Topic : 01/21 Real Life Gossip Girls

Doctor Girls Gossip Life Phil Real.  Doctor Phil are you getting mix up?. What are you talking about? Girls--

are girls and what not. See you on Monday Janurary 21st, 2008. Sincerley Your. Russell Vlaanderen.--------

Gossip when its usually not true can ruin a person's character, their life, make them lose their job and everything they owned.  It can also tear families and marriages apart.  Gossip cost my aunt her marriage.  People used to lie on her and tell her husband all kind of things about her cheating and running around with different men when it wasnt even true.  My aunt was always a tomboy she always hung out with guys growing up even though she had a few female friends.    She was the only girl until my other two aunts came along out of all her brothers which are my uncles and including my dad.  People need to stop spreading lies. It doesnt make things better.  Why would people waste their time destroying other people's lives to make themselves feel better?  I guess its because their life is already miserable and they want other people's lives to be miserable as theirs.  Its true what they say misery loves company.

I am so happy you are doing a show on this.  I have been the subject of petty gossip on two different jobs.  The reason was I worked harder and received promotions that new hires decided they wanted.  Their only course of action was to ruin my reputation.  And the sad part is that it works.  Employers do not want to get involved in she said / she said.  

I am happy to hear that the parents are facing such dire consequences for their teens' actions.  I know that there are exceptions, but children do usually follow their parents' examples.  Sometimes they stray and do things they were not taught to do, but I don't think that parents who teach by good examples have children who stray to the extent these young women have.  

I am almost afraid to hear what the fathers think about the spreading of the nude photo.

I am looking forward to this show.

My mom used to tell me, when I was younger, to let it go. That made me feel as if she didn't want to hear about it and deal with it.  It was hard for me to understand, why these kids would want to say mean things to me.  When I had to deal with it on my own, it made me look and criticize myself for my faults.

Now, that I have 4 children of my own, I do things a little different now.  Especially when they are already facing it in grade school.  I encourage them everyday after school to sit and let me know how their day went.  I want to hear about their friends and what happened with "Joe" and "Sally", especially if it sounds silly. 

It means alot to mean to be close with my children.  I wish I could create a force field, to shield them from unexpected events, but I know they need this in order to learn how they can deal with it.

But for now, all I can do is encourage them to rise above the hate and look to help to those who need it help.