Topic : 07/16 Bully Husband

hello there..I am really and truthly understand feeling of this woman.  because my husband did same things with me..after having baby I oput on weight...and I was around 230 pound but I am 5'10'' . I was big   but not the most ugly. Now I am weighting 177 and I am still not good enoght for him.

I am modeling sometimes. And for him it not enoght to acceped me as a good looking woman . I am not perfect. But I dont think I should to have a bonus from him. We never was closer seance I get pregnant. So...I dont think something really wrong with me or with this woman on Dr.Phill show.he has big problem. So dear..Be smart. And movied on. Make yourself happy. Make yourself healthy. Dont think somebody else can do it for you. Just you. and this is your life. Sorry for my English!

I am from Ukraine. But now I am in Canada! Good luck!

You think you love your husband??? Don't kid yourself any longer.  I was married to an emotional abuser and used excuses to stay together.  Stayed for 18 miserable years and finally, with counselling, got a divorce.  Don't wait that long.  And don't use your children as an excuse.  They are only seeing a very negative way to behave.  Dump him now.  That reality might help him change but don't count on it.  Does he drink?  Use drugs?  Watch for those signs.  And if you see them, RUN......

Is she freakin' nuts???  Get out, and get out now.  Don't even think about it.  Her kids deserve better than that, and more importantly, so does she.

I hope Dr Phi "suggests" to her that she run!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

To all the responders who haven't even seen the show yet, it doesn't get any better than the trailer. For I was there to experience the pain of karen (my wife). I had no idea I was that bad, for people don't video tape their lives, and go over them at night and see their mistakes and correct them the next day. I would like to apoligize to Karen and let you know that every action has a reaction, and no one knows what we are really going through in our lives, but that is no excuse for the way I have treated her or other people in my life. We are currently "BOTH" getting help, thanks to Dr. Phil and his wonderful staff. And as time goes on hopefully we can fix our marriage, but it will take some time, and alot of apologies from me. Please give us a chance to heal instead of throwing salt on the wounds. For now  " I " know how she feels after reading your comments.

                                 Ashamed

Karen and her children. Obviously Rick has shredded Karen's self esteem to the point that she feels that she is not good enough to be loved. She is saying she has to stay for the children but she is really afraid to leave.  He has made her believe she is all those terrible things he says to her. I also think he is sabotaging her when she tries to lose weight too. The only reason she should lose weight is for health reasons but as long as Rick belittles her she will probably not be able to. I think Karen is a beautiful lady and she truly does need to get help in rebuilding her self esteem.

She needs to leave him for her and the children's sakes. It is not healthy and is actually child abuse to her children as well as abusive to her. The children will start to bully others as this is what they are learning is "normal". Get them out before it damages them any more than it already has!!!!

Rick has major self esteem issues. If he didn't he wouldn't bully and abuse his wife. A healthy well adjusted man would treasure his wife and treat her with love and respect. He would want to do whatever it took to protect his family and make them feel safe and secure. He is very insecure and he makes himself feel more secure by belittling others. I doubt if he acts that way with people who have lots of confidence. Rick is not capable of love since he probably doesn't love himself so can't love anyone else. He needs professional help and I hope he gets it for everyone's sake.