Topic : 06/26 Teens Having Babies

I was upset today after watching the show that Dr. Phil placed alot of the blame of that 16 year old getting pregnant on the parents. More blame should have been placed on the teen. Give me a break that she had never been educated in sex ed. It takes place in school, who doesn't know that unprotected sex could lead to having a child. She blamed having sex on the fact that her relationship with her father was in trouble and she wanted to feel love. Alot of teens at that age are having difficulties communicating with their parents and are in that stage where they don't listen and are fighting with their parents. It doesn't mean that they all go out and have sex and get pregnant. And when he said that they didn't see the warning signs, well how could they she didn't show. I know a girl that hid her pregnancy till the day she went into labour, does that make her parents bad, no.... You can educate your children all you want on the fundementals of sex but it all comes down to if they listened or not. I felt like Dr. Phil didn't place enough responsibility on the girl and on her actions...

I watch Dr. Phil almost everyday and think that his opinions are usually dead on. But I have a really hard time watch him slam people that get pregnant at a young age. I was 18 when I got pregnant (I was on birth control) I am now 20 and I believe that I am a great mother. I don’t agree with how he said on a previous show that his son his 20 or 21 that he couldn’t even take care of a plant (in comparing it to all people that age.) I do agree that being young and pregnant isn’t a choice that should be made, but sometimes life happens. Being a responsible person you have to accept the change in your life and live up to the responsibility that is required of you. It’s all dependant on the person and how they choose to act and live upon the new arrival. I personally believe that generalities, such as all young parents are incapable of taking care of children are being carelessly used. I believe there is truth to what he saying but I feel that I have been unjustly looked upon because I am young. My daughter is flourishing and in perfect health. I just wish that there would be people on the show showing success against the odds. I am not saying being young and a parent is easy but its is possible to make good out of a difficult situation

When I was young my parents did not have a talk about sex with me. They left "The Joy of Sex" in a visible location and porn was located by my brothers in the basement. I was given "Our Bodies, Our Selves" and whenever I had a question about BOYS and SEX, I felt fully comfortable going to my mother and talking to her. Sometimes I even discussed boys with my father. They never sat down and gave me the TALK. The result of all of this is when BOYS would play their games because they wanted to get LAID, I understood all the implications and consequences if I went down that track.

I couldn't agree with you more.

First off my congrats to you for supporting your daughter and helping her with raising her child. I was upset too that he blamed the parents. When are we ever going to make teens in society today responsible for their own actions if we keep blaming the parents or media for everything they do.

You can be as active in your childs life but that won't stop them at that age from doing what they want to do.... girls are sneaky, i was at that age and i didn't have a great relationship with my father, I didn't get the sex ed talk everyday from my parents and i didn't go out and get pregnant either. My parents worked hard to raise me well and loved me (even though i didn't see it at the time), but they did teach me to take responsibility for my actions.....

       What a wonderful wonderful post! The points you brought out are so incredibly true and so seldom ever mentioned or talked about. You said it so perfectly. Girls if you wouldn't spend $200 on a present for your guy,why are you giving him sex? You and your body are worth way way more than that. Hold your standards high and expect the guys to come up to your level and treat like a lady should be.

I am not talking about simply "young" mothers.......I'm talking about irresponsible ones who get pregnant by several different boys/men and don't have a darn clue about how they will raise them...the girls who think having a baby will be such fun, and "aren't they cute"...until they actually have one and then it becomes everyone else's problem: the taxpayers, the courts, the grandparents..but, saddest of all, the innocent children.

I was a young mother myself and I didn't abuse my kids either! So what? I'm talking to those whom the shoe fits!

And, trust me, I DO pray for those little souls....every day. But praying alone does not solve the problem.

I STILL stand by what I've said: common sense, birth control, self-control!!!  PREVENTION through education, moral training at home, and communication......as I said, and will continue to say!

You lack full wisdom. That's not your fault; you are young.

Not all adoptions are perfect and not all children brought up by people who were unprepared to be parents turn out super. HOWEVER, ALL ABORTIONS are simply murder, plain and simple.

If I were given a choice of death or a very good chance of a good life (thru adoption), I would surely choose adoption. 100% of us would take that gamble.

Saying the word "choice" or "abortion" is too easy. Let's be REAL and show REAL WISDOM. Killing a growing baby is only acccpetable because we sugar coat it. We can't hear the child cry or scream so we can minimize what we are doing, which is killing.

Adoption is ALWAYS a better choice than killing. Yes, adoption, like anything in life, is a gamble. But the odds are much better than the odds of surviving and abortion.

At least the "innocent child" as you put it LIVES when his/her mother is unselfish and mature and responsible and compassionate enough to give her child a CHANCE AT LIFE.

When God says "Don't Judge" he is not talking about His Truths. His Truth about the sanctity of life is that killing is always wrong. Yes, it IS that simple. It may not be easy to follow since we are all mere humans, but it IS what is expected of us.

God bless you and good luck to you. I felt as you did until I felt the BABY inside me moving around. Than I had a DUTY to not kill my child. Being a mother means being unselfish, even if it's more convenient to do the WRONG thing.