Topic : 05/30 "Butt Out!"

The video in the car just makes me ill to watch!  Those girls had the shoulder strap behind their backs.  That is SOOOOOO dangerous.  Why is it that no one uses the seat belts correctly or see that it's even a problem.

-Lisa

This message has nothing to do with todays subject - This is my first time on the message boards as I don't know where to go with my concerns.

My friend Amberlee and I were just talking about the situation with Britney Spears - We are both 21 years old and can not understand where all her support has gone. When Britney and Kevin first got together everyone thought he was the biggest mistake of her life and what do you know - he was.

No one seems to care about Britneys state of mind.

I have personally had my fair share of a hard time, I have lost twin baby girls and my son to premature labour, which to anyone whos been through this knows how hard it can be, but with all the love and support I have had around me I have been able to move on and have learnt this experience will never go away and my babies will never be forgotten but I know my life can go on - me becoming a whole new person with a new outlook on the way the world works.

My point is WHERE THE HELL IS BRITNEYS SUPPORT???

Why does no one care???

I am watching her from the other side of the world self destruct and absolutly no one seems to care.

Where were her parents when she was commited to the hospital for a mental evaluation, yes she seemed fine but  people with mental health problems have good days and they have bad days 33hours is not long enough to evaluate the state of her well being.

If I could be there to lock Britney in her house away from everyone all the paparazzi all the critisizem and all the people who just seem to be pushing her to her limits, I would do it so she can learn to love herself again, Not as a celebrity but as a person.

Look what happened to Anna Nicole? This was a tragic story but no one seemed to care until it was too late and then everyone feels bad for not helping saying its soo sad. Well I can see the same thing happening to Britney, but no one is going to stand up and put a stop to it all until its too late.

this world should be bound together in the tough times but all I can see from this side of the world is a young lady with severe post natal depression who is screaming out for someone to take controll and put their foot down.

This is what my family did they made me move home, packed up all my stuff and told me I wasn't allowed to be on my own.

We talked about everything and just stayed at home and didn't have much of a life then finally when I was ready I went back out into the world and now I am successful in my job and social life.

There is too much scrutiny on Britney, you try living and raising a family with over 80 paparazzi in your face blocking the road and putting your children in danger.

I would like to see one other person put under that kind of pressure for 5 - 10 years + and see how they cope.

SOME ONE NEEDS TO STEP UP AND TAKE CONTROLL. WHERE ARE ALL HER FRIENDS????

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PS I agree with your opinion on Britney-- I hope she gets help.  Right now she is shunning all those who want to help her and embracing all those on board for her wild ride!

Dr. Phil has been in his profession a few years.  Psychologists know how to phrase questions to children that are not leading questions.  Children want to please the adult that they are speaking with.  They intuitively know what answer makes the questioner happy.  The mother was clearly asking leading questions for the benefit of the camera in the car.  When asked "Does daddy hit you with a spoon?" one of the girls said,  "No he uses his hand."  When that was met with silence she added, "and a belt."  I could see through that so I imagine that Dr. Phil could too.

This message is for Nicole.  When I watched your situation, it was like I was watching myself and my x on TV.  I can completely sympathize with your situation.  I have an x that is so insecure about his relationship with his children that when he has them for his week, he would like for me to have no contact with them.  Our x's are similar, in that they are very controling and do not respect our roles as our children's mother's.  My x also has a sugnificant other, who cannot have children, so she tries to take over.  She even went to the extent to pose as me to have my daughter evaluated for a local swim club!  These men need to stop the controlling behavior and listen to the kids.  It is about them now!  I would really like the chance to connect with you to chat once in a while.  All my best to you!

This show so hit home for me.. Although our circumstances are different.  20 years and 5 children later our Marriage was in shambles.   For the past 5 years I thought we were doing our due diligence on saving/or ending our marriage..now It seemed it was a revolving door of chaos.   How do you co-parent when your dealing with domestic violence, protective orders, suicide attempts, harrassment, threats, emotionally abusive ex's, Supervised visitation, control issues.   My husband ( soon to be ex ) is living with another woman who is now living with what we lived.. Domestic violence, co-dependency etc.  I FOUGHT my way to supervised visitation to protect my children, now they are starving for ANYTHING from him. There are NO phone calls, No e-mails, NO visits, NO support.   He CLAIMS he loves them,  but then behaves this way.  Is it better for them that he be TOTALLY out of the picture?  I know NOTHING less than supervised visits is the only way to go, but of course he thinks it's a crock!  The price my children have paid is HIGH.. I wish it could be different.. I just want what's best for my children.. I want them to feel LOVED.. feel IMPORTANT I want them to have a relationship with a emotionally healthy available father.

WOW, this show made SOOO angry. I cannot believe that two people who thought they loved each other at one time or another could act so incredibly bad to each other! WHAT is going on! I think the parents in this situation are both to blame. I was a child who had to go through this with their parents getting devorced and fighting and downing each other all the time. It is horrible to try and live through that! These children should be placed with a neutral party until such time that their parents get their act together and start acting like adults. I seriously think that these parents are still teenagers trapped in adult bodies. The way they behave toward each other is so ridiculous. My two year old acts that way on occasion and is put in the naughty chair! I cannot believe that these people are raising children.... those poor kids. As a kid who had to go through this myself, I really really really feel sorry for these kids. Its horrible always feeling in the middle, only wanting to feel safe and loved, but knowing that unless you pretend that the parent your with is the best parent that you'll get tossed to the side. Thinking that maybe one day they will leave you as they left each other. Thinking that if only you could convince them, that mommy or daddy really is good and kind that your family could be repaired, that things would be happy again.

PLEASE STOP DOING THIS TO YOUR CHILDREN! IF YOU DON'T THEY MAY NEVER GET OVER IT AND THEY MAY BLAME YOU BOTH WHEN ITS ALL SAID AND DONE. WHEN THEY GROW UP THEY WILL KNOW THAT WHAT YOU ARE DOING IS WRONG AND WHEN THEY DISCOVER THAT THEY MAY END UP HATING YOU. PLEASE STOP..... please...