Topic : 02/22 Hell Weddings

Well I mean it wasn't the best moments of Michael's life, yea he admittedly screwed up. But come oooon Janae how long are you gonna hold on to it, how long are you gonna bring it up, and how long are you gonna black mail his for??? You love him right? So why black mail him over buying you a new HOUSE, I mean come on its not like he's buying you a new pair of shoes or even a new TV or even a computer, BUT a HOUSE! But Janae you didn't stop there did you, you then asked for more right? A house wasn't enough so you had to black mail him for a new car too... That also says alot about your character Janae..

Janae you can sit up there as long as you want and 'attempt' to cry as much or as long as you want, but HEY you got a NEW, FREE HOUSE! and a NEW, FREE CAR. You didnt need to ask for anything but yet you did and then blackmale him about the wedding so he buys it for you..... So what's that say about you???

Janae you get a new house, new car, all FREE paid for my HIM, and Im sure there's alot of other stuff too that you failed to mention.. So I guess that means your a black mailing, materialistic woman????

Not only allllllllllllll of that, but since Dr. Phil bought your pathetic sob story, you NOW also get a NEW, FREE wedding and reception and by Dr. Phil's standards, its at a place that's 20 times more expensive and 20 times more classy then that you had initally.....

So truthfully Janae, in the end and Im sure once the camera's are turned off you will thank your husband for being drunk at the wedding cause NOT ONLY did you get a NEW, FREE HOUSE YOU ASKED HIM FOR, but then you ASKED HIM FOR A NEW FREE CAR TOO? and then there's other things you asked him for and then brought up the initial wedding and he buys you whatever you want. Janae you should feel WORSE then him! Then you go to his friends wedding and do the EXACT same thing that he does!!!!!!!! Did he ask you for a NEW car or a NEW HOUSE, oh by the way for FREE TO YOU???? I bet you he didnt ask you for ONE SINGLE thing... So that says ALOT about your character and his at the end of the day.... Two completely identical weddings and situations, yet you black mail him for a NEW FREE HOUSE and a NEW FREE CAR and GOD knows what else you asked hiim to buy you..  But yet you go and do the samething at the next wedding and I'll BET MY PLACE IN HEAVEN he didn't ask you for a NEW FREE HOUSE or a NEW FREE CAR and various other free things..

Sooo at the end of the day, whos the worse person?? LOL

Dr Phil,

I agree to a certain point that a Wedding Day is usually for the Bride,but the Bridezilla on your show, had me on my seat.  I always believed that a Wedding Day was for both the bride and groom, and therefore believe that both parties should be involved, especially where finances are concerned.  I  could not imagine for one minute, demanding things to be my way at any expense on OUR day. 

I have a very open honest relationship with my Common-Law, and include him in any decision I make, right down to the smallest things like renting a video.

I am also quite surprised at how many women think that they must have an expensive ring to complete their marriage.  I always believed that marriage was all about love and wanting to share your life with your soul mate, and not about how much you feel you are worth.

My heart truely went out to that poor groom on your show, that had no say in his Wedding Day, and or costs.

All I can say, is that I hope that Bride looks back at this program one day soon, and realizes how unreasonable she truely is, and question herself, whether it is worth loosing a amazing man, and great friends over her controling behavior.  I am apolled.

I am so happy that I dont have a price tag on myself.  For all I care, my guy can get a ring from  lucky egg machine (It's what i sybolizes that meanssomething to me) , and I wouldnt love him less, and I would still want him to have say in our day, Because I truely believe that we both should stand out on our day, not just me.  The marriage is for the Bride and Groom.

Thanks for hearing me out!

Well, I guess maybe not anyone, but most people. Yes we all have dreamed of our wedding since we were little girls. It's always a fantasy, and we want it to be like a fairytale. We dream of our prince charming, gorgeous of course, with a beautiful gown, horse drawn carriage and all. Our own versions of this of course, but you get my picture.

I married my soul mate, the love of my life, my other half, my best friend, the one who makes me whole. He is the person I talk to about everything. He is my ally, and my rock. I love him with all of my heart, and am grateful for him everyday. I didn't even have a clue about true love until I met him.

Things haven't always been perfect, and they still aren't now, don't get me wrong. We are perfect for eachother though. Two peas in a pod. We understand eachother, and are able to communicate very well, for the most part.

However, our wedding was pretty much a disaster. We didn't have much money to budget, and were able to get by pretty cheap, as far as weddings are concerned anyway. But getting by cheap isn't always the best way to go, I guess you can say that you get what you pay for...

1. My mom was supposed to make my flower girl dress, and had months to do it. However she put it off until the last minute. I received the dress 4 days before the wedding, and it was a disaster. I had to bring it to a family friend who was a really good seamstress who told me that she couldn't do anything with it. Then I had to run around town with the flower girl, when I didn't have the time, to find a dress that would work, and have it altered to fit her better. I had to get a communion gown. 
2. My bridesmaids and myself had to wait an hour past our appointment time to get our hair done because the salon had another wedding party scheduled before us, and it took them an hour longer than they had scheduled it for. So the day started out an hour behind.
3. I didn't think all of the details through very well, so my corset didn't fit properly under my dress, and it had spaghetti straps, so I had to go braless, and it wasn't very flattering, because my dress had been fitted when I was wearing a bra.

4. The DJ's didn't have our first dance song, so they had to run to Walmart and buy the CD. For some reason they expected us to supply our own music? Not only that they had asked me to supply them with a list of songs that I wanted them to make sure that they would play, however they didn't play the songs that I wanted.

5. My Dad didn't get his tux, because for some reason he thought that I was going to pick it up, even though he hadn't asked me to beforehand. I guess he must've thought that I had ESP or something... lol. He failed to mention this to me until right before the wedding, even though he knew I had picked up my hubby and the ring bearers tuxes the night before. He had the oppotunity to mention it at the Grooms dinner/rehearsal that night.

6. My hubby almost didn't make it to the wedding. His car broke down on the way. He killed his car just to make it in time, and that's exactly what he did. He had enough time to get in his tux and meet me at the altar.

7. Hubby was red as a lobster because he had gone golfing in the morning. I agreed that he could go golfing as long as he made it to the wedding site early enough to help with the rest of the set-up, what we hadn't done the night before. However, I did think that he would wear sunscreen, considering that it was the middle of June, and about 90 degrees that day.

8. Money wasn't budgeted correctly, and there was a situation with the food/catering. We ended up just getting the food, and had to serve it ourselves. Fortunately our families were willing to step in and help out, which was awesome.
9.I decorated some really beautiful oil candles to use as center pieces. It was an outdoor wedding so I thought that it would be nice to have citronella candles to make it more comfortable for us and our guests. However, either the funnel didn't get packed, or someone missed it. Either way, whoever filled the candles didn't use a funnel, so at the reception when we started to light the candles the decoration went up in flames. They were decorated with silk flowers.
10. My ring bearer didn't want to take pictures, and tried to blackmail me into smiling in the pictures. I wasn't going to crumble to a 6 year old, so of course he didn't smile in any of the pictures, and whined through the whole process.

11. I had a friend lined up to videotape. However during the reception my father inlaw delegated the task to someone else, and they didn't do a very good job at all. My friend was upset because she thought that I had told them to take over, and I was mad because they did it when they knew that I had specifically had this friend lined up because I knew that she would do a good job.

12. I was so stressed out that I couldn't even eat the wonderful meal that I had picked out.

13. I had brought an outfit to change into after the reception, and somehow it ended up getting misplaced. However we didn't realize this until after I had started to change, and had given my dress to my inlaws to take home with them. I had to borrow some clothes from a friend who came in from out of town. We found the clothes way later, but I had missed saying goodbye to a lot of our guests because I was stuck in the bathroom while I had people frantically searching for my clothes for me.

14. We went out with some friends later to dance and celebrate, but our hotel was like 13 blocks from the bar where they wanted to meet up. By the time we got there it was almost closing time, so we had one drink and had to walk back to our hotel. Hubby carried me most of the way because my shoes were killing my feet.

15. To top it all of we didn't even make love that night because we both were so exhausted that all we wanted to do was sleep. We also didn't get a honeymoon, because we couldn't afford it. We plan to rectify that for our 10th anniversary though.

I let all of this go a long time ago though, and I can laugh at it now. I love my hubby, and I wouldn't want anyone else. I have some beautiful pictures, and some that remind me of how much of a disaster it was, but I just laugh when I look at them now. It's been almost 5 years, and I know that if I would've held onto that it wouldn't be good for me at all. We all look so happy in the pictures, and there is one picture in particular where I can just see so much love in my hubby's eyes that it makes me forget about all of the bad stuff.
Sometimes I think that it would be nice to do it all over again. But I wouldn't want to go through all of the stress of planning again. And I definitely gave in to some things for him, because I knew that he should have some input. One thing in particular is that I always pictured "Wonderful Tonight" by Eric Clapton as my first dance song. However he wasn't very fond of that song. I let that idea go and suggested that we use "I Cross My Heart" by George Straight because I knew that he really liked that song, and it was a beautiful song for a wedding. I think even just giving him that made it easier for him. And I think that it made even more of an impact because I suggested it, and he didn't even have to bring it up. I also let him pick what style of tux he wanted, I had my input, but he made the main choices on that. Afterall he is the one wearing the tux.

Anyway, the way I look at it is that regardless of how the day went I still won out in the end. I got the man I wanted. We are still happily married, and have three beautiful children. I couldn't ask for more in a partner, even if he does drive me a little crazy sometimes, and knows how to push my buttons :D

What the hell are you doing? don't walk down the isle, run away from it as fast as you can.

Marriage is about compromise and your wife to be has no clue what that is, she is a control freak and doesn't know how to treat people with respect. Before you walk down the isle, get some serious marriage counseling. If you marry her the way she is, over time she will beat the fight out of so bad that you will end up being so whipped and unhappy and live a meek existence in fear of angering her, or you will end up in divorce.