Topic : 02/22 Hell Weddings

The story reminds me so much of my wedding it is unreal.  Five years ago I said my vows to a drunk husband.  The worst thing of it all is that my grandfather married us and could smell and tell that my husband had been drinking.  Our wedding was at 4:30 and my husband had already gone to the parking lot with his groomsmen consumed a fifth of liquor and stumbled his way to the alter, I did not see him walk to the alter of coarse but the ones that did said they were real surprised he made it.  Fast forward to the reception my husband danced one song with me and that was it the rest of the time he was drinking and carrying on with his friends.  He told a friend of mine that if he was not  married he would go home with her right in front of me in my wedding dress, he says he was picking which he probably was but you do not say that on your wedding day.  They played our song at the end of the night to dance to again and my new husband was no where to be found, my brother in law danced it with me.  I finally got him out of there and he did not say a word to me the whole way home pucked in the yard and went to bed, I managed to get out of my dress myself and slept on the couch.  Today I have forgiven him but it is something I will never forget.  I love my husband dearly and always will but a wedding is very important to a girl

      As a bride, I was the guest of honor.  This was the largest party that my parents ever hosted in my honor.  They paid the bills.  They invited whom they wanted.  All I was required to do was look gorgeous, smile, and have a happy marriage.   Everyone else had a fine time at the party . . . I didn't even stay to the end.

     It is difficult to be the hostess, the party planner, and the caterer at such a large event.  It kept my mom busy for months.  I didn't even try.  I'm glad because I spent the evening in a daze.  I was happy and excited and enjoying the party.    

I don't think the guy is an alcoholic, and I don't think he was so nervous he needed to drink.  When I read the story he said he drank one shot then everyone wanted to do one with him.  He also stated that he rarely drinks.  I think he was just not thinking, not realizing that 4,5 or 6 shots to someone who rarely drinks is A LOT of alcohol.

I am not excusing his ruining the wedding, but I just didn't get the impression that this dude is a raging alcoholic.

Dr. Phil is totally correct when he says that too many people are more concerned with "getting married" than with being married. All these women talk about the dream wedding they have always wanted. And that is where it stops. They have never given any planning to their lives after the "I dos".

When my husband and I got married, we were on the same page as far as the ceremony. We sat down at a table and talked about what we both wanted and didn't want. Neither one of us wanted anything elaborate. We were more concerned with our future together. Our wedding cost less than $300 and this year in August we will be married 38 years.  The elaborateness of the wedding is not in direct proportion to the length of the marriage. The $12,000 plus that Angela and Marvin are planning to spend on their wedding would make a great down payment on a house. And they would have more to show for their money than just some pictures in an album.

Angela needs to grow up and stop be such a prima donna.  Realizing this is "HER" day; she is not in it alone.  She should also recognize that a man will only take so much abuse and disrespect.  Then she will be sitting on stage with a new topic to discuss with Dr. Phil.  Thru the grace of GOD she will see what she is doing and change her ways and have a happy marriage.