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Topic : 02/27 Internet Cheats

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Created on : Friday, February 22, 2008, 12:13:14 pm
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Dr. Phil talks with an engaged couple who can’t agree on what is appropriate online behavior. Tameka wants her fiancé, Keith, to shut down his three MySpace profiles that she says he uses to flirt with other women. She says he’s addicted to the social networking site and has already cheated on her twice with women he’s met online. Keith says he uses his profiles to promote his business as an entertainer, and flirting is just part of the job. He says getting rid of his profiles would be like cutting off his arm! What happens when Tameka creates her own provocative profile? Will it give Keith a taste of his own medicine? Then, Dr. Phil follows up with this couple one month later. Tameka says she’s still suspicious of Keith’s fidelity. Keith says he’s willing to do anything to prove that he is being faithful, but will he take Dr. Phil up on his offer to take a lie detector test? Share your thoughts, join the discussion.

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February 28, 2008, 9:24 am CST

PROMISCUITY AND REPEATED INFIDELITY - MALE AND FEMALE

If you are with in a relationship with someone, you expect the relationship to grow and deepen over time; you expect a heart connection to be made and maintained.  You operate your life based on this expectation.  When your partner in the relationship does not or cannot make an emotional connection, the relationship becomes very painful.  Some of my favorite books that provide a great introduction and insight into personality types most capable of repeated infidelity are:

 

 

Why Is It Always About You?  The Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism by Sandy Hotchkiss AND  Emotional Blackmail:  When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation and Guilt to Manipulate You by Susan Forward

 

Malignant Self Love:  Narcissism Revisited by Sam Vaknin MAYBE The Professional Bachelors Dating Guide:  How to Exploit Her Inner Psycho by Dr Brett Tate

 

Get Me Out of Here:  My Recovery From Borderline Personality Disorder by Rachel Reiland OR Girl Interrupted by Susanna Kaysen AND Stop Walking on Eggshells by Paul Mason and Randi Kreger

 

Healthy Boundaries Workbook: Using Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills to Set and Maintain Better Boundaries by Deborah Deiboldt Legge OR Overcoming Passive-Aggression by Tim Murphy and Loriann Oberlin

 

How to Journal for Therapy:

http://arar.essortment.com/therapyjournali_repu.htm

 

Healing Anxiety and Depression (7 types of anxiety and depression) by Daniel Amen and Lisa Routh OR Getting Help:  The Complete and Authoritative Guide to Self-Assessment and Treatment of Mental Health Problems by Jeffrey Wood

  

 

Though harder to spot, emotional abuse is easier to deny.  But just as physical abuse has signposts to mark its presence, emotional abuse, being a systematic attack on one's sense of self, has common traits.  Physical abuse comes in degrees of severity - emotional abuse also runs the gamut of intensity and damage.

 

There are relationships, marriages and families that are so destructive the only option is for a person to get out.  Get out with the little bit of sanity you may have remaining.  Make a promise to yourself to leave.  Leave so you can begin a life of healing and recovery.  Leave so you can learn to live a joyful, peaceful, trusting, and fulfilling life.

 

Hope it helps!

 
February 28, 2008, 12:22 pm CST

It was time to go a while back

        I think Tameka should have left a while back.I have read about entertainers bigger than Keith who share everything they receive in those type of forums with their significant others,there are no secrets nor should there be.I hope she has enough sense to leave now.
 
February 28, 2008, 2:17 pm CST

Been there done that

  Here is the deal, he will continue to cheat on line because she allows it.  Threats do nothing, it is like telling a child over and over again "if you do that one more time" they know it is just that a threat and nothing more.  My EX-HUSBAND did that to himself.  I say himself because if I say "to me" then I would have let this continue to be onto me.  My life is better than I ever thought it could be, I have accomplish more after the divorce than I ever would have being married.  No matter what people deserve to be treated with respect and dignity male or female.  If she stays, they marry, have children, and then divorce what has she just taught the children.  I can be a learned behavior, do not allow it.  Good Luck

 

                Divorced, 3 kids, and I like myself now. 

                                                                 Deb

 
February 28, 2008, 6:34 pm CST

02/27 Internet Cheats

I rejoiced when Tameka told him to get out of there and go be with the woman he was cheating with. In my opinion, he's too full of himself to deserve her. She should have dumped him a long time ago. Dr. Phil was right when he said that "You can't be a player and a partner." I really hate it when people act like that. If she dumps him, I reall hope it knocks his oversized ego down a few pegs.
 
February 28, 2008, 6:56 pm CST

Myspace

I have a MYSPACE page, it's a place that I can go & just talk with friends & some family members. There is nothing wrong with having it if you know how to behave yourself. I am married with 2 kids but if  my husband or my kids ever ask to see my page I pull it up & let them see it. This man has done nothing but lied to this woman & she needs to get out while the getting is good. I just wish there were no kids involved because that is never good. I am a strong believer that when it comes to kids in a relationship you need to try everything to make things work but from what i could see from the show she has done more then her part but he wasn't willing to.

Best of luck to her I think she is going to need it :0(

 
February 28, 2008, 7:48 pm CST

A PLAYER IS A PLAYER

G/F...YOU NEED TO  LET THAT MAN  GO!!!!  HE'S PLAYED YOU FOR A FOOL WAY TOO MANY  TIMES.  YOU DESERVE A MAN THAT WILL TREAT YOU BETTER THAN THAT!!  HE TRIED TO MAKE YOU LOOK LIKE  A  FOOL IN FRONT OF MILLIONS...BUT ....INSTEAD...HE S   THE  BIGGEST   FOOL!!!  THATS HOW I  SEE  HIM!!! I LAUGHED AT HIS   SORRY  BUTT!!! HE HAS NO CLUE ABOUT WHAT A GOOD LIFE IS.... YOU DESERVE SOOOOOOOOO MUCH  BETTER AND YOU CAN FIND IT...YOU JUST GOTTA   DUMP  THE   TRASH......
 
February 29, 2008, 10:44 am CST

Leave him!

she's crazier than he is, if she stays with him!

 

Babycakes???!!! LMAO!

 
February 29, 2008, 6:11 pm CST

He should RUN

If Keith wants to reach his full potential in his career as an entertainer, he should have shown her the door a long time ago. She is an anchor with a chain firmly around his neck. Keith, RUN man run.
 
February 29, 2008, 9:56 pm CST

02/27 Internet Cheats

I just think that the internet and these so-called social websites have eroded our society and left people incapable of maintaining REAL relationships.  Do you want to make friends, maybe meet the man/worman of your dreams?  GO OUT in the REAL WORLD and meet them!  Most of these online profiles are filled with bogus lies meant to lure unsuspecting and insecure individuals into these fantasy worlds where you don't have to deal with real problems or issues.  And I'm not just talking about on-line flirters and cheaters.  Before the internet, how often did you hear about school shootings?  These kids are so socially dysfunctional because their only friend is the damn internet, and they have no concept how to relate to a REAL human being face-to-face.  Certainly, I'm not anti-internet, or else I wouldn't be on here writing this; however, I think that people are counting on it more and more for their daily interactions, which is incredibly sad and counterproductive overall.
 
March 2, 2008, 4:44 pm CST

tamika

Quote From: mruzza9

My husband isn't comfortable with computers, but he doesn't look at porn on movies or magazines either. There are some things about my marriage I'm not happy about, but I tell you, I couldn't stand for the man who is supposed to love me above all other women constantly looking at other women! I'd rather be alone that put up with that. I would, too. I wouldn't stand for that mess for anything.
I tink you should concentrae on making yourself happy. Join a  gym. Loose som weight and fee good abut youself. Then you won't think you have to settle for that dog you have ( the 2 legged one) You can make him jealous. But that should not be your focus. you should focus on you. Get yourself together snap out of it. To heck with him. Move on. You have YOU.
 
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