Quote From: jerusha
Well, I guess maybe not anyone, but most people. Yes we all have dreamed of our wedding since we were little girls. It's always a fantasy, and we want it to be like a fairytale. We dream of our prince charming, gorgeous of course, with a beautiful gown, horse drawn carriage and all. Our own versions of this of course, but you get my picture.
I married my soul mate, the love of my life, my other half, my best friend, the one who makes me whole. He is the person I talk to about everything. He is my ally, and my rock. I love him with all of my heart, and am grateful for him everyday. I didn't even have a clue about true love until I met him.
Things haven't always been perfect, and they still aren't now, don't get me wrong. We are perfect for eachother though. Two peas in a pod. We understand eachother, and are able to communicate very well, for the most part.
However, our wedding was pretty much a disaster. We didn't have much money to budget, and were able to get by pretty cheap, as far as weddings are concerned anyway. But getting by cheap isn't always the best way to go, I guess you can say that you get what you pay for...
1. My mom was supposed to make my flower girl dress, and had months to do it. However she put it off until the last minute. I received the dress 4 days before the wedding, and it was a disaster. I had to bring it to a family friend who was a really good seamstress who told me that she couldn't do anything with it. Then I had to run around town with the flower girl, when I didn't have the time, to find a dress that would work, and have it altered to fit her better. I had to get a communion gown.
2. My bridesmaids and myself had to wait an hour past our appointment time to get our hair done because the salon had another wedding party scheduled before us, and it took them an hour longer than they had scheduled it for. So the day started out an hour behind.
3. I didn't think all of the details through very well, so my corset didn't fit properly under my dress, and it had spaghetti straps, so I had to go braless, and it wasn't very flattering, because my dress had been fitted when I was wearing a bra.
4. The DJ's didn't have our first dance song, so they had to run to Walmart and buy the CD. For some reason they expected us to supply our own music? Not only that they had asked me to supply them with a list of songs that I wanted them to make sure that they would play, however they didn't play the songs that I wanted.
5. My Dad didn't get his tux, because for some reason he thought that I was going to pick it up, even though he hadn't asked me to beforehand. I guess he must've thought that I had ESP or something... lol. He failed to mention this to me until right before the wedding, even though he knew I had picked up my hubby and the ring bearers tuxes the night before. He had the oppotunity to mention it at the Grooms dinner/rehearsal that night.
6. My hubby almost didn't make it to the wedding. His car broke down on the way. He killed his car just to make it in time, and that's exactly what he did. He had enough time to get in his tux and meet me at the altar.
7. Hubby was red as a lobster because he had gone golfing in the morning. I agreed that he could go golfing as long as he made it to the wedding site early enough to help with the rest of the set-up, what we hadn't done the night before. However, I did think that he would wear sunscreen, considering that it was the middle of June, and about 90 degrees that day.
8. Money wasn't budgeted correctly, and there was a situation with the food/catering. We ended up just getting the food, and had to serve it ourselves. Fortunately our families were willing to step in and help out, which was awesome.
9.I decorated some really beautiful oil candles to use as center pieces. It was an outdoor wedding so I thought that it would be nice to have citronella candles to make it more comfortable for us and our guests. However, either the funnel didn't get packed, or someone missed it. Either way, whoever filled the candles didn't use a funnel, so at the reception when we started to light the candles the decoration went up in flames. They were decorated with silk flowers.
10. My ring bearer didn't want to take pictures, and tried to blackmail me into smiling in the pictures. I wasn't going to crumble to a 6 year old, so of course he didn't smile in any of the pictures, and whined through the whole process.
11. I had a friend lined up to videotape. However during the reception my father inlaw delegated the task to someone else, and they didn't do a very good job at all. My friend was upset because she thought that I had told them to take over, and I was mad because they did it when they knew that I had specifically had this friend lined up because I knew that she would do a good job.
12. I was so stressed out that I couldn't even eat the wonderful meal that I had picked out.
13. I had brought an outfit to change into after the reception, and somehow it ended up getting misplaced. However we didn't realize this until after I had started to change, and had given my dress to my inlaws to take home with them. I had to borrow some clothes from a friend who came in from out of town. We found the clothes way later, but I had missed saying goodbye to a lot of our guests because I was stuck in the bathroom while I had people frantically searching for my clothes for me.
14. We went out with some friends later to dance and celebrate, but our hotel was like 13 blocks from the bar where they wanted to meet up. By the time we got there it was almost closing time, so we had one drink and had to walk back to our hotel. Hubby carried me most of the way because my shoes were killing my feet.
15. To top it all of we didn't even make love that night because we both were so exhausted that all we wanted to do was sleep. We also didn't get a honeymoon, because we couldn't afford it. We plan to rectify that for our 10th anniversary though.
I let all of this go a long time ago though, and I can laugh at it now. I love my hubby, and I wouldn't want anyone else. I have some beautiful pictures, and some that remind me of how much of a disaster it was, but I just laugh when I look at them now. It's been almost 5 years, and I know that if I would've held onto that it wouldn't be good for me at all. We all look so happy in the pictures, and there is one picture in particular where I can just see so much love in my hubby's eyes that it makes me forget about all of the bad stuff.
Sometimes I think that it would be nice to do it all over again. But I wouldn't want to go through all of the stress of planning again. And I definitely gave in to some things for him, because I knew that he should have some input. One thing in particular is that I always pictured "Wonderful Tonight" by Eric Clapton as my first dance song. However he wasn't very fond of that song. I let that idea go and suggested that we use "I Cross My Heart" by George Straight because I knew that he really liked that song, and it was a beautiful song for a wedding. I think even just giving him that made it easier for him. And I think that it made even more of an impact because I suggested it, and he didn't even have to bring it up. I also let him pick what style of tux he wanted, I had my input, but he made the main choices on that. Afterall he is the one wearing the tux.
Anyway, the way I look at it is that regardless of how the day went I still won out in the end. I got the man I wanted. We are still happily married, and have three beautiful children. I couldn't ask for more in a partner, even if he does drive me a little crazy sometimes, and knows how to push my buttons :D
However, our wedding was pretty much a disaster. We didn't have much money to budget, and were able to get by pretty cheap, as far as weddings are concerned anyway. But getting by cheap isn't always the best way to go, I guess you can say that you get what you pay for...
Had a bad wedding day too...first one of my birdesmaids didn't approve of my choice in hubbies which was weird her fiance was friends with him... and like you some other dissasters happened...one bridesmaid went into labor the day before. The flowers were not delieverd...had to cook my own reception food as the caterer got the days wrong...the hairstylist well lets just say that didn't go so great..our personal vows got substituted for what the minister wanted to say..guests were feuding with other guests.
Yet like you I can laugh at all of this because it just showed that if we could go through all of this and still get married that we could make it through anything in our marriage. An we have been married for 25 years so its a good sign to have something that happen at the marriage if you can laugh at them then you can make it through the stuff that follows and laugh at them also.
I hope that you have found this too.
Every bride wants to shine on her special day -- from wearing the perfect gown to hosting the most extravagant reception. But what happens when the dream of the perfect wedding turns into a nightmare? Janae knows about this pain firsthand. Her husband, Michael, got so drunk before the ceremony that he passed out cold after saying “I do” and didn’t wake up until the next day! Janae attended the reception by herself and spent her wedding night with her bridesmaids at a hotel. Their wedding from hell took place two years ago, but she still tears up at the memory of that fateful day. Can she ever forgive Michael's mishaps, or is he doomed to the doghouse forever? Then, Angela is a self-professed bridezilla who makes no excuses for her demanding ways. She even created a newsletter for her bridesmaids with the rules and regulations they must follow to participate in her wedding! Her sister and maid of honor, Vanessa, worries that Angela's nitpicking will cause her fiancé, Marvin, to run for the hills. What's behind Angela's controlling behavior, and is she headed for heartache on her special day? Share your thoughts here.
