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Created on : Thursday, February 14, 2008, 03:54:15 pm
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Every bride wants to shine on her special day -- from wearing the perfect gown to hosting the most extravagant reception. But what happens when the dream of the perfect wedding turns into a nightmare? Janae knows about this pain firsthand. Her husband, Michael, got so drunk before the ceremony that he passed out cold after saying “I do” and didn’t wake up until the next day!  Janae attended the reception by herself and spent her wedding night with her bridesmaids at a hotel. Their wedding from hell took place two years ago, but she still tears up at the memory of that fateful day. Can she ever forgive Michael's mishaps, or is he doomed to the doghouse forever? Then, Angela is a self-professed bridezilla who makes no excuses for her demanding ways. She even created a newsletter for her bridesmaids with the rules and regulations they must follow to participate in her wedding! Her sister and maid of honor, Vanessa, worries that Angela's nitpicking will cause her fiancé, Marvin, to run for the hills. What's behind Angela's controlling behavior, and is she headed for heartache on her special day? Share your thoughts here.

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February 22, 2008, 1:36 pm PST

02/22 Hell Weddings

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Michael, got so drunk before the ceremony that he passed out cold after saying I do.

I do believe that in most states, you have to be sober, not have been forced or coerced,  in order to sign a marriage contract, otherwise the contract is invalid.  The way I see it, the contract is invalid and they are not legally married.

   I am glad that someone brought this up. I was also under the impression that if you are under the influence of anything, legally this marriage is not valid. I am also surprised that the grooms father even let his son walk into a church completely hammered. The priest also allowed for this man to disrespect the church and make a vow to this woman. How can he make a vow, he could barely stand still. Is there no common sense. Can the priest get into some type of trouble for performing this ceremony, obviously knowing that the groom was intoxicated?

   To be honest I don't think that a 2nd ceremony & reception is gonna to make this "brides" feelings go away. It's going to take much more than that. I hope that they seek some counceling. I also hope that when they have children he doesn't get so drunk that he misses the birth of their child.

 
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February 22, 2008, 1:46 pm PST

wedding from hell

I do not blame her at all. I had a wedding from hell myself. My husband got into a drunken fist  fight the night before our wedding and was rushed to the emergency room. He was released hours before our wedding extremely doped up on all kinds of medication. When he showed up to the wedding all our guests had a nice view of his enlarged bloody gashed open head at the altar. Then from the front he had to wear sunglasses to hide his two black eyes. I didnt even get to talk to him the whole night because it was spent explaining what happened to him. We have NO photos together and I too have a very hard time at weddings. Its very emotional when your one special day turns out to be a disaster.
 
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February 22, 2008, 1:49 pm PST

I agree totally...

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In regards to the groom that got drunk pre-wedding ceremony...

 

Was she actually in love with him or was she actually in love with the "wedding"?

 

If she really was in love with him, she should of been able to forgive him. I'm not condoning what he did and it was very wrong of the groomsmen to instigate it all, however, after hearing what happended, if she really loved him then she would forgive him and move on and just be happy that they ARE married.

 

I just now saw where Dr. Phil offered to give them another wedding and reception, she immediately said yes and then she was now able to basically forgive her husband! That tells me right there she was more in love with the actual wedding.

 

Just my thought and two cents on this.

I spent the whole show thinking, "please don't give this girl a wedding because boo-hoo she can't get over her wedding day that happened 2 YEARS AGO"!! When she said it helped to talk about it, I felt the freebie is what actually helped her. Give me a break!! Is he a good husband? If he is then get over it!!!
 
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February 22, 2008, 1:52 pm PST

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She is a awful person and he needs to find another wife.

 
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February 22, 2008, 1:52 pm PST

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When did weddings become what the woman wants. That day is just as important to men as it is to women. All I ever here is how this is the most important day of her life or this is her day.

 
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February 22, 2008, 1:54 pm PST

Firehalls have the best weddings

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It is great you enjoyed your wedding day.  Friends of ours had their wedding  at the firehouse hall and it was lovely...everyone had a wonderful time. 

 

There are so many people who focus too much on that day though and don't realize that the most  important thing is what comes after the wedding.  The wedding is a one day thing while the marriage is a lifetime!   That is where the real energy should go into.

 

No one is going to remember down the road if the color of the invitations matched the bridesmaids' dresses and the flowers, or if you had the fanciest cocktail hour.  Nor does the primo wedding guarantee a good marriage.  My wedding was not elaborate but it was wonderful.  However the MOST wonderful thing was the 30-and still -counting years of marriage that followed. Wishing the same for you.........!!!

My sister and her  husband were married in a church, but had their reception at the volunteer firehall where they are both firefighters and EMT's. It was the most fun I ever had at a wedding. The Auxiliarry insisted on preparing the food and making the wedding cake. All the food was homemade, and tasty. One of their fellow firefighters was the DJ and another firefighter was the "official" photographer. The best part is that they are still married after 10 years. I had a fancy wedding, and a fancy divorce. I wish I had gone the same route as my sister!!
 
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February 22, 2008, 2:03 pm PST

Janae and Michael

Michael seems to be a decent guy. And he realizes that Janae was hurt by what happened at the wedding.  He has been trying to make amends, however it appears that she has been turning this into a lifelong sentence for him.  He has owned up to what he did and appears to be a good husband.  She should not be using the wedding mistake as a method of acquiring things from him.   Janae, you have a decent guy there who seems sincere.  I know that what happened at the wedding was very hurtful to you, but you have got to let it go before you permanently damage what could be a great relationship.
 
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February 22, 2008, 2:10 pm PST

At least she had a Wedding!

 I can't get over the first bride! She was such a "Witch", she got a house and a new SUV and Dr. Phil rewards her bad behavior with a fabulous wedding. Guess what? I never had my dream wedding, I got married at the court house. I never had a wedding night because my Husband had to get up at 6:00am to go to work, and I never had a honeymoon! It took 13 years to get a real wedding band and so far my Husband and I have never even been on a real vacation in over 20 years. To top it off, I always wanted to renew our vows on an Alaskan Cruise, just my and hubby and me, but unfortunately I was disabled about 8 years ago and we can't afford it. We will NEVER be able to afford it now. My 3 surgeries and lost wages ruined our credit and we struggle living paycheck to paycheck. I love my husband deeply and would never hold anything over his head to get my way. What is she going to do when real life with real problems comes into her fairy tail world? For better or Worse and in Sickness and Health. My Husband and I have stuck together through it all and it has only made us stronger. She will go screaming the other way!
 
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February 22, 2008, 2:14 pm PST

All I could think

The only thing I kept wondering about Angela was why she felt that her husband to be could not wear a cream tux if that is what he wanted. She kept insisting he was too dark for cream...I don't get it, but if he is too dark for cream, why is it ok for her to wear white or cream? She just doesn't make any sense. If she wants to look so great, in her way of thinking, shouldn't she be wearing a different color for her dress? The entire show just didn't make much sense to me. Why would anyone want to marry her or be in her wedding?
 
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February 22, 2008, 2:16 pm PST

Poor Janae

I am so sorry you had to go through that.  I am planning my second wedding to a man I love with all my heart, but my first wedding wasn't so good.  My mom thought it would be great for me to have my dress made, well come the day of the wedding, it was falling apart.  Talk about knowing when something shouldn't be, I lost a diamond out of my wedding band and my husband then got so drunk at the reception that he passed out in my parent's front yard!!!  He couldn't sober up at all that night, passed out in the car after we got home, puked over the passenger side of the car and then at 4 am he finally came inside.  After he came inside he passed out in the bath tub, not only in water, but also in his own vomit.  It was the best night's sleep that I ever had married to him! :)

 

With planning this wedding my fiance has promised me that he would NEVER get that drunk on me!

 
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