phone, talk to people in general, go for a drive, anything. But don't blame this on your poor parents. You should be ashamed of yourself. No if's, and's or but's about it. Just extremely ashamed.
When you use the caps key on your keyboard for emphasis, you are trying to shout. That is a lot of emotion for a person with an inoperable brain tumor. You have enough problems of your own to dish out the insults at me. (I counted four and then I lost interest)
I never asked for your advice. How do you find the time to insult someone you have never met?
(Original Air Date: 01/17/07) Most kids dream of growing up and moving away from home, but what happens when your adult children still haven’t flown the coop? Amanda, her husband, Mike, and their baby are all living in her parents’ tiny three-bedroom apartment. Amanda’s sister, Heather, says Mike and Amanda are so disrespectful to her mom, Brenda, and stepdad, Mike, that they need to be kicked to the curb! Heather says Amanda is lazy, and Mike lost his job as a correctional officer when he was convicted of selling drugs to the inmates! Brenda says she can’t bear the thought of her daughter and grandchild living on the street. Can Dr. Phil get her to cut the purse strings? Then, Brianne has been with her boyfriend, Greg, for nine years and says he’s the biggest mooch she’s ever met. Greg has never paid rent and admits he’s had between 50 and 75 jobs in the last six years. Brianne’s Aunt Terri says Greg is a lazy loser, and she’s sick of his excuses. Will Greg be able to get on his feet, or should Brianne cut her losses and move on? Tell us what you think.
