Quote From: annef123 Truly amazing!! A free financial ride?? Who in their right mind would look at it this way?? As I said earlier you are not my trial and jury and in all reality I owe you no explanation. But let me tell you something that was not publicized that may make you understand my state of mind at the time (which will most likely be very doubtful as you are so sure I am such an evil person) The day this happened I had just returned from
the hospital as my four month daughter had severe pneumonia and I was breast feeding. So I had an ill child to top all of this but again you may think I am making excuses.
I am not going to try to make life look all rosy and try to justify my actions..........I made mistakes but by NO MEANS did I NOT try to protect MY child and since it was not in the way that some think it should have been done it was in the way that I felt had to be done at the moment. I had four children at home. And do remember there is alot of supressed memory here.
Heidi has been to counselors and therapists. We did go talk to military chaplains so it is not like this whole thing was shoved under the carpet.
"If you click on her profile you can see that she logged onto this site SPECIFICALLY to post on this
board, as well as she has never posted on the Dr. Phil site before."......this is very true as I have had better things to do and not found the need. But I did decide to sign onto here as I feel I have the right to speak my mind and there is alot that still the show will not let you know about.
"I am not going to try to make life look all rosy and try to justify my actions....."
What a STUPID statement since you did it before AND after you wrote that!
Supressed memory? No...it's called SELECTIVE memory! You 'remember' only what suits you to try and defend yourself!
Having a 4 month old in the hospital when this happened isn't an EXCUSE? PHULEEEZ!!!! What about when the baby was released or the following week? The following month? The following year? Fact is...YOU STAYED and kept your daughter hostage! You slept with the man that hurt your child! You allowed him to remain in your life for YOU. Where was your instinct/fear that he just mite do it again? Why weren't you hypersensitive to his EVERY move? You didn't know? I've seen barn yards with less poop!
Let's see..."alot that still the show will not let you know about". Know about WHAT?...MORE EXCUSES? Woman...you spew excuses that don't stand the test of PROTECTING YOUR DAUGHTER! They are ALL about protecting YOU!
It's all about YOU isn't it? Defending yourself and your LACK of action as a mother. Your body language and facial expressions spoke VOLUMES.
You 'hid' on these message boards as annef123 (=enough123) and posed as someone trying to 'defend' you. You blame the military. You blame circumstances. You blame your supposed 'breakdown'. YOU BLAME! WHEN will you stand up and take the blame YOU deserve? You didn't even admit that annef123 was YOU until enough of us here called you on it! What will it take for you to admit your role in the horror your daughter grew up with?
I don't give a rats ass what EXCUSES you use...Heidi is YOUR child and YOUR job was to PROTECT her! If the military couldn't/woudn't...why didn't you go OUTSIDE the military for help? There were choices to be made/avenues to try but you FAILED to do ALL you could for your child. And then you go on national television thinking we would PITY you? You blame Heidi for some of the choices SHE has made? Where did she learn to make bad choices SUSAN? The fact that you stayed with the creep proves to me that your number one priority was YOU. Now you get to live with the fact that he not only hurt Heidi, but other girls as well. Oh yeah, I forgot...you "didn't know about pedifiles" cuz you just crawled out from under a rock.
You are a SICK woman Susan but you have a lot of company. There are a lot of us out here that had SICK "mothers". Mothers that walked away and ignored what they SAW, mothers that blamed US, mothers that denied the truth, mothers that blamed/abused/tortured US for the evil perpetrated ON us. Giving birth does NOT make a mother...it comes from your soul. Do you have a soul Susan? HOW could you sit on that stage and continue to blame your DAUGHTER? I have a mother like you and I've had nothing to do with her for 30 years and am better off. I used to think she 'missed out' on a lot with her grandchildren and events in our lives but now I know she is too consumed with herself to care!
I pity you...but not for the reasons you mite think. I pity you because you are so shallow that you continue to defend yourself. We are not your judge and jury? YOU are the one that went on national television...that gave us the rite to be your 'judge and jury'.
Sunny
(Original Air Date: 02/13/08) When people think of sexual predators, they often envision a pervert wearing a trench coat walking the streets. But research shows that a family friend, helper or relative is often the person who victimizes innocent children. Heidi was sexually molested by her stepfather, John, for 12 years. Her mother, Susan, knew it was happening because she walked in on an attack when Heidi was 9, but she stayed with her husband for years after, even as the molestation continued. When Dr. Phil confronts Susan, will she apologize to her daughter? After two decades and years of mental anguish, will Heidi receive answers from her mother? The sparks fly as mother and daughter go head to head. Will they heal their wounds and reunite? Then, the man who Heidi accused of molesting her joins the show. Find out what he reveals and why Dr. Phil doesn't believe him. And, why does Heidi say she has more respect for her abuser than her mother? The twists and turns in this story will shock you. Share your thoughts, join the discussion.
