Topic : 07/16 Bully Husband

Besides all his other faults, it is my belief that this bully is unable to perform sexually, thus the excuses that he won't have sex with her until she is under 200 pounds. She did lose to under 200 pounds, and he's still not having sex with her. Bet you my next paycheck that he can't perform sexually! What a coverup. What a loser!.

Great show Dr. Phil.  What a shocking turn of the tables for the husband.  I had to laugh when he stated he came on the show to "help" his wife then realizing they were there because of him.    His reasons for staying are all so wrong.   If he had any respect at all for anyone besides himself, he should divorce her and give her a chance of finding someone that loves her for who she is.

I was so angry at this man it took all my strength not to hurl my mug of tea at the TV. But I was impressed with Dr. Phil's analysis of this man as being narcissistic. My father in law has Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). This is a mental illness whereby someone needs to delude themselves 24/7, to puff themselves up, or else they may commit suicide. There's no reasoning with someone with this disorder, for their brain's genuinely screw up reality in their favor. This is why the man could so boldly declare all the awful things he'd done to his wife without a hint of contrition or remorse. His brain justified the things he had said & done, to match up with his version of reality. It was only as the show progressed & he realized that he wasn't in favor with the audience or Dr Phil that he showed any kind of remorse. But it wasn't true remorse. The important thing in his mind is to be liked & respected & he will automatically say what he has to. If he can't get away with saying certain things, he'll say something else. People with NPD are arrogant & will only associate with people they believe "worthy" of them, yet like Dr Phil pointed out, at the root of this condition is total, complete insecurity. My father in law abuses me when I'm around him. He's endangered my life, yelled at me in restaurants, belittled me, put me down repeatedly. When my husband confronted him my FIL refused to apologize & even went so far as to say that the events didn't even happen! He's a very sick man. My husband & I haven't visited with him now in almost a year & I dont care if I ever see him again. Here's the punch line: my father in law is....a psychologist! So be careful who your mental health providers are. Check their background if possible.

Karen,

I was watching the show today and thought I could be looking in the mirror 10 years ago.  Please understand that I am not a proponent of divorce.  You look so beaten down, and I can imagine how you feel because that is how I felt when I was married.

YOU can get out and be okay!!  There was a time when I believed (because I had been told so often) that I couldn't manage my children without him.  He was WRONG!!!  My children and I are better off today because I got myself un-isolated (like Dr. Phil suggested) and realized that I was a good, competent, capable person.  If he isn't willing to change, you owe it to yourself and your children to survive and thrive without him.

It isn't easy.  5 years later I am still working part time and going back to school to get a degree so that I can  provide for them, but all of us are doing great.  At the end of the day, I can take a deep breath and be out from under the wrath that I lived with for so long.  If he can't or won't change, there is still hope!