Topic : 02/22 Hell Weddings

Angela needs to grow up and stop be such a prima donna.  Realizing this is "HER" day; she is not in it alone.  She should also recognize that a man will only take so much abuse and disrespect.  Then she will be sitting on stage with a new topic to discuss with Dr. Phil.  Thru the grace of GOD she will see what she is doing and change her ways and have a happy marriage.

 

" I just hope DR Phil doesn't "reward" her attitude with another "wedding."  "

Your "I just hope" happened! LOL, Sigh.

 

Especially since she was using the grudge to get her way on material stuff already, I was dismayed that she, in effect, got "rewarded" for 2 years' worth of it.

 

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she didn't like how he proposed so she had to have it the way she wanted.  ughhh...

My proposal wasn't what I dreamed of but  it was great for us.  My husband was deployed just got the news he was extened another 3 months and would be home for our valentines get away we were planing.

So right there on the phone with like 100 other guys around able to hear every word he says "ummm, you want to do that marriage thing?"  I of course said yes.   Shocked I was asked because we said it wasn't on the table for at least three years...well here were are almost four years in to our marriage.  and going storng.   Our wedding was that ours I might have planed it but even from half way around the world he got a voice in it....he wanted his dress uniform...he got it...wanted a pastor and christian wedding he got it.  Wanted to put my engagement ring on for the last time since he didn't get to give to me in the first place. 

See I didn't need one.  He wanted me to have one and picked one out overseas and had his dad give it to me.  and to be honest i wouldn't change that.

Ladies wake up so it isn't what you dreamed of your whole live that doesn't matter.  What matters is that you are starting a live with you best friend the person you love and a wedding is the first day of that life....that wedding isn't the whole marriage.

It is your day meaning just you but your day as in both of you and you should agree on everything.  and rule for those that are sharing that say with you how sad.  I didn't all I asked was that they come and share my specail day with me.  they wore what shoes they like my aunt wore snickers and I didn't care.  hair and make up was left to each person as they were all so different and I want them there not paper dolls that looked perfect.

I think some need to grow up and learn that the day is a big on but the marriage is bigger and that it isn't all about them but about them and their loved on comeing together as a family.

How sad i feel for those that are this way.

The most beautiful, peaceful and loving wedding I've ever seen was my youngest daughter and son-in-law's. It was planned and carried out in two days, including the ring, dress, (which was gorgeous!), cake, food, minister and decorations! Everything just fell into place. It was an evening candlelight ceremony that took place in our lovely, but modest family room in New Mexico on December 27, 1990, with the fireplace going and a friend of ours playing the wedding march on the piano. It had snowed that day so everything was gorgeous outside too. Only close friends and family were there...which, in my opinion, is how it should be.

It worked because the marriage was...and still is...the most important thing; not the ceremony! They are still married and now have four beautiful children. 

It is really sad to watch a young couple disagree over a wedding.  A one day event does not even come close to the trials and tribulations of a long lasting marriage.  My husband and I of 33 years worked from 8 until 4:30 pm on a Friday, went straight to the downtown Magistrate's office, got married and returned to work on Monday.  Wouldn't trade it for the biggest wedding in the world.  Our two children, now adults, think it was the perfect wedding for their Mom & Dad.  Our close friends then and now, did the same thing, on the same day.  So all four of us, including our kids, still laugh about it.   It worked out perfect. 

That sounds wonderful and you are right.  about the marriage being more important than the ceremony.

It is great you enjoyed your wedding day.  Friends of ours had their wedding  at the firehouse hall and it was lovely...everyone had a wonderful time. 

 

There are so many people who focus too much on that day though and don't realize that the most  important thing is what comes after the wedding.  The wedding is a one day thing while the marriage is a lifetime!   That is where the real energy should go into.

 

No one is going to remember down the road if the color of the invitations matched the bridesmaids' dresses and the flowers, or if you had the fanciest cocktail hour.  Nor does the primo wedding guarantee a good marriage.  My wedding was not elaborate but it was wonderful.  However the MOST wonderful thing was the 30-and still -counting years of marriage that followed. Wishing the same for you.........!!!

If this is they was just one day is handled, I'd hate to see how the rest of there lives are handled.

I would think if she could get away controlling this one day, she would try to control a hole lot more

of there lives. Yikes!

Good for you that you know what's really important!

 

The wedding was awful for the first couple, but the marriage seems to be a good one...she does need to get over the whole thing and go on with life. Those were but a few short moments in the grand scheme of things!

 

With the second couple, she needs to learn the meaning of respect towards this man with whom she's going to (hopefully) spend the rest of her life. Does she really want  a man who never speaks up for himself? Or does she want a partner? 

 

I'm a little concerned over the physical violence that was mentioned by these two....(a baseball bat? Not a good sign!) Once you cross that line, it's easier the next time.

 

Please visit my website WWW.NONONSENSEGRAMMYTREE.BLOGSPOT.COM and click on the article "But I Love Him"...maybe it will give some insight to those of you planning a wedding.