Topic : 07/24 Behind Closed Doors

i hope heidi doesn't allow this child molester near her kids.  i'm worried because she said she forgives him.  i've seen it before where people "forgive" their molester and then allow their children near the bad guy!

I too was molested from approximately age 9-10 by my real brother for years! I wont get graphic but no one seemed to heed my pleas for help. Wether I cried aloud to get attention drawn to my brother to get caught in the act (NO ONE would ever beleive me if I told), or wether I made loud noises to wake anyone up! My older sister slept in the top bunk and states she never saw a thing. How could she sleep through it when my father (sperm donor) would wake up downstairs and tell me to be quiet. I was threatend for years. I moved with my real father when I was approx. 8 years old. So "this" family was new to me. I was afraid to be thrown out. There is lot to this story but never thought to write doctor Phil. My father(sperm donor) molested me on two occasions. Once when I was 15, and then again when I was 16. I told my sperm donor of the molestation by my brother when he was going to let my brother move back into our home after we moved to another state. He and my step mother could not believe it and said they would never let him back in. That was not true a few weeks later he moved in. Yes he attempted to molest me again. I had no bedroom door. Where we lived before "I" bought a dead bolt lock for my bedroom door. He just climed over the partitioned wall or took the molding off of the door to get the door open. Anyways, I am a mother of a 17 year old and a 10 month old and one on the way. I would never let anyone hurt my children. I went through a lot growing up and had to learn the hard way that I am the only one who can control what happens to me. I am a foster parent for this reason. Children need a place to go anmd feel safe. You can not always pick your family. I do not beleive blood is thicker than water. As I stated there is a lot more detail to this story but you ge tthe gist of what I have written. It is amazing how much this happend back in the day. My third grade teacher stated at a visit in 2004 that she should have known with all the signs that I showed. I am 36 years old. To add to this and not to sound terrible and for lack of a better word..., I have always wondered what I  have done to deserve theses things to me. I am not a beautiful person by no means! I have wondered if I have F**** me on my forhead, (SORRY for the wording but this is how I feel). I was also at the young age of approx., 4-5 molested by a friends father. I went to see if she could play and he told me her and her mother went to the store and would be right back and I could wait. I did so. He then locked the door with a chain and attempted to make me give him oral sex. I cried and cried. For some reason he had to use the bathroom and thta is when I got a chair to the door and got the chain off and ran upstairs to my moms apartment. He almost caught me going up the stairs. I remember this vividly! I remember the police coming. However I learned he was never charged due to me not keeping my story straight. Out of everything that has happend this is what bothers me the most! I don't know any 4-5 year old that can tell a story the same way each time much less an adult. I just hope he has not violated anyone else!!! So to those f you out there that have been in this situation just have faith in yourself. You can do whatever you put your mind to. I had / have no family to turn to. If I can overcome and be somewhat successful on my own anyone can! This has been a tearful day (maybe because I am pregnant - hormones) with this story and then hearing the upcoming story of the alcoholic mother. I to ohave that. SHe is the child and I am the adult. She lives a  few days drive away. I am ready to give up on her to.

Dr. Phil

  I happened to be in the military in 1983 and served in Germany from 1984-1988 and I know that when a chain of command is notified of an incident as child molestation the chain of command WILL take action and send the family back to the United States but will force the soldier to forfiet all but $100 of thier paycheck to the spouse being sent back to the States.  I have seen this happen in other situations, the chain of commands primary goal is to prorect the family members.  If Hiedi's mother was telling the truth about notifying his chain of command he would have been relieved of his duties as a Military Policeman and put in the stockade until the investigation was complete and with medical evidence to boot he would have been discharged out of the military after serving time in Ft. Levenworth.

   I feel for Hiedi and as a father of 4 children, two being girls, that type of behavior NEVER entered my mind.  If I had found out that one of my children had been molested I would be serving time.