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Created on : Friday, January 18, 2008, 02:22:49 pm

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Some teens are catty, mean and love to spread lies, but what happens when gossip goes too far? Kim says her daughter, Kailey, was the victim of a prank. Two of Kailey's cheer squad friends took a picture of her while she was in the shower, and the image supposedly made its way around the football team. Now, in the aftermath, the whole town is buzzing. You won't believe what the fathers of the alleged perpetrators have to say about the incident. Another girl claims she was also a victim when one of the girls took an unwanted photo of her as a joke. Hear from this alleged victim. And, Mandie and Nikki threatened the life of a classmate on MySpace after they thought she was going to steal Nikki's boyfriend. They were convicted in a court of law three years ago, and now both families say they face losing their homes because of this teen gossip. What do the girls say about their actions? And, Elizabeth started a Web site that allows anyone to gossip about anything. When a victim of lies posted on her site tells her story, will Elizabeth change her view? Share your thoughts here.

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twgarrett

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January 22, 2008, 8:52 am PST

Attention all parents and social site users!

Please read this article (copy and paste into browser).

It will really shed some light on the things that have been happening due to sites such as Facebook.

http://www.thetechbrief.com/2008/01/16/top-10-lives-businesses-and-reputations-ruined-due-to-facebook/

Thank you & I hope this helps someone.

Concerned Mother

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cissie88

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January 22, 2008, 9:04 am PST

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You are so right!!! Too many poeple are on here judging without really knowing the entire story from ALL sides. I can tell you for a fact that these people bringing their children on tv just want attention and to cause more and more drama. Some people just thrive on it!!! The alleged "victims" lied and totally fabricated the story for attention. This is why "no adult has ever seen the alleged photo". People, get a life!!

Since you seem to be such an authority on this, PLEASE enlighten everyone on the board to the TRUE FACTS. Or at least give us your version of the truth.

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cissie88

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January 22, 2008, 9:09 am PST

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It isn't that the parents are being blamed for what the girls did initially, you are right, you can't keep kids from doing something stupid, but they can hold them responsible afterward. It is the fact that they continue to defend them and stopped the school from appropriate discipline that makes them irresponsible parents.

The two girls on the Mypace were not the ones whose parents who stopped the school from disiplining them. That was the first two who took the photo and sent it around school. The girls on Myspace were punished by their parents, school and the courts. The girl's mom is now suing.

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January 22, 2008, 9:12 am PST

and your reply is not judgemental?

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You have got to be kidding me....parents cannot watch their teenagers 24 hrs a day!!! Do you have teens?

If you don't you better be careful before you judge!!! Lots of teens have discipline and guidelines and they

still don't follow.... You make me sick being so judgemental!!! They were very wrong but things happen beyond the parents control some time!!!

tell me that your very angry reply to me is not judgemental?

First of all, I had many people on here agree with my original message. Far more agreed than didn't. Of those who didn't, no one was nasty like you. It's a shame that if someone disagrees with you that you say that they make you sick.

No wonder you don't want people to "judge"!! I find that it is usually not the well-behaved upstanding people that yell "don't judge", but rather it is the people who want a free pass for poor behavior. If your way of responding to me is your usual way of acting then I can see why you don't want people to judge.

Abd by the way the parents who do their jobs as parents for the most part raise good kids. You give your children guidlines so that when they are not with you they make good decisions. You monitor what they do. And you put a quick STOP to poor behavior.People like those fathers that let their daughters' behavior go and call them brave rather than discipline them will likely see more trouble bown the road. And to answer your question, my kids are past their teens and have not been in trouble...thanks to this "judgemental" person who raised them with good values.

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January 22, 2008, 9:12 am PST

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In this legalistic society we live in "Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us" doesn't hold up. Forgiveness all around would bring much healing. The 2 girls being sued were certainly asking for forgiveness and acknowledging their "trespass."

Sorry, but God's Word ALWAYS "holds up". And while you may have heard the girls "apologizing", what I heard was them whining about how hard all of this has been on THEM. They never once said a word about how hard it has been on their victim. It's was "me...me...me" the whole time. And just because you forgive someone, doens't mean they still don't have to suffer the consequences of their actions. In other words, "you're forgiven....now go serve your time."

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January 22, 2008, 9:12 am PST

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I happen to be off of work today and caught this show. I live in the bordering school district from which the My space girls attend. I was very moved by the story and feel it should be shown at school to preteens/teens. It's real vs "my mom says" . That being said, Obviously, to bash these parents you must be one of those "Perfect" parents of "perfect" kids. I have a preteen daughter and a teenage son. My husband and I monitor their freinds, their emails, their phones, etc. We attend all of their school events and we are NOT absent parents trying to be their best friends. However... I would never say that with my diligence they will do nothing wrong. They are kids. Kids do things without thinking it through..so do a lot of adults for that matter. If my daughter or son made this type of mistake it would not be because we haven't talked about it or the consequences. It is just that these kids get in the moment and get caught up in wrong behavior. To sue a family over teenage verbal threats goes beyond "making them be accountable for their actions"(that happened in court) and says to me.. "let me profit from this". To blame the parents for the girls immature mistakes is wrong. I also am not an idiot who feels "kids will be kids" but I am one who says we all have to make mistakes to learn right from wrong. As a parent, I only hope that my children's mistakes are minor ones. Children will make Mistakes.. regardless of parenting. The parents who feel that they are supreme parenting masters and because of this their children would never do anything wrong.. shouldn't crow so loud because you just never know. The internet has opened up a new avenue for all types of wrong behavior but it most likely isn't new behavior just accessible by more people.

Excellent post!!! Don't you just want to scream when you read those types of posts? I actually find them amusing....because those PERFECT PARENTS don't have a CLUE what their PERFECT KIDS are really doing. The just THINK they do.

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January 22, 2008, 9:15 am PST

gossip show

i only became a member to this site so i could leave this message.

i am so dissapointed that the show had on that girl from the gossip report .com. i hate to even write that on here, i feel like i am giving them more publicity. i would have NEVER known about that site if it were not for the show. I went to check it out to see if i was on there... i didn;t even get that far. i had to stop. their homepage tells of what a wonderful expericnce they had on the show, but more then that i am sadden that tehedr. phil show had a part in making them more known to young teens and others. soft core porn greets you on their homepage with pictures of the gossip reports employees or fans, in logo tee shirts, some exposing their chests, rear's and most with boo's in hand. out of curisioty i imagine MANY people will check out this site to see if their names are on here...

i wish the show had never had them on.. pandora's box was opened yesterday and i only see terrible things comming from this website. it is a real shame someone didn;t look into their site and do their homework and make a wise decision about whether or not to have this guest on to represent the website before hand and see what laid ahead. i think having them on ONLY served as a promo for this heartbreaking website.

a bad choice dr. phil show, a bad choice!!

amanda in greenwood Nova Scotia

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January 22, 2008, 9:27 am PST

to travelguru

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Finally there is another person who shares my views! This reply is "right on" - if parents knew what their children were doing things like this probably wouldn't happen. And, why do pre-teens and teens need cell phones, especially in school? I'm sorry but that is NOT the place for them. I've heard people say computers, cell phones, the internet, etc...has created a lot of our societal problems today. Just look at the stuff you can view on the internet! Not only view, but there are sites that let you build a web site for free and here you can post anything! MySpace, YouTube, and others, these sites allow anything to be posted, true or not! I won't judge all teens by the ones who are up to no good and even up to criminal-level activity. There are many good teens in the world who do good things! Bless Them! It's the bad ones that we hear about, have always heard about and probably always heard about! What scares me the most is, these kids are the future, and what kind of an adult will they be!

Thanks!!! I am glad you share my views. I have had some come on here telling me I am far too judgemental! Parents need to be parents. They need to be aware of what their kids are up to and to set limits. They need to teach their children that there are consequences when they do something wrong. They need to teach their children to respect others and to understand how others feel. These are the things I taught my now "twenty-somethings" when they were children, and neither ended up being the type that got in trouble and both have many friends and are doing well in life.

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January 22, 2008, 9:29 am PST

Agree - To A Point

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It is so easy to blame the parents but having been through some rough years with two teenagers I can vouch for the fact that not everything can be laid on the parents. These girls are old enough to know better and should be held accountable.

As a parent, I agree that you can't monitor your teen 24/7. At some point you have to have faith that you have taught your child enough to make the right decisions. What I have a problem with in this situation (the picture in the shower story) is that the parents are trying to downplay their children's actions. Did I hear correctly that one parent has a web site calling the two photographers "heros"??? I have a strong suspicion that if it was their daughter's photo being passed, their reactions would have been very different. I am also angry, but not surprised, that the school stepped away from their initial punishment (off the cheerleading squad and suspension). Many public schools these days blame parents for children who misbehave, but immediately buckle under parental pressure when some parent screams "lawyer" because (according to them) their child is above rules and expectations of decent behavior. I don't know how I would act in this situation, but I hope I would support the schools punishment, as well as issuing some very stiff punishments at home. I hope these two girls don't get into the habit of thinking that their actions have no consequences, or they are heading for a lot more severe trouble.

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January 22, 2008, 10:03 am PST

not at school

the picture that was taken in the shower was taken at a slumber party not at school. so banning cell phones in school would not help

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