Topic : 07/21 Lies and Betrayal

I wish Elizabeth and her family the best.  Matthew is nothing but a con-man and a liar.  I just wanted to come through the tv and tell him that he is so full of bologna!!!  I hope the family he was staying with kick him to the curb.  I don't believe that he has cancer at all! What a fraud!

I totally agree!  Internet dating is too scary, too loose and too dangerous! It's so easy to lie....and, if you're smart, (but you insist on using the Net to find someone anyway), then be smart enough to at least use that same Internet to check them out!

As for Elizabeth being dumb enough to believe that lost house keys bull crap when they took that trip to Florida....... duh, duh, DUH!!

By the way....when loser Matt made that statement that his children were "dead" to him and he wouldn't see them anymore, I cheered! What child needs an alcoholic sociopath in their life? I mean, he decided to give them away like puppies to the naive people who are presently taking care of him.....and those people are also stupid enough to believe that the court would just blithely hand the kids over to strangers when their father dies (which is a load of crap; he may die of alcoholism, but I doubt he is telling the truth about having cancer right now) when their mother is still alive and well! Again: DUH! I doubt that couple has any motivation other than the money they think they will get "when Matt dies".

Nothing good can come to you when you're motivated by greed.

WHEN will common sense make a comeback?

Wow, what a liar and con-man that Matthew is. I wanted Dr. Phil to ask Randy and his wife (the couple who took Matthew in) what they think of Matthew saying his "children we're dead to him."  Having just lost a son themselves I don't think that is something they would like to hear their "friend" say. I think Matthew is a socio-path using Randy and his wife to get lawyers and others to think he's a decent, nice and credible person. He may have even pre-thought and manipulated them through thisa entire sham friendship. I think they were nice people who we're so hurting they let their guard down and let this con-man into their lives.

And Letting the man in their bed is a big no-no and they should put a stop to that. He's not their child and furthermore even if he we're, he's a grown man. I wanted to say, "Oh my God woman haven't you ever read

anything about Freud"?! How does that make her feel that she let a man in her and her husband's bed who isn't even dying? Doesn't she know how bad that looks to other people? I don't blame Matthew's wife for thinking there was something sexual going on. However, I do believe Dr. Phil is right and there wasn't really anything like that going on. Did anyone believe Michael Jackson when he said nothing was going on when he slept with boys unrelated to him? But that's a whole different subject. Anyway, those are my thoughts  on today's show which I know was a rerun but I didn't catch it the first time. I hope Dr. Phil follow's up on this show and I hope Matthew comes to his senses and tells the truth for his children's sake!

Why, oh why are so many women so easily led straight into hell by these sociopathic men??

Reading this message board, reading all the stories from these women sickens me, and infuriates me at the same time! If you don't do your homework and investigate any and all men who attempt to come into your lives, then you deserve whatever you get! No one is going to protect you but yourself. Keep these jerks away from you...and especially your children....until you use every available method to check them out! Use the same Internet you probably used to find these men to find out the information you need. It's there...you just have to be persistent in finding it.

Ask to see their driver's license and do a NATIONWIDE back ground check using that information. If something that's even a little bit off comes up, don't allow the guy to gloss over it and use excuses to twist it around.....know that if he lies about one thing, he will lie about other things.  Don't forget to check sex offenders websites, especially if you have children....predators love desperate single mothers and they have all kinds of devious ways to get next to you and then the kids.

Check out where he says he works; verify it.  Verify where he says he lives by doing a car license tag check. You can access utility records to see whose name they are in...and, by the way, do this without alerting him first, because if he's lying about where he lives and he knows you're going to check, he will figure out another lie to cover his a**.  This information is public, by the way, so you have every right to look it up.

If you have access to their social security number, even better.....with that information you can find out any criminal history they may have...and if the name doesn't match the number,  you know  you're in the path of danger. (BEFORE YOU FREAK OUT ABOUT THE SOCIAL SECURITY THING, LET ME CLARIFY THAT YOU ONLY HAVE THE RIGHT TO ASK THAT IF YOU ARE SO INVOLVED WITH THIS MAN THAT YOU ARE TALKING ABOUT OR PLANNING TO MARRY, OR ARE LETTING HIM MOVE IN WITH YOU! DO THIS BEFORE YOU TAKE EITHER OF THOSE STEPS......and, by the way, if you've gone that far, have you met his family? If not, that's a red flag! Personally, if he told me he didn't have any family because  they are deceased, I'd check out death records to verify that, too!)

Don't accept ANYTHING they tell you at face value. If they act insulted, run. Those who have nothing to hide, hide nothing.  

Sorry if you think this is being paranoid....better that than being gullible, naive and ignorant, and putting yourself and your kids in danger.

And one more red flag: Do NOT allow any man to rush you into marriage or living together! That's a prime sign that something isn't right. You cannot fall in genuine love with anyone within a few weeks or months......you can't know someone in that amount of time, and you can't fall in love with what you don't know.  Besides, if it is genuine, both of you should be willing to give it some time to be sure, and to do it right.  And, for God's sake, don't be stupid enough to get pregnant and put yourself in a desperate position!!

Common sense, ladies....just common sense. Use it!

HAS THERE BEEN AN UPDATE ON ALL OF THIS,,,WOULD LIKE TO KNOW IF THOSE PEOPLE WERE STILL BELIEVING HIM AND IF HES STILL LYING,,,

SHELLY

This story is definitely familiar to me.  I actually met someone and became friends for about 5 years till we decided to start dating.  I really thought he was a good man, a level minded person.  That is till the day we found out we were pregnant.  It was a complete 360, everything I had known about him came up and was a lie.  After I had my beautiful daughter I started finding out slowly but surely the truth about him and his family.  I had never met his family all the years of knowing him, he told me his mother was dead and he wasn't close to anyone because his family was never good to him.  Well I ended up getting in touch with a sister and the truth came out, his mother was alive and the family actually feared him and what he's capable of.  I decided to fight for full custody of our child due to his unstable life and for the safety of our child.

During our court hearing which are still ongoing he has made nurmerous false claims, he has claimed that certain family members that help me with my daughter have been sexually explicit, he has claimed that I am a drug dealer, he claimed that I had an affair with him and I was due to get married, I can go on and on.  The bottom line is there needs to be one sane parent and not to drop to the others level. My daughter will always come first.  It's hard for me to understand how some women are in these situations, they need to love themselves and understand that this is not normal and your child needs to come before anything.

The only question that I have for Elizabeth is if you already had one child what were you doing with someone you met on the internet, I would have been scared for the child I already had at the time bringing a STRANGER in his life.  Married 3 1/2 months later is ridiculous to me, people are married a life time and don't know who they sleep with.  I think single mothers really need to be more careful who they date and for how long.  As a single parent there is no way in hell I would bring someone who I just met around my daughter, bottom line is you don't know the person.  What's done is done but I hope other single parents read this story and learn from it, always keep your child's best interest your top priority.