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Created on : Thursday, February 14, 2008, 03:54:15 pm
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Every bride wants to shine on her special day -- from wearing the perfect gown to hosting the most extravagant reception. But what happens when the dream of the perfect wedding turns into a nightmare? Janae knows about this pain firsthand. Her husband, Michael, got so drunk before the ceremony that he passed out cold after saying “I do” and didn’t wake up until the next day!  Janae attended the reception by herself and spent her wedding night with her bridesmaids at a hotel. Their wedding from hell took place two years ago, but she still tears up at the memory of that fateful day. Can she ever forgive Michael's mishaps, or is he doomed to the doghouse forever? Then, Angela is a self-professed bridezilla who makes no excuses for her demanding ways. She even created a newsletter for her bridesmaids with the rules and regulations they must follow to participate in her wedding! Her sister and maid of honor, Vanessa, worries that Angela's nitpicking will cause her fiancé, Marvin, to run for the hills. What's behind Angela's controlling behavior, and is she headed for heartache on her special day? Share your thoughts here.

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bellepod24
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February 22, 2008, 1:26 pm PST

She better watch out!!!

i think the bride"zilla" better watch her attitude, because there is honestly only so much a man can take.  he seems like a gentle sweet, funny and kind man.  unfortunately, he's going to be someone else's man if she doesn't watch out.  i don't know why dr phil didn't just lay it on the line...like hey girl...this man was not put on this earth for you to have a punching bag....he's a saint for even putting up with her entitled attitude and rediculous demands.  how the heck does a woman like that even score a decent man ???  i'm sure she's a strong person like she says if she has a 15 year old and did it on her own, but she should really ask herslef if it's a boy...would she want him to grow up and be treated that way by a woman??
 
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February 22, 2008, 1:32 pm PST

there are clues....

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It's natural for the groom to be nervous and accidentally drink too much, that's why it's the best man's job to see to it that the groom makes it to the wedding on time and sober. The fact that his friends failed to do that and then stood around at the wedding laughing would make me furious.

My wedding was ruined because my groom couldn't stay focused on me for one second, but devoted all his attention to his visiting sisters, right up to looking at them during the vows and leaving me to open the wedding presents by myself while he giggled with his favorite sister in another room.

Weddings! I hate them. I've been married twice and two of the worst days of my life were my two wedding days.

There are always clues to what our lives will be with the person we choose....we just don't always want to see them! Been there...done that.

 

Please visit my website WWW.NONONSENSEGRAMMYTREE.BLOGSPOT.COM  and click on "But I Love Him. It may give some insight on what to look for in a man the next time.
 
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February 22, 2008, 1:33 pm PST

How to make a Bridezilla behave...

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I think that Angela's behvior regarding her upcoming wedding is a huge clue about how she views other people and how she is going to behave in her marriage.  While I would be the first to say that a wedding should be a very special day for the bride (and the groom too, Angela!!) it does not give the bride carte blanch to disregard other peoples' feelings and to become rude and demanding. To give out a newsletter detailing rules and regulations for her bridesmaids is childish, selfish and shows that she is a complete control freak. Personally I would not participate in a wedding with a bride like that, and I have my doubts that I'd ever choose such a selfish demanding person as a friend in the first place.  Her future husband ought to take note.  If she behaves like such a prima donna about the wedding, how will she be in a marriage?  She is sending out huge clues that point to a very shallow and self-centered person and perhaps this guy should rethink what he is getting himself in to.

 

I think that it's common to have SOME degree of self centeredness when youre the bride, as long as you don't mutate into "she who shall not be named"...

 

Anyway, I found a few articles on how to deal with some of this egocentricism...

 

"How to Deal With a Bridezilla"

http://www.ehow.com/how_2054220_deal-bridezilla.html

 

"Don't Let This Be You"

http://beachbride2be.blogspot.com/2007/08/how-to-deal-with-bridezilla.html

 

"Here Comes The Bridezilla"

http://www.sacmag.com/media/Sacramento-Magazine/January-2008/Here-Comes-The-Bridezilla/

 

"The way she figures it, it’s her day, dammit, and everybody else had better get on board."(http://www.sacmag.com/media/Sacramento-Magazine/January-2008/Here-Comes-The-Bridezilla/)
 
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February 22, 2008, 1:33 pm PST

02/22 Hell Weddings

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Dear Dr. Phil,

As someone who has solemnized over 150 marriages, I have never married a couple were one or both parties were intoxicated. A marriage is a legal contract - how can one enter into a legal contract when intoxicated? They should save the money for a new SUV and have a new ceremony with no gifts requested. They will never be able to let go of the first occassion. As a ordained minister, shame on the clergy who performed this service - no service was given!!! Thanks for letting me share my opinion. Blessings on your life - A surpised Rev.

That's an extremely good point!

 

Way to go, Rev!
 
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February 22, 2008, 1:36 pm PST

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Michael, got so drunk before the ceremony that he passed out cold after saying I do.

I do believe that in most states, you have to be sober, not have been forced or coerced,  in order to sign a marriage contract, otherwise the contract is invalid.  The way I see it, the contract is invalid and they are not legally married.

   I am glad that someone brought this up. I was also under the impression that if you are under the influence of anything, legally this marriage is not valid. I am also surprised that the grooms father even let his son walk into a church completely hammered. The priest also allowed for this man to disrespect the church and make a vow to this woman. How can he make a vow, he could barely stand still. Is there no common sense. Can the priest get into some type of trouble for performing this ceremony, obviously knowing that the groom was intoxicated?

   To be honest I don't think that a 2nd ceremony & reception is gonna to make this "brides" feelings go away. It's going to take much more than that. I hope that they seek some counceling. I also hope that when they have children he doesn't get so drunk that he misses the birth of their child.
 
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February 22, 2008, 1:46 pm PST

wedding from hell

I do not blame her at all. I had a wedding from hell myself. My husband got into a drunken fist  fight the night before our wedding and was rushed to the emergency room. He was released hours before our wedding extremely doped up on all kinds of medication. When he showed up to the wedding all our guests had a nice view of his enlarged bloody gashed open head at the altar. Then from the front he had to wear sunglasses to hide his two black eyes. I didnt even get to talk to him the whole night because it was spent explaining what happened to him. We have NO photos together and I too have a very hard time at weddings. Its very emotional when your one special day turns out to be a disaster.
 
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February 22, 2008, 1:49 pm PST

I agree totally...

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In regards to the groom that got drunk pre-wedding ceremony...

 

Was she actually in love with him or was she actually in love with the "wedding"?

 

If she really was in love with him, she should of been able to forgive him. I'm not condoning what he did and it was very wrong of the groomsmen to instigate it all, however, after hearing what happended, if she really loved him then she would forgive him and move on and just be happy that they ARE married.

 

I just now saw where Dr. Phil offered to give them another wedding and reception, she immediately said yes and then she was now able to basically forgive her husband! That tells me right there she was more in love with the actual wedding.

 

Just my thought and two cents on this.

I spent the whole show thinking, "please don't give this girl a wedding because boo-hoo she can't get over her wedding day that happened 2 YEARS AGO"!! When she said it helped to talk about it, I felt the freebie is what actually helped her. Give me a break!! Is he a good husband? If he is then get over it!!!
 
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February 22, 2008, 1:52 pm PST

weddings

She is a awful person and he needs to find another wife.
 
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February 22, 2008, 1:52 pm PST

02/22 Hell Weddings

When did weddings become what the woman wants. That day is just as important to men as it is to women. All I ever here is how this is the most important day of her life or this is her day.
 
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February 22, 2008, 1:54 pm PST

Firehalls have the best weddings

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It is great you enjoyed your wedding day.  Friends of ours had their wedding  at the firehouse hall and it was lovely...everyone had a wonderful time. 

 

There are so many people who focus too much on that day though and don't realize that the most  important thing is what comes after the wedding.  The wedding is a one day thing while the marriage is a lifetime!   That is where the real energy should go into.

 

No one is going to remember down the road if the color of the invitations matched the bridesmaids' dresses and the flowers, or if you had the fanciest cocktail hour.  Nor does the primo wedding guarantee a good marriage.  My wedding was not elaborate but it was wonderful.  However the MOST wonderful thing was the 30-and still -counting years of marriage that followed. Wishing the same for you.........!!!

My sister and her  husband were married in a church, but had their reception at the volunteer firehall where they are both firefighters and EMT's. It was the most fun I ever had at a wedding. The Auxiliarry insisted on preparing the food and making the wedding cake. All the food was homemade, and tasty. One of their fellow firefighters was the DJ and another firefighter was the "official" photographer. The best part is that they are still married after 10 years. I had a fancy wedding, and a fancy divorce. I wish I had gone the same route as my sister!!
 
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