Topic : 07/16 Bully Husband

WOW, what a horrible show. I felt degraded just listening to his bull****! What a ridiculous person!!! Its SOOO sad that he is the way that he is! Karen, you are NOT doing your kids any favours by staying, believe me! Do you want your girls to grow up and get married to an abuser??? Because right now the message that you and your husband are sending to your girls is that- this is how a marriage is supposed to work! Do you really want them to grow up and allow themselves to be treated the same way your husband is treating you- possibly even worse?

I hope you understand that I feel horrible that your husband has treated you this way! But now, you need to take back control and move on! Move on fast and hard. Don't look back, be a mother and stand strong and PROUD in your decisions!! I would move out now, and if Rick fixes himself then I would only CONSIDER not taking full custody. But since I really cannot see him changing, please GET OUT NOW! Your children deserve to be raised in a HEALTHY family, even if that family only consists of a mother. Believe me its much healthier then being raised by an abuser.. who guanteeed will begin abusing them and continue until they run away.

Unfortunatly they will also grow up blaming you if you don't do something to protect them. Believe me, you need to get a plan and get out. Get help call up old friends, call on the kindness of others to help you get out and stay out !!!

I will keep you in my prayers, you are a loving, beautiful, kind, caring women who deserves to be treated as such!! Believe that, believe me, I won't give you bullshit, only truth.

You are where you are because you don't know what else to do, but now you do, now you have Dr. Phil on your side.. enlist his help. He will help you!

Sincerely,

sabrina

It's easy for all of us to sit and say she needs to get a back bone, but trust me when there is an abuser involved it's not all that easy. Things start out so small and simple and than it grows into much bigger issues. By the time it grows into the bigger issue the abuser has you right where they want you and that is you with no self esteem, self worth, you feel stupid or not important enough. The abuser takes away such a big part of you it's hard to stand up to them. So cut her some slack because he is the idiot that needs help! He is an abuser all the way, he is a creep, and he doesn't deserve to have a woman or children in his life. He has even involved his innocent children to be apart of his self indulging of being so over abusive to his wife. I would like to take this so called man and tie him to a tree and beat him with a baseball bat, but that wouldn't be very Christian would it?

Rick needs to be throttled.  I cannot believe that he lives in SUCH unreality as to seemingly have NO CLUE that there is anything wrong with his attitude towards his wife.  I wanted to wring his bloody neck, the way he answered Dr. Phil as if he was completely clueless.  His poor wife acts like a zombie at this point!!  I would drop kick him to the moon.  And it just made me laugh, Dr. Phil was being SO sarcastic with him, and he didn't even seem to notice because he is so "fricken" pathetic.  I mean, come on - who would ever put up with him?  I challenge any REAL woman out there!!  If he ever leaves his wife and is "available" - STEER clear ladies!!!!!!!  unless your a total wussssssssssssss!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! that enjoys abuse (and whoever he had his little fling with - pathetic woman)!

You have apparently never been in this type of abusive relationship. It's not a matter of getting a backbone - she has that unfortunately it's been beaten.  Have you ever tried to walk on a broken leg? 

I hope she seriously follows thru with the counseling offered by Dr. Phil.  It's the first step to a new life for her and her children.