Topic : 02/22 Hell Weddings

I think they are definitely headed for trouble...not too hard to predict that one!

 

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First off, I would like to congratulate the first couple on renewing their vows and creating new memories.  The main reason that I am writing is in regards to the second couple.  While I understand and agree (as a current bride to be) that the wedding is the wife's "big day". It is also a much bigger day for the couple and their relationship. I am very empathetic to the bride as I too have been a single mom that put myself through college and have a successful career.  It is hard doing it alone.  You have to be tough and not let anyone walk all over you.  But, you have now chosen to share this burden with someone else for the rest of your life.  You have someone who has your back.  I know that one of the most important things for my fiance is that he needs to feel like a "grown a** man", as he would put it.  His favorite saying is that he is going to always be himself before anything else.  When you knock your man down and squash any input that he is trying to contribute, you are cutting his personality out of your wedding?  This is his wedding too.   Why not try and ask him to think about one or two things that would mean the most to him, in regards to the wedding, and let him have those things, NO QUESTIONS ASKED!  That way when he looks back on that day, he will truly be able to say that it was our wedding, not just her wedding.  And if it is the cream tux, so what. You may not love the clothing, you should still feel wonderful from knowing that you did something that made your man happy. You two should spend the rest of your lives trying to make each other happy. That starts NOW, not after the "I do's".  It appears that HE already realizes that. He has let you be a bridezilla because he wants you to be happy, now it's your turn to do the same for him.  Open up and let him in, you never know, he just might pleasantly surprise you!

I could hardly believe that Marvin was so passive and allowed himself to be controlled by that crazy, demanding bridezilla, Angela. Marvin should be an real man and just call off the wedding. Or at least post-pone it until they get some marriage counseling! But truly, my gut tells me that Marvin should run like hell and never look back! (except for his responsiblities to his children). Angela's just a big bully, who must suffer from low self estem, by humilating Marvin, her bridesmaids and family, she can feel better about herself. When she told Marvin that he looked like a "milk dud" in that cream colored tux, I laughed out loud...ANGELA: do you really think you're Halle Berry's twin????? Have YOU looked into the mirror latley????  I was so hoping that Dr. Phil would pull Marvin aside and school him on the ways of the world, as it seems, no one has ever had that father/son talk with poor Marvin.  He's so sweet and it breaks my heart to watch Angela belittle him and treat him like a child.  But Marvin does allow it, so what can you say? Run Marvin RUN! Get away from Brideszilla while you still can.  That's the best advice anyone can give to you. And Anglea, you're NOT all that! Go and get some professional help and stop tormenting people! (holy cow how do you treat your poor children!!!???)

 

As far as Janae and Michael are concerned, I can't believe that Janae proceeded with the wedding when she realized that Michael was so drunk. When the were saying their vows and she said she saw an open door, why didn't she just bolt? Michael doesn't really seem like a bad guy, but he was wrong for ruining their wedding. How humilated will he be when he has children and the "wedding story" comes up. He should be ashamed of himself. It was nice of Dr. Phil to give them another wedding, but really,  can Janae ever forget/forgive her REAL wedding day? I doubt it.  The make up wedding will never replace or change the TRUTH about Michael and Janae's wedding day.

He did look better in the black outfit!! (IMO)

I agree.  As a woman I was both appalled and pi**ed off after watching that segment.   I couldn't believe the way she constantly emasculates this man.  There's a difference between having the wedding of your dreams and being a complete jerk.  She says she loves him, but she totally ignores his feelings about EVERYTHING. She went WAY over budget for the wedding; she mocked the way he looked in the tux; she embarrased him when he tried to propose.    Why in the h#ll is she even marrying this man?  This isn't love, this is the first signs of spousal abuse.  She already has two children.  And she's treating Marvin like he's one. 

 

Angela talks about being organized.  That's not organization--it's control in the worst possible way.  It's a defense mechanism to keep from being hurt.  Meanwhile she's hurting everybody around her.  Her assertion that she's "better" than she used to be simply means she's just a b*tch and not a super b*tch now.  Wow, what an improvement. 

 

I'd never marry this woman without months of counseling.  It that doesn't work, I'd tell Marvin to take care of his child and then find a woman who will respect him; love him; and work WITH him.    

Angela is being rediculous, demanding and making a fool of herself. She appears to be a selfish, whiney brat.

Does she think this is a flattering side to show the world on national TV? Perhaps she has watched too many TV shows herself and thinks this is how most brides act. She should be embarrassed by her behavior. She is showing Marvin absolutely no respect. He is the one she supposedly loves (though I doubt it-she appears to only love the dress, the ring, the wedding itself) and this is when you should be the kind of "head over heals" in love that is in story books - it only gets harder after the wedding. After 32 years of marriage, I have earned the right to say that.

 

Marvin needs to cut and run - FAST! He seems like a nice guy who deserves way better than Angela.

 

he show on bridezilla's was interesting.  The groom seemed like a nice funny guy, who deserves a lot better than her.  she is a demanding bitch.  If he thinks will be different when they're married is he in for a rude awakening.  It is only going to get worse.   he should head for the hills while he still can.

I totally agree andfrom what I have read fom the other messages so does everyone else.  Marvin should run for the hills.  She is showing her true colors and it will only get worse after the wedding.

 

I wouldn't be friends or anything else with a person like that either.

 I am sure if dr phil felt lke it was a good relationship he would have offered to pay for the wedding also.

 

He also said to marvin you may want to rethink gettng married as things will only become worse once you are.   I don't think a wedding planner would change this womans demeanor.   Marvin just needs to cut his losses and head for the hills.

 Janae and Michael didn't need/deserve a new wedding. It won't erase the first one, or her momories and resentments.  Obviously she played the victim to get a new wedding from you. AND as for Angie and Marvin....I hope Marvin sees what America saw on your show. Angie is mean and controlling. Obviously she wants to get married...doesn't matter to whom, just so he is spineless and easily bossed around. Save that money for something tangible....a new house  a CD perhaps plastic surgery to remove the dangling mole from Angie's chin.