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Created on : Thursday, February 14, 2008, 03:54:15 pm

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Every bride wants to shine on her special day -- from wearing the perfect gown to hosting the most extravagant reception. But what happens when the dream of the perfect wedding turns into a nightmare? Janae knows about this pain firsthand. Her husband, Michael, got so drunk before the ceremony that he passed out cold after saying “I do” and didn’t wake up until the next day! Janae attended the reception by herself and spent her wedding night with her bridesmaids at a hotel. Their wedding from hell took place two years ago, but she still tears up at the memory of that fateful day. Can she ever forgive Michael's mishaps, or is he doomed to the doghouse forever? Then, Angela is a self-professed bridezilla who makes no excuses for her demanding ways. She even created a newsletter for her bridesmaids with the rules and regulations they must follow to participate in her wedding! Her sister and maid of honor, Vanessa, worries that Angela's nitpicking will cause her fiancé, Marvin, to run for the hills. What's behind Angela's controlling behavior, and is she headed for heartache on her special day? Share your thoughts here.

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kprentice

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February 22, 2008, 1:21 pm PST

I had a wedding from hell

The night before my wedding, my husband went out with his friends and got drunk. He proceeded to wreck the car and was almost killed. The hospital called me to identify him and they scheduled him for surgery at the same time as my wedding. I told the doctors he was getting married one way or the other. My dad told me just before walking me down the aisle, that I could call the whole thing off and no one would ever throw it in my face or hold it against me. I went ahead with the wedding and was divorced - due to his multiple DUI's - a few years later. The ONLY good thing that came out of it, was my son.

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fromthesquare

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February 22, 2008, 1:22 pm PST

Rite of Passage

I don't get how some guys see getting drunk, hiring hookers and strippers, etc to be part of their commitment to a life partner. My husband would not allow my brothers and father to have a bachelor party. I was really proud of him for that- although it did not put him in the best light with them. It is a peer pressure thing with guys. "The end of your life" attitude that we women don't get.

When a guy needs to get drunk before approaching God and his future spouse it shows problems with the commitment. I am glad that Dr. Phil is allowing them to get remarried because I don't think that man was fit to make the commitment of marriage in his condition. The minister should have sent him home to bed.

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sciencerocks

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February 22, 2008, 1:22 pm PST

Flexable

My husband and I will be married 5 years this July. For our wedding it did not go completely as planned. The dressess did not pan out to what I chose for their body types. The one person's dress we needed to buy 2 extra yards of fabric. The girl ended up being larger than I remembered from college. The other girl, the dress did not fit, so when I had it delivered I saw that she had a pretty blue dress I convinced her to wear that one. Also, the wedding was in another town and she could not afford to stay there, so we paid for her room. She could not believe it. The guys I had them wear their Firemen A 1 class uniforms. The one guy did not have one, so he wore a blue suit. It just happened to work out that the two with differnt outfits from the rest were African American. The family was surprised and with the size ranges and different dress was not the same. They view me then as a special person to have them in the wedding anyways.

The extra food we had because people said that they were attending did not come, I had the woman donate the food to needy families in the area. I figured it is better to give then to receive. I had the hall to hold three hundred and only 100 showed. I could have flipped out, but why? Yes, it's the brides day, but I viewed the day as a big party to celebrate our love for each other. People see us and think that we are still on our honeymoon. I plan on being on our honeymoon with my husband until the day we part.

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n090146m

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February 22, 2008, 1:23 pm PST

Get over it

You wanted to get married, you are married, right? So get over it. Your wish has been granted. I can identiify with a wedding day from hell, but I wanted to be Mrs.----, and I am. first of all the Pastor refused to marry us because the groom to be was drunk. After a couple of hours of black coffee, off to the Justice of the Peace we went. All this happened back in 1969, and we are still married.

SO get on with life...................

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mrsdebil

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February 22, 2008, 1:23 pm PST

Advice to Marvin

Dear Marvin -- I highly suggest you rent the movie NORBIT and watch it over & over & over & over & over...............until you actually GET what your future with Angela will be like!!!!

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n090146m

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February 22, 2008, 1:23 pm PST

Get over it

SO get on with life...................

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bellepod24

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February 22, 2008, 1:26 pm PST

She better watch out!!!

i think the bride"zilla" better watch her attitude, because there is honestly only so much a man can take. he seems like a gentle sweet, funny and kind man. unfortunately, he's going to be someone else's man if she doesn't watch out. i don't know why dr phil didn't just lay it on the line...like hey girl...this man was not put on this earth for you to have a punching bag....he's a saint for even putting up with her entitled attitude and rediculous demands. how the heck does a woman like that even score a decent man ??? i'm sure she's a strong person like she says if she has a 15 year old and did it on her own, but she should really ask herslef if it's a boy...would she want him to grow up and be treated that way by a woman??

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cndrlla

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February 22, 2008, 1:32 pm PST

there are clues....

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It's natural for the groom to be nervous and accidentally drink too much, that's why it's the best man's job to see to it that the groom makes it to the wedding on time and sober. The fact that his friends failed to do that and then stood around at the wedding laughing would make me furious.

My wedding was ruined because my groom couldn't stay focused on me for one second, but devoted all his attention to his visiting sisters, right up to looking at them during the vows and leaving me to open the wedding presents by myself while he giggled with his favorite sister in another room.

Weddings! I hate them. I've been married twice and two of the worst days of my life were my two wedding days.

There are always clues to what our lives will be with the person we choose....we just don't always want to see them! Been there...done that.

Please visit my website WWW.NONONSENSEGRAMMYTREE.BLOGSPOT.COM and click on "But I Love Him. It may give some insight on what to look for in a man the next time.

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February 22, 2008, 1:33 pm PST

How to make a Bridezilla behave...

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I think that Angela's behvior regarding her upcoming wedding is a huge clue about how she views other people and how she is going to behave in her marriage. While I would be the first to say that a wedding should be a very special day for the bride (and the groom too, Angela!!) it does not give the bride carte blanch to disregard other peoples' feelings and to become rude and demanding. To give out a newsletter detailing rules and regulations for her bridesmaids is childish, selfish and shows that she is a complete control freak. Personally I would not participate in a wedding with a bride like that, and I have my doubts that I'd ever choose such a selfish demanding person as a friend in the first place. Her future husband ought to take note. If she behaves like such a prima donna about the wedding, how will she be in a marriage? She is sending out huge clues that point to a very shallow and self-centered person and perhaps this guy should rethink what he is getting himself in to.

I think that it's common to have SOME degree of self centeredness when youre the bride, as long as you don't mutate into "she who shall not be named"...

Anyway, I found a few articles on how to deal with some of this egocentricism...

"How to Deal With a Bridezilla"

http://www.ehow.com/how_2054220_deal-bridezilla.html

"Don't Let This Be You"

http://beachbride2be.blogspot.com/2007/08/how-to-deal-with-bridezilla.html

"Here Comes The Bridezilla"

http://www.sacmag.com/media/Sacramento-Magazine/January-2008/Here-Comes-The-Bridezilla/

"The way she figures it, it’s her day, dammit, and everybody else had better get on board."(http://www.sacmag.com/media/Sacramento-Magazine/January-2008/Here-Comes-The-Bridezilla/)

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cndrlla

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February 22, 2008, 1:33 pm PST

02/22 Hell Weddings

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Dear Dr. Phil,

As someone who has solemnized over 150 marriages, I have never married a couple were one or both parties were intoxicated. A marriage is a legal contract - how can one enter into a legal contract when intoxicated? They should save the money for a new SUV and have a new ceremony with no gifts requested. They will never be able to let go of the first occassion. As a ordained minister, shame on the clergy who performed this service - no service was given!!! Thanks for letting me share my opinion. Blessings on your life - A surpised Rev.

That's an extremely good point!

Way to go, Rev!

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