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Topic : 01/21 Real Life Gossip Girls

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Created on : Friday, January 18, 2008, 02:22:49 pm
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Some teens are catty, mean and love to spread lies, but what happens when gossip goes too far? Kim says her daughter, Kailey, was the victim of a prank. Two of Kailey's cheer squad friends took a picture of her while she was in the shower, and the image supposedly made its way around the football team. Now, in the aftermath, the whole town is buzzing. You won't believe what the fathers of the alleged perpetrators have to say about the incident. Another girl claims she was also a victim when one of the girls took an unwanted photo of her as a joke. Hear from this alleged victim. And, Mandie and Nikki threatened the life of a classmate on MySpace after they thought she was going to steal Nikki's boyfriend. They were convicted in a court of law three years ago, and now both families say they face losing their homes because of this teen gossip. What do the girls say about their actions? And, Elizabeth started a Web site that allows anyone to gossip about anything. When a victim of lies posted on her site tells her story, will Elizabeth change her view? Share your thoughts here.

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January 21, 2008, 2:14 pm PST

myspace and facebook

 Both of these sites have kept my family in turmoil, I wish they would take them both offline and do away with them they are very upsetting and people using them are using them in the wrong way for which they were intended.
 
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January 21, 2008, 2:17 pm PST

Ridiculous!

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I am happy that these girls got punished for their actions. What they did was CLEARLY wrong. They seem really remorseful, I am glad this has taught them a lesson. What I am NOT happy about is that now the parents are getting sued. How ridiculous to sue over something like this. I could see if the girls were continuing to be abusive and rude and if they weren't remorseful, but obviously they are! Making one wrong choice shouldn't dictate the rest of their lives. They should be free to move on and become productive citizens. The parents of the girl who was the target of this ridiculous gossip should move on and allow their daughter to become a stronger person through this experience, by teaching her how to move on, and use what these girls did as an advantage to her. They SHOULD NOT be teaching their daughter that when something bad happens to you, you run to the nearest court and sue. What happened to the days when you taught your child how to deal with their emotions, what happened to the days when people didn't sue each other for everything and left the courts to deal with the serious and extreme cases. Sueing people over things like this, is ridiculous, what a waste of time and effort and resources!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

 

 
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January 21, 2008, 2:19 pm PST

01/21 Real Life Gossip Girls

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I was watching Dr. Phil and they were talking about the myspace bullies.  The parents were like "we could lose everything because of the negligent lawsuit against us" and "I have three mortgages on my house" my thought on this is "WHO CARES" Your children did something that was stupid and those girls should pay for it as well as the parents.  If the parents were more involved in their child's life maybe they wouldnt be in this situation.  If parents would sit down with their kids and tell them what is right and wrong and educate their children on what behavior is not accepted like my parents did with me when i was little, these girls would have respect for themselves and wouldnt have to stoop to a low level as bullying another girl. 

 

The mother of the victimized girl has EVERY right to sue for negligence against the parents of the bullying girls.  If it were my child, you bet I would sue because again it is the parents responsibility to educate their children on the principles of right and wrong.

But that's the difference between the two stories - in the first story not only did the girls not take responsibility for the wrong they did but their even more irresponsible parents went out hired lawers and bullied the school with expensive legal action or removal of the suspension of their records and return them to cheerleading squad - one of the fathers even dared to called the little thugs "brave" for admitting that they were little thugs!!!  that case should go to the courts.

 

The second case is much different - the girls went to the other girl before they even got into trouble in school and offered apologies which were rejected.  The two girls took their punishment from the school, then took their punishment from the courts and now are still being pursued 2 years later.  They did something wrong and stupid - and paid for it  both at home, in the school and in the courts -- now I think the wrong girl's parents are greedy - they got justice but now want money from people who can ill-afford it.

 

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January 21, 2008, 2:21 pm PST

Personally, I'm Tired of Hearing About Britany

While I realize the girl has some serious problems, so do millions of other people in America. The difference is that most of them are nobody's. They don't have access to the best rehab centers in the country. Their families don't have high-profile friends like Dr. Phil to lean on. Many people in this country struggling with mental illness or addiction can't even get into a treatment program because they don't have medical insurance.

 

Britany has the best of everything. She has access to anything and everything she needs to get her life straightened out. If she refuses those things, we should wish her well and move on to help those who are in desperate need but don't have all the assistance afforded to Ms. Spears. Just because she is in the public eye and living the Hollywood lifestyle does that make her problems and issues more worthy of help than someone living, say, in Des Moines or Phoenix?

 
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January 21, 2008, 2:21 pm PST

Consequences are a must

I felt realy badly for the first young lady on the show (Kayla) whose picture was taken in the shower.  When I was in school I was both on the giving and the receiving end of gossip, but we never went that far.  What a horrible thing for this young person to have to go through.  As for the girls who did this...consequences are a must.  I was particularly disgusted when I heard that these same two girls had victimized another girl previously.  They should be suspended and kicked off the cheerleading team.
 
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January 21, 2008, 2:22 pm PST

poor kaley

what those girls did was really wrong i felt really bad for kaley she did nothing wrong she was just a pretty young lady. the fact that two girls were jealous of her and decided to take a picture of her nude was just wrong what everyone else think

 
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January 21, 2008, 2:23 pm PST

partial agreement

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Too many parents have abandoned their responsibilities as parents.  In years past, they used the TV as an "electronic babysitter".  In today's world, they substitute computers and cellphones for the role of babysitter, to keep their kids occupied.  If parents won't pay attention to what their children are doing for the RIGHT reasons, maybe they'll do it for the WRONG reason: to protect their possessions from loss in lawsuits.

I believe the girls' parents SHOULD be sued and pay heavy penalties, and that fact should be well-publicized, giving warning to other parents:  Pay attention to what your children do online or with their cellphones, or you will be held personally accountable.

Our society has run amok, because there are no appropriate consequences for improper actions.  In today's world, commit a crime, violate someone's privacy, use drugs, be immoral in any way, and the consequences are a "slap on the wrist", followed by fame and fortune from book deals, interviews, Playboy pictures, YouTube, MySpace, tabloids (paper and online) and TV talk shows.  Crime and improper actions should be met with humiliation, penalties and anonymity, making it less appealing to do such things.

Okay, you have a point. Society is running amok, but come on, first parents are not and cannot be perfect. Second, to police your child every minute of every day is an impossibility! Esspecially in a world where both parents have to work just to make ends meet. Third, I could see the parents getting sued, if their child was continuing to be ridiculous and malicious, but they aren't, they are truly sorry, they are children and they will also make mistakes.

 

I am writing this from the viewpoint of the girl that was ALWAYS bullied. Let me explain to you that when I say always, I MEAN ALWAYS, like every day of the last three years of high school, i was bullied, made fun of, beat up and generally abused.

 

Do I blame the kids parents? Probably, do I blame the kids? DEFINATLY, would I ever sue one of them?? =- Probably not, why, because there are WAY WAY more important things to worry about in this world, and if we overload the justice system with petty lawsuits, then what happens is the justice system becomes imobile and useless.

 

 

 
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January 21, 2008, 2:23 pm PST

Warning from CNY

Here in Central NY we had a situation where a group of Jr. high school girls took naked pictures of each other to give to their junior high boyfriends.  These naked pictures were of 13 and 14 year olds.  They were published online and passed around the school.  The district attorneys office was not able to do anything because everyone involved was underage and the pictures were originally consensual.   When an adult downloaded the pix the DA's office went after him.  That is how it made the local media.  Parents need to tell their teens not to pose naked or in a compromising position.  The  pictures WILL take on a life of their own.
 
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January 21, 2008, 2:27 pm PST

Gossip...

This show really covered a lot of ground on the subject of gossip. The beginning of the show with Dr. Phil setting the record straight with Brittany Spears really showed yet another fabulous side to Dr. Phil. Honesty. Dr. Phil was completely honest about the whole situation. I really admired that portion of the show and the courage it took for him to go on national television and sort through all the lies and pick out the truths about the situation. The other part of the show with the shower picture I thought was very sad. I am one grade ahead of the girl who got her picture taken in the shower. She's in eighth grade and I'm in ninth grade. I know first hand just how quickly gossip spreads, especially something like that, and how often people you think are your friends turn on you. My heart truly goes out to that family and the completely innocent victim of the situation. The two girls responsible for taking the picture I feel should have been in someway punished for their actions. That was a completely unnecessary violation of privacy. I feel so sorry for the innocent girl.
 
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January 21, 2008, 2:29 pm PST

What about sexual harrasment in the schools?

Let me get this straight.  There are all these other things in the school system to "protect" the  kids, but what about protection against sexual harrasment?  I know that IS against the law.  So they just let the girls do what they are going to do?  I would ring my daughters neck if she EVER did anything like that to someone else.  How about a little disipline for those little turds.  How terrible!!! 
 
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