Topic : 06/05 Family Court Battles

I'm sorry, but this grandmother is really a bitch from hell.  I never feel this way about people at all, but she is so self righteous and selfish.  She blames EVERYBODY for what they do wrong, but NEVER accepting any repsonsibility for her own actions.  She can stand her ground and assume all the things her daughter is telling her grandson, but she will not admit anything she said to anyone else.  She hasn't agreed to anything her daughter and grandson said that she said.  To me, if my grandmother told me something and I brought it to her attention later and she tells me that she never said that I wouldn't want to spend time with her either.  That just tells me that she's calling me a liar.  Rita IS a control freak and she won't admit it.  She's too busy blaming everone else for their mistakes and never taking responsibility for her own mistakes.......as if she's perfect.  I know how Koal feels.  My mom does the same thing to me.  My mom and dad is divorced and she puts me in the middle all the time.  "Ask your dad for this, ask your dad to do this...." I'm like "why don't you ask him yourself?"  My mom is also a control freak.  She tells me how to spend my money, how I should use my time, where I can and can't go. She's been doing that all my life and she tells me when I'm 18 I'm on my own, but I'm 35 and she still tries to control me.

Koal, being in the middle of all of this is hurting him.  All this fighting is leaving him a perfect example of how you want him to be when he grows up.  If that's not what you want then change your attitudes and deal with the fact that you're not only hurting each other.  You're hurting Koal too.

Grandma Rita needs to stop assuming everything.  If Koal says he doesn't want to be around you.....HE DOESN'T WANT TO BE AROUND YOU!!!  It's not because of what mommy and daddy said.  Even if it is what mommy and daddy said, if it's true he'll believe it.  And if he believes it you should listen.

Each person has their own personality, their own desires, their own dreams that they want to pursue.  Why do try to destroy other people's lives by controlling them thinking it's the best thing for them, but when you try to tell them something they will say that it's not the best thing for them.  Thell me....how do you know what's best for you but other people don't know what's best for them.  Controlling people need to put themselves out of other people's way.  You want to be controlling....control you cat or your dog. 

I have a 2 1/2 year old grandson who I haven't seen since Sept. (his birthday). We have 9 Christmas presents sitting in our living room waiting to see him. Our son is not divorced from his wife and says he is trying, but we don't think he really wants it. The reason for the separation is because of a problem with my son's oldest child. His wife says this child is mentally disturbed and had him sent to a luck down children's hospital, but the hospital found nothing wrong with the child except depression. They said it was "family dynamics" and ask that step mom leave until more counseling could be done. Mom went to one family counseling session and decided it was not for her. My grandson is still in counseling because of the "family dynamics", but Mom took my youngest grandson and went to her family's home town 2 1/2 hours away. She will not let my son bring the child to his house or our house or to McDonalds’ in her area without her. I want to go to her house, but my husband is angry with her and will not go near her. We could fight to see our grandchild, but after seeing him for his birthday, we feel that he is afraid of us. (Maybe because if his mother, we don’t know) But the fact remains that he was afraid of us for some reason and he wasn’t the last time we had seen him before the separation. If we force it, he could be traumatize by it. WE DON’T WANT TO HURT OUR GRANDCHILD, BUT WE DON’T KNOW WHAT ELSE WE COULD DO TO SEE HIM AND NOT TRAUMATIZE HIM. My son was kept from seeing his son for 5 months, but finally gave into his wife demands and got to see him. How do we fight her without hurting him?

Jeezzz...chill OUT before you have a stroke!

The other side of that coin is that too often CPS doesn't have enough power or doesn't act fast enough to get children who are in danger out of abusive homes, with tragic results....so...what should  they do?

If they wait too long to investigate, children die.....if they act too quickly people get mad, but tough....better to err on the side of caution; there's a lot at stake.  CPS is damned if they do and damned if they don't. 

 By the way, in my opinion, I believe that the children in that Texas cult were justly removed until CPS found out what was going on. It was their obligation. And I still think they're right to keep an eye on those kids even after they are returned.........no matter how anyone from that cult tries to justify the pedophilia that's going on there "in the name of God", it's STILL pedophilia and still against all laws. Period.  Those women and children are brainwashed....watching them while all this was going on was like watching robots.....the kids don't know any better because they were born into that mess, but the women should, and should want to protect their kids!

What I'd personally love to say to those people is: Talk to the finger, cuz the hand's too good for ya!!