Topic : 07/16 Bully Husband

I had never registered for this message board either.. and like you, I had to vent.

I really hope Karen reads these.

Dear Dr. Phil

I am seathing,  I cant beleive that this man who is a fat pig on his own is spending his wife's life tearing her about mentally to make himself feel better.  I think he honestly hates how big he is enough that he treats her like crap to make himself feel better about who he is.  As far as the affair is concern, he needed that also to make himself feel better because he needed the attention knowing he was fat and disgusting and thought if he could get attention from other women then maybe he was not as bad off as he feels.

Lets face it he has badgered her to the point that she feels like she is worthless.   I think if she were to walk away from this *** he would be on his own to clean and take care of the kids and she could still have a good portion of his money.   The kids will see a better life for them as their mother will be happier and healthier.    I would love to have at this idiot and set him straight.   He is sick and needs alot of help.

Wendy

I have never written in before but I just had to do it this time!

I can't believe you were so calm with this guy!  This woman and her two daughters are being ABUSED!  Would you have given her the same advice (at the end of the show, you offered to provide counseling), if she was sitting there next to you with broken bones, bruises and black eyes? 

I can't believe that you didn't tell this guy - at the beginning of the show - that he doesn't deserve this beautiful woman or their daughters.  I can't believe that you didn't tell her that she is in danger and that she needs to take those two precious daughters, and her precious, beautiful self out of that situation, kick him to the curb and THEN get counseling for herself and her daughters.  THEY SHOULD NOT BE MARRIED!

I'm very concerned for Karen and her daughters.  This man could snap at any moment and become very abusive - physically.  They are in danger and he should be kept away from them.  I speak from experience as I was married to someone just like him.  My husband started with verbal and emotional abuse and eventually became physically abusive, to the point that he tried to kill me. 

Please make sure she and her daughters are safe,  that they get the help they need to leave this man and NEVER go back to him. 

I have so much more to say but I'll stop here! 

I love you Dr. Phil!  But this time I think you were WRONG in the way you handled this situation.

Karen...... I have lived with an abuser before....... and my father was an abuser so...... believe me do not stay for the kids sake......... he is already abusing them.......... 

You are a beautiful woman and can do much better than him......... even if it is alone............... you would be better off...............

Do not allow him to keep treating you this way.......... He is not Prince Charming in anyway and once he sees that you are probably the best thing he had.......... he will be sorry......... What he puts out  he will get back double...........................

Dr. Phil says frequently "do you really think what your fighting about is really the problem?" There is always a deeper issue. Always and I do not in any way think this guy is worth fighting for. I also think she is huge part of the problem and shouldn't have got a pass. She is allowing her daughter To be raised by this fool so she is not alone. Selfish selfish, selfish.

But... I am also tired that the "source" of the problem isn't shared between the two.  I have seen on the show many times a man upset because of weight gain after babies, laziness regarding the cleanliness of the home or child care. And Dr. Phil allows the women to pretty much get away with it. Getting fat and staying fat and unattractive because you had children is unacceptable. And is also a reflection on your self worth, dedication for your husband, marriage and affects your children.  

I have many friends who after having babies become lazy and make excuses for what it has done to their marriage and sex life.  We all need to be accountable For our actions, and when not being treated with dignity and respect pick your happy butt up and walk away. Anyone can do it, kids, no kids, you can do it.

DeeDee

Karen,

After watching the show today I was outraged on how long you have put up with this guy. I was in a 15 year marriage with a similar kind of jerk. He would call me fat and ugly as well, thought he was "all that" and even cheated on me (too many to count) didn't find this out till we divorced. He ended up with my daughters best friends' mother and as of today he is currently married to her (3 marriage for him). I lived with low self-esteem for so long,and low self worth but belive me when I say YOU CAN GAIN IT BACK. It will be a tough battle thou but there is a light at the end of the tunnel that you are in. NO ONE HAS THE RIGHT TO TREAT ANOTHER HUMAN BEING THE WAY YOU ARE TREATED. I feel for your children as well as they are victims in all of this. They (even thou they are small) will remember how there daddy treated there mommy. You might think about some type of counciling for them too. God Bless you and your children hope you find the peace you all need.