Topic : 06/26 Teens Having Babies

Lillysgranny  wrote: “But how dare you guys  and Dr. Phil to label all girls who get pregnant as losers and stupid…Becoming a teenage mother was the BEST thing that has ever happened to me!!!!”  

Young mom of 2 wrote:  

“i am also a young mother and felt very upset after watching dr.phill's episode today. i can't believe they would say the thing's they did. oh well ppl won't know the feeling of anything until they actually experianced what me and you go through on a daily basis. beign a mom is the best thing that could have ever happened to me.”   

We dare because kids having babies is wrong: it places teen parents and babies at risk, and is a burden on society. That you don’t like that reality, or that it turned out OK for you doesn’t make it any less true.   

Me – me-me-me-me. “Best thing that ever happened TO ME.”  So it turned out OK – but it wasn’t all about you, was it?  We don’t have to experience foolishness to know it’s foolishness, and getting pregnant when you aren’t an adult, can’t support a child, and expect your baby to fix your life is foolishness.  

Moms and Dads – talk to your kids. You need to be a strong adult presence in your child’s life; teach, love, teach, even make it hard for them to have sex.   

Parents of boys: read the post by Jillnovotne. This isn’t just about the girls. That mom who claimed that her son had been tricked into a pregnancy is just pathetic. Dads, step up to the plate, teach your boys self-control, and don’t make excuses.
  

Our kids are surrounded by messages that they have to have sex, they need to have sex, they should have sex.  Well, it’s not true. We need to counteract that message in every way, give them every tool we can, every support to help them resist that message until they’re truly adults ready for the awesome responsibility AND joy of a sexual relationship. Our grandchildren may just thank us some day.  

Hi Dr. Phi!

I felt compelled to comment on your topic of today's show:  Teen's having babies.

I had to laugh when you asked a mother on your stage how she could NOT know that her daughter was 4 months pregnant...I lived at home with my parents and no one knew until I was 8-1/2 months pregnant.  Everyone literally found out 2 weeks before I gave birth to my daughter (who is now 24 years old!)  the only person who knew from the time I did was her father.

I'm not sure what we were trying to accomplish by not telling anyone else.  I guess we were just trying to avoid confrontation with our families.

I would do it much differently if I had it to do all over again, but I think you learn from everything you go through.  I lived my life as a single parent until my daughter was 15 years old, and I finally married my husband.

Dr. Phil

              After watching this episode today - my thinking is with my parents where did the values and morals that were so prominent 40 and plus years ago!!! I was raised to know that you don't have sex until your married and that you keep your legs together!!!! I was involved in 4-H, livestock industry, school organizations. The kids these days just don't have parental involvement or guidance which is making this world come down to the downing of America and the world!!!

                I do feel sorry of the teens and preteens that are having babies to a point but I think that they need to have their ass kicked if they think having sex won't mean anything hello 9 months later should answer that question. 

I haven't read the replies to this and have been living out of the country and haven't seen the shows for a year but I have a few comments.

Why is it that everyone always uses "you can't get a driver's licence" to stack up the can and can't dos when someone is fourteen. Since when did having a driver's license reflect on anyone's maturity? Just about any butthead can get one, doesn't mean they should have one.

Also, I get very tired of people blubbering that this baby is there and it's going to be such a burdon and it's going to screw up their life etc etc, why don't they give it away? There are so many people waiting for babies. In this day and age there's hardly an excuse for people to get pregnant when they're not ready but it happens and after the fact there's nothing you can do about it but there IS a solution after the baby is born and it can have a very happy ending.

I wouldnt consider giving a dirty look to a pregnant teen and I would do anything to help her out but I get very sad when I see her pushing a pram (sometimes pregnant again already) and knowing that she doesn't realise that this is all due to her choices.