Topic : 06/05 Family Court Battles

Edie,

Thank you so much for your lovely and touching message.  I AM SO SORRY TO HEAR ABOUT YOUR SITUATION WITH YOUR GRANDCHILDREN.  How in the world did he get an EPO against you when you were the only stabilizing force in the children’s lives?  What was wrong with that Judge???

Usually once a child dies their parents DO have rights to see the grandchildren, however, since her husband is in such a horrible state emotionally, I cannot understand why the Court would not grant you some type of right to at least visit with them, especially since you raised your grandson for 7 years.  Kentucky seems to be worse than Pennsylvania that way.  At least here in Pennsylvania, if a child dies or is incarcerated the grandparent CAN get rights to visit, just not as long as both natural parents are alive and just say that they don’t want you to see the kids. 

I think this is so backwards.  As Dr. Phil says, there is no purer love than a grandparents love.  Granted, the woman (Rita) on the show clearly did have problems of her own, but I know that I have abided by ever request my daughter has made and stuck to every boundary she has set.  It is just her anger at me that is causing this – and the anger goes back 20 years.  She just refuses to get help.  I only wish she had agreed to be on the Show on Thursday, but she came up with a number of excuses to the producer, including that her husband couldn’t be on the show because of his job (well they could have disguised him as they have done before).  My daughter, unfortunately, has been offered help through various sources and just keeps refusing it.  AND SHE IS THE ONE WHO ORIGINALLY ASKED ME TO WRITE IN TO DR. PHIL.  Now she is blaming me for having them contact her.  This is how sick she is.  No matter what, everything is “my fault”.  I pray for her all the time that she finds some peace.

I will keep you and your grandchildren in my prayers and hopefully some day soon things will turn around for you.  You can check out my diaries in the “Shared Diary Section” – Titled:  I Know Life Isn’t Fair.....but HELP STOP THIS FAMILY FEUD”.  I have hidden my diary entries since September when I first started writing, but the new diary I started will continue to have some discussion of my depression of not seeing the children and being worried about their welfare.

I truly am sorry for you and wish there was something that I could do to help you out, as I’m sure many do.  But I will add you to my prayers and keep up with your writings and entries as much as possible.  I’m on the Dr. Phil Site usually every day.

God bless you and your family, and thank you so much for taking the time to write me.

Rita KNEW what she was doing when she decided to date a BOY that her daughter was interested in.  She could control that, it was an intentional slap in the face to her daughter!  Rita was already MARRIED to Lisa's father, which was a double sting.  Face it,  Rita is a controlling byotch!

Rita could also control FILING the lawsuits in the first place- She knew perfectly well that it would ruin her daughters finances. She just flat out didn't care about Lisa or even Koal (who she fought so hard to see in the 1st place), or the rest of her grandkids living under a bridge, as long as SHE won. 

Rita doesn't care who she hurts as long as she's in control.  I had a grandmother from hell, too.  I never wanted to have a relationship with her,b/c everytime I saw her coming, I thought to myself  "what does she want from me now?"   The courts should not force a relationship with an abusive grandparent, and they should not have rights to the grandchildren (priveleges,yet, RIGHTS, no).

I'm sorry you had to go through such an adult issue as a child, and your right cole who was on the show should not have to face this issue either. It's like we live in the Hitler  times and the goverment tells good parents how to raise there children.

I think Dr.phil should address  the issues with the parents and stepfather,  without big mouth Rita. Dr.PHil help get this family an attorney, maybe one out there will volunteer some time to help. This young man should have some rights.

A child group or agency that protect the rights of children should step in and help. Dr. Phil don't let this just go, what will you do to help the boy? There is a boy here being hurt and I know Dr.PHil see's this woman has some real mental problems or maybe she doesn't and she just likes to hurt people. I seen no love her eyes just pure coldness, what is wrong with this court system this child has been dragged through.

Grandparents rights are for real grandparents and you don't say I want one grandchild and forget the rest!

What if someone did this to one of Dr.Phil children and his grandkids, if I was the mother I would keep contacting the media until someone stepped up to the plate. GO MO Go DAD Go Stepdad, the grandma needs to think about Cole and not herself.

I think someone should print out the message board comments and send it to the judge with a tape of the show, most say CRAZY Grandma. And Rita if your reading this get some help and maybe some of your relatives may forgive you.

I agree but I'm sure the grandma would have them arrested for breaking the order. She don't care about the boy or his mother only herself. I can't image having lossing everything due to my mothers actions, if the family has nothing then the children have nothing.

Dr. Phil are you going to do anything for this family? They need legal advise, I'm sure attorney's watch the show don't any of them want to help this little boy. Without an attorney they won't end this thing. An attorney should request Rita have a psychological evalvation and soon.

Dr. Phil what about agencies for childrens rights or getting the boy an attorney, you must know someone. you give help all the time but not this family or the boy, why? This boy needs his own attorney that will make this go away, a really mean one.

I think Rita has much more in her closet and i think she slanders anyone who won't do exactly what she says, Rita's puppy as the father said I think.

Drphil Drphil Drphil. you know a liar when you see one, help resolve there present and the future will be great. Please from a loyal viewer. If the mother is reading these, Cole is a fighter like you and no wicked grandma can pull you apart, don't let her control your life that's what she wants. She looked mean and on a war path to getting her own way.

Hello,

The lady who writes about Lisa's kids running the neighbor is a complete liar, and you know liar's stick together, maybe that's why she liked Rita. I know the family from sports events and drive by there home offen to see a friend in that area.

Lisa is the only mom I EVER see out in the middle of the street playing baseball with her kids and even pitching. I can drive by leaving my friends house an hour later and there's Lisa running the bases.

Lisa truly loves her children from what I have witnessed, I recently spoke with Lisa about the show and wanted to tell her that everyone I had talked to support her, so I took that moment to reach out to her and I seen the pain in her face.

I also had seen this posting and so I asked her, nosey me, "on the show Rita said something about you all living together"

and this is what she said:

What Lisa told me is she lived with  Rita the end of 1995 for less then one year and only had Cole, her others kids were not born yet. She also said she was rarely home and that it didn't work out, so Rita kicked her and cole out.

I can tell you Lisa's children do no run the neighborhood and when I see all the kids there playing with many neighborhood kids and not after dark.

I don't know Lisa that well but I see her at baseball, football with her boys and she is the loudest yelling "that's my boy" it really hurts my heart that this lovely family is being destroy like this and why?

I hope Dr.phil will help this family and the neighbor or who ever posted that nasty lie about Lisa and her children should be ashame of herself.  Neighbor you bought yourself down to Rita level, maybe you should call Rita and leave your children with her. Butt OUT neighbor and maybe you have your own kids to care for and quit causing trouble for others.

I also heard mention of the family car, my understanding is they used they home equity for lawyer fee's, the family has 3 children to taxi around it's seems to me your really bored or really nosey.

narcissist, in that she has no regard for other people's feelings.  A narcissist, is too self centered to care about anyone but themselves they are incapable of successfully having meaningful relationships with anyone (including thier own children).  I was so hoping that Dr. Phil would have picked-up on this because this disorder is real for many people and the poor souls that are in the path of a narcissist will spend the rest of their lives being perplexed by these totally unreasonable people, until they are able to label these people and begin to understandy why they do the insane things that they do.  It is not until that knowledge and understanding is obtained that the healing can truly begin. 

Look up Narcissistic  Personality Disorder, there are several books on it also you can find info on the internet.  

I'm a dad and I have two kids, did you see the show? I watched with my wife and couldn't believe what I was hearing. This Rita has major problems with many family members. She even called her grandson Cole a liar, he looked truthful to me.

This Rita levy bank account and drove her daughter into bankruptcy, tells people she mental and a drug addict, the brother Sean calls the sister Bitc***** and has anyone questioned why the step grandfather was not there? This supposed grandma Rita even said something about having her grandson in her bed?

It's sound like this mom is doing everything she can to keep her family away from this so called grandma. In this case dad and stepdad plus mom say the same thing, grandma is not good for Cole.

Let it Go!!!!!! and then what, her own mother slanders her and the end of the show comment, OH Hellllllll No. Not all people are good because they are mothers, dad's or grandma's.

Shame on the mother Lisa, are your crazy, no one talks to this grandma and why. Grandma blames everything on the daughter. I think mom and Cole would be best as far away from this grandma as possible. Forgive Forgive Forgive this family has started over twice accorrding to show, NO WAY family fight this and fight hard with everything you got, if everyone out there can't see this grandma is a big fat liar then you are not a good judge of chacter, speaking of Judges, what is the Hellllllllllll is wrong with this Judge? This law sucks and I would hate my parents if they ever did this to my family and I hope this so called grandma gets the same treatment from everyone she has screwed.  

The mother is protecting her boy, who knows what lies this grandmother told the court to get her way. Look on stage for less then one hour and she told one lie after another, Narcissist.

This lady is a real mother doing what she has to do at any cost, her son did get to tell the world how he felt

Dr.Phil could help this mother out if he really cares about the boy.

I would guess if this was to end tomorrow this mother in one year would be happy, back on her feet and living life as she should. This mother wants to control her daughter and she is willing to beat the up to do that, she don't love that boy or she would stop pounding her daughter into the mud. If she hates the daughter she hates the grandson.

If a mother fights for her boy then she is not an adult? I seen all three parents fighting, just the grandma wouldn't shut up and let anyone else speak even Dr. Phil.

Dr. Phil save this boy and keep him out of grandmas bed, did anyone else hear that?

The courts have gone to far and grandma has tooooooooo