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Affairs, sex with strangers, previous marriages and secret children … What happens to a relationship after someone confesses a deep, dark secret? Lee recently disclosed to his wife, Kristina, that he had been married three times before her and that he has a teenage daughter. Kristina says she feels stupid for buying Lee’s stories, and now she wants out. Lee, an actor, says he’s desperate to get his wife back, but has his best performance to date been playing husband to Kristina? Then, to the outside world, Sheri and Raymond appear to be a happily married couple of seven years with three young children, but behind closed doors, their marriage is nothing but a charade. Sheri admits that for the past four years, she has been dating close to 15 other men, whom she refers to as "friends with benefits." Raymond says he keeps up the facade for their children, but Sheri’s promiscuity has got to stop. You won’t believe what Sheri says happened to her eight years ago that may be at the center of her cheating heart. Talk about the show here.

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February 4, 2008, 11:07 am CST

I find it a little hard to feel sorry for Kristina

He was already married when she started having an affair with him.  It's her fault she believed his cr@p that his marriage was on the rocks.  Dr. Phil has said something in the past like if he'll cheat with you, he will cheat on you.  I hope she learns her lesson and in the future only dates men who are clearly divorced.
 
February 4, 2008, 11:28 am CST

Why blame Sheri?

I mean, if Raymond knows about all of Sheri's partners, and he's not doing anything about it, why should she stop? He said he doesn't believe in divorce, so I don't see why she should stop seeing these other men. If he's willing to stay in this situation, he deserves his lot in life.

 

All of this could stop if Raymond grew a pair and demanded Sheri stop seeing the other men. Otherwise, if she has no incentive to stopping her behavior, she should have her "friends with benefits." More power to her. Myself, I would've kicked her to the curb when she cheated on me the FIRST time.

 

He makes men like me look bad. He really does.

 
February 4, 2008, 11:59 am CST

cyberinfidelity

Dear Dr. Phil:

 

Hit me with a cold hard dash of reality.  I say a man (my fiance) who writes filthy pornographic notes to other females on a pornographic site asking them for sex and oral sex is not to be trusted.  This is a blatent flaw of character and boundries.  Also set up a private email and asks them to send pics of themselves and he will in turn send them pics back.  His garbage alibi is "it was only empty words" Would you marry him or step in front of a bus,  ha ha.  Thank you

 
February 4, 2008, 12:14 pm CST

02/04 Dirty Little Secrets

Quote From: shareliz

I know a man that lies about every aspect of his life.  What would make a person lie about marital status, the number of children he has, a military career and the involvement with multiple women at one time?   This is a 62 year old man.   He is very good at what he does.   When caught in lies and confronted, he admits to not being honorable and goes on.   He does not care that he breaks hearts.  Is there hope for a person like this?

In a word, "NO."

 

Seriously though, hope for what?  That somehow he'll have an epiphany and do a 180-degree turnaround; quit lying, make amends for past wrongs and rekindle his heart!   My guess is there's about a 1% chance of that happening.  Not very good odds.

 
February 4, 2008, 12:22 pm CST

02/04 Dirty Little Secrets

Quote From: kaykwilts

He was already married when she started having an affair with him.  It's her fault she believed his cr@p that his marriage was on the rocks.  Dr. Phil has said something in the past like if he'll cheat with you, he will cheat on you.  I hope she learns her lesson and in the future only dates men who are clearly divorced.

Amen!  Why is it that people who cheat with a cheater think they won't be the next in line to be cheated upon?  Dr. Maya Angelou has a great saying, "when someone shows you who they are, believe them."  How desperate does someone have to be to agree to be involved with someone who's unavailable in the first place? 

 

 
February 4, 2008, 12:26 pm CST

LEE SHOULD NOT BE MARRIED

ON THE SHOW I WOULD LOVE TO KNOW IF LEE KNOWS THE MEANING OF MARRAIGE.  WAS LEE EVERY MARRIED IN A CHURCH.  DOES HE KNOW WHAT TO DEATH DO YOU PART MEANS.  AT NO TIME DOES HE EVEN MENTION GETTING MARRIED IN THE EYES OF GOD. HE NEEDS TO TALK TO A PASTOR OR PRIEST.  IF LEE HAS BEEN MARRIED THAT MANY TIMES, HE BETTER CALL IT QUITS AND BE SINGLE.  IF HIS DAUGHTER DID THAT WHAT WOULD HE THINK THEN.  HIS WIFE KRISTINA SHOULD DIVORCE HIM AND GET OUT OF THE MARRIAGE.  IF HE HAS BEEN MARRIED THAT MANY TIMES, IT IS IN HIS BLOOD TO CHEAT.  GET RID OF HIM. 

 
February 4, 2008, 12:44 pm CST

Confirm it first, Sweetie

Quote From: kaykwilts

He was already married when she started having an affair with him. It's her fault she believed his cr@p that his marriage was on the rocks. Dr. Phil has said something in the past like if he'll cheat with you, he will cheat on you. I hope she learns her lesson and in the future only dates men who are clearly divorced.

She did not know he was married; he lied to her and said he was already separated..or divorced..from his wife. She also was very clear with him about not wanting to get involved with anyone who'd been married more than once, or had more than one child...and he lied to her about that, too because, he said, 'He didn't want to lose her.'

 

 But, I agree, that's something you should confirm BEFORE  you get into a relationship. 

 
February 4, 2008, 12:54 pm CST

she protects herselt

I just wanted to comment on the statement made by the wife, Sherry, who has many "friends with benefits".  She claims that she always protects herself when she is sleeping around.  I just wanted to point ou that condoms DO NOT  protect you from everything.  Herpes is transmitted from skin to skin contact.  Herpes is commonly found on men on the base of their genitals where it can not be covered up by a condom.  Further, the virus can be transmitted even when the person is not suffering from an outbreak.  Condoms are not the answer to safe sex!!!!!!
 
February 4, 2008, 12:55 pm CST

BEEN WITH 15 MEN----OH BROTHER

Being with 15 men that is bad.   Her hubby should just divorce her before she gives him some kind of sexual disease.   This lady does not know the meaning of marriage and she is commitng adultery.  None of these people on the show know the meaning of being married in the eyes of God.  This young lady better pick up her bible and start reading it.  Would she want her daughter to follow in her footsteps.   She is making herself look like a little tramp, but some day she will face Jesus face to face and  then she will be judged for her sins.   Also meeting men on the internet someday she is going to meet some nut and end up dead or worst.  There are a lot of nuts in the world.  This hubby of hers needs to GET RID OF HER.  Also not having sex in over a year, I would have went to and attorney and got a divorce a long time ago. GET AND ATTORNEY AND MAKE SURE YOU TAKE CARE OF THE CHILDREN AND NOT OUR WIFE. 
 
February 4, 2008, 12:56 pm CST

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Quote From: mentalpause1

Amen!  Why is it that people who cheat with a cheater think they won't be the next in line to be cheated upon?  Dr. Maya Angelou has a great saying, "when someone shows you who they are, believe them."  How desperate does someone have to be to agree to be involved with someone who's unavailable in the first place? 

 

Right. Dr Phil has had so many guests, in marriages that began as affairs, whining about infidelity. As you said, they're the next person in line. And, probably won't be the last. BTW, have you read I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings? I loved the part about the preacher "losing" his dentures when an excited worshipper slapped him on the back. I couldn't stop laughing.
 
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