Topic : 07/16 Bully Husband

Quote From: marys0054

I did not get to see the first airing and glad this was on again. One of the wives friends commented that this is a wife that is kind and good to her bully husband despite this. I can only hope he saw how wrong he was and changed or she left. I grew up seeing my mother treated like this, and still do in more suttle ways. The list of the results of emotional abuse are issues that I still struggle with. I had promised myself I would never have a marriage like my mother...you guessed it, I married one just like "dear old dad." But, when I finally became aware and saw how my children were suffering I ended it. My regret is I do not have the physical and emotional strength to protect my mother from this now at the age of 76 years and trying to recover from an MVA. My father and a brother who is like him (knows he is always right) are successfully isolating her and working to see that his (father's) agenda is followed and that people do not listen to what my mother wants. She is awake now and able to make her own decisions if someone makes an effort to listen.  I suffer from guilt that I did not get out soon enough from my marriage, or that I did not keep my children and myself in long term therapy. I just do not know where the line between genetics and environment changes. Now, I have one adult child (the older) who is possibly too much like me and one adult child (the younger) that is emotionally abusive as a means of controlling someone. The younger is too the point that because I try to do the parent thing has threatened me and finally has said you are not my mom any more. Do not call me, see me, or text me. Fortunately, I have an emotionally supportive, kind husband that loves me for me, so I still have a family, as well as good friends. The sad thing is that my mother, one of the kindest and most generous people you could ever know, is the one that suffers.