Topic : 07/21 Lies and Betrayal

Elizabeth, this show just aired in Australia yesterday. Matthew is probably one of the most ill and evil people that I've ever seen. I feel so sorry that this has happened to you. I hope that Randy and Rhonda have woken up to him; how sad that he's taken advantage of their vulnerability to worm his way into their lives. They are his next victims, I'm sure. I cannot believe how sick he is.

Try to forgive yourself. I imagine you're really beating yourself up for falling in love with this man, but we all make mistakes. But don't make another mistake and believe that he can be repaired - I fear that he's beyond help, and he's incredibly potentially dangerous. I would act to protect myself as though I assumed he was actively seeking to murder me and the kids if I were you; because unfortunately it wouldn't surprise me if this were true. I would fight him having unsupervised visitation with every fibre of my being. As long as he's walking the streets, I'm afraid that you and the kids are in danger.

Surround your beautiful girls with love and extended family. Don't bad-mouth Daddy; perhaps explain that he's just too sick to see them, but always be respectful when referring to him. And get whatever help you need to recover from this great tragedy that has befallen you; you certainly didn't deserve it. I'm so glad that you have your family supporting you; they seemed like they were a great help to you.

Warmest love and hugs to you and your daughters. You've gotten out alive; now it's time to keep all three of you alive, and work on rebuilding a new life in which Matthew plays as small a role as possible (within the confines of the law).

My husband is the same way.

He is nothing as he pretended to be before we married.

Now 6 years later...and down to my last $$. Yet he is still telling people he is working making all kinds of money.

The whole marriage I have only been out of work for a total of 3 months.

He has not worked a total of two..and most of his income was wasted in a bar.

Your story is pretty much my story.  Besides the trust, betrayal, he also left me holding the bills and losing money I invested in his business (I thought I was being supportive wife).  When  I started questioning him on his lies he started planning his next victim.  Suspected he was cheating, asked him to leave.  In 2 months he was living with another woman-who didn't even know he was married until 3 months later after they were "engaged,"someone told her he was still married (neither of us had filed for divorce)-she decided to "keep" him despite the deception.; I filed for divorce.  He lies that I was abusive with him and children were taken into protective custody,etc.  He had told lies, to ,me, about his previous 2 wives. He's 39 and on his 4th marriage. 

Then I found the books "The Sociopath Next Door" and "Women who love sociopaths" (dumb name, good book.  It should be "Women victimized by sociopaths.")  Also found great website, www.lovefraud.com and started the journey back to myself. It has taken close to a year to get through this and believe in myself again.  I'm not a stupid woman, but I was vulnerable, too trusting, married too soon (wihin 10 months of meeting him, at his insistence), didn't check his background, and ignored all the "red flags."  Run, don't walk.  Sociopaths don't change.

I feel sorry for Elizabeth too. I too was a victim of meeting someone who turned out to be everything he made himself out to be. In results to that I have lost my home and finally got away from all the mental abuse he put me through. Right now I face foreclosure because of the love is blind type of crap.Whe the threat of someone going to kill you if they don't get their own way is a very strong clue to get ta hell out of there. So I packed up my son and my dog and got out of there. I still know he is using drugs because he don't pay his bills when this is going on. It is a long complicated situtation and if there was anything I could do to finally stop him I would do it. I only pray for him. That is about all I can do. Don't let the lies catch up with you Elizabeth. Always stay one step ahead of them. Once you are with someone that long you learn what their next step is before they even do lol. I am having to start all over again and have great friends so we are not totally homeless. I am just losing a home and my son had to start in a new school in his senior year. My son was not happy but he is safe from all that abuse. I will pray for you too elizabeth. Being with people like that is not ever easy to deal with. Take Care and God Bless Sassyrm

I have not seen this show, but did read all the transcripts, and wow.. Now, one of three things will happen, he will either "start to get it right" and come clean. Or he will resort in getting even with all, which is a very scary scenario...remember Scott Peterson (same personality disorder as this fella). Or 3. He will leave the scene and continue his scam in new waters. God Bless his wife, children and his Mother, as they need it.

We are seeing more and more of these types.. Be careful who you get close to, do your homework!