is senseless, to those who have been burned either way by the torch that sex emboldens, there is no light brighter. To the young girl, who unknowingly accepts a more mature advances, there are no comparisons. It just happens all too quickly and as we turn around, we are forever changed by a single act.
Whether pre-meditated, or briefly spoken about in hidden agendas, taboo subjects, religious beliefs, make no mistake about it, sex is a life changing event.
It is one of the hottest items on the menu, teens actively ralley around their friends eager to share there almost and what if's, but until the actual moment of seduction is met with anticipation there is no idea of the shared relations that allow two people to know one another like never before.
For some the experience is not planned, those will be the ones hit the hardest, to think they may have had a leg up, for choice of a better expression. They did not, they subcumed to pressure by a immature person whether male or female. The person choose to make a intimate contact, with out being prepared, is having a condom reason to believe that you are prepared? Well, if the answere is yes, then so be it, then you knowingly had sex, whether it was the ideal. The two people together walked into the decision of having sex, consenual both in agreement. Whether steaming up windows, or slight conversation, the two people knew they were going to have sex.
Even though the events may seem to unfold quickly, when there is not as much chemistry, and for choice of a better word, lets just say for the sake of sex, then it could turn out to be a different interaction, like, "hey I like you, but" I just don't think right now is the right time. People go through a series of yes and no receptors, even as things are happening, so for two people to induct themselves into a a sexual act, it is known what exactly is going on.
I would not want to add the credence of religion into this argument, because as young people are, and they may come from fine religious households, it dosen't matter. The role of religion matters when young people are tuned in and actually listening. There are too many examples of males putting pressure on girls to perform sexual acts, and girls being girls may be hormonal, or may decide that they will lose Mr.Wonderful or Ms.Wonderful who ever is laying down the law, that what must be must be. It is totally assign, but it happens. Amongst young men, latino and eurpean especially are ripe for the family conversations that any kid who has ever went though puberty knows sex is kind of everywhere. If your parents are divorced, and have significant others, and there in another room behind closed doors, and there is giggling, or if some long winded conversation is going on, about all the things that are going on in so-and so marraige, kids learn nuances quickly regarding the act of sexual identity, sexual intercourse, and the strange and usually unnavagatable feeling of the naivete of not having sexual intercourse until...people are going to get married. If that could be done on both behalfs, such as was seen with Jessica Simpson and Nick Lachey, unfortunately their marraige broke apart, but I am sure there are others, that are definitely more open minded about the total unpreparedness and potential heartache that could come from promiscious behavior. It is offending to God, but when dealing with teen mentality, and the pressure that young people are under, it is seriously hard to think that we are able to somehow control them, given to their own devices, and with parents working, it happens. Can schools help in this crisis by giving out some form of birth control? I would like to believe on the outside yes, but I think that schools are being placed in the middel. What is worse is that from the point of view of lets say a sixth grader or eighth grade kid, the realtiy has to be, "sex can't be that bad, there giving us protection" even though there may be much more discussion than just that "giving protection" in the mind of a child, and I by no means am no expert, I would stil be hard pressed to believe that a child has a clear idea of "why" the school is doing this.
If the kid is just more level headed, great but those that are level headed I am sure are by far the exception to the rule, than the rule. I would think that the role of religion will be more appreciated, once we fall upon a couple of bumps in the road, to what we call life. That is why religion should not be the model here, the model should come from home, and the examples that are set there. The schools role is to educate children, sex and sexuality, and sexual identity will come under guise as kids continue on through the years at school, but ultimately the school is there to educate. Unless, the Federal Governement would like to give more money and funding, and of course the public approves such funding, then you can have a Planned Parenthood site on the school grounds. Then that leads up to a whole other batch of issues, but the school utlmately is there to teach, and parents should be given more help to form small local chapters of "Lets Talk About It" type hype, that might help young teens think a little bit more about those ever fleeting teen years, that some teens might actually enjoy holding on to, with out the added pressure of "well, I tried to get with so and so last night", but...(some dumb ass excuse comes out instead). So that is where I stand on this rather interesting topic. (Let me just add one more observation, remember the movie that Brittany Spears made a couple of short years ago, "Cross Roads". It had some interesting ideas that shed some light on two recent h.s. grads at a hotel, and thinking that they are still virgins, and that it was a problem, so they should have sex, so this way at the least the "virgin" thing would be no more. But, before making that encounter, they shed their ideas about why, and the most significant out ot the three ideas, is that they are both super smart students, by the end of the hotel episode, they start putting there clothes on, and they actually "both" get the idea, that their reasoning to losing their virginity is senseless and with out merit. It is necesarry to say, the character Brittany plays does eventually "lose" her virginity to another guy, and of course like myraid gold, most things made in HollyWood tend to set into the sunshine, and everybody walks away fairly happy. Well, as we know in real life, there are the all too many talk shows that shine a lite on this rather obstinate subject, one people can't seem to stay away from, and all too often have been somehow disillusioned about "what it all means" to whom and "why" will be the question that will stand the reason of time.
Should schools be allowed to pass out birth control to students? Should teens be forced to take vows of purity? Dr. Phil and Bishop T.D. Jakes, author of Reposition Yourself, tackle these and other controversial issues. First up, Ed is an abstinence educator who believes the only safe sex for teens is no sex. But 21-year-old Shelby calls Ed’s tactics “dangerous” and says kids need sex education in schools to stop teen pregnancy. Are abstinence-only programs effective? See what Dr. Phil and the Bishop think. Then, Lisette says if she had had access to birth control when she was 12 years old, she wouldn't have had a baby at 13. Is her school to blame for not handing out birth control? What’s right for your child? Plus, is it realistic for teens to live by purity pledges until they get married? A sexually active 14-year-old and an 18-year-old virgin face off on this touchy topic. And, another issue making the headlines is: Should pregnant teens be given maternity leave? Dr. Lisa Masterson, an OB-GYN and member of The Doctors, shares her views, join the discussion and share your views too!
