Topic : 03/03 Teens and Sex with Bishop T.D. Jakes

    Life is tough enough without adding adult decisions before you are one.  If virginity is a choice, it should be a private choice.  Swearing in public to remain a virgin until marriage . . . is tactless and distasteful. 

     You are right.  Fundamentalists do not take this kind of information, well.   They tend to forget that Christ himself said, "Go, and sin no more."  And worse, some of them forget the passage "judge not, least ye be judged."

      My mother dragged my sister into the guidance office with the girls in my class.  She knew that I had ceased to be a virgin when I was 17.  My mother proclaimed this before my classmates.  She also proclaimed that my younger sister was not the "same kind of girl" that I was.  My sister was a sweet, pure little virgin.  She would never do anything wrong.

      And, my mother went on and on and on and on and on.  It was her Christian duty.

You can also teach your child enough about sex and love your child enough so that she respects herself enough NOT to want sex. Our children know ALL about sex, but also of the consequences.

My teen wants college. She wants a career. She knows what boys wants. She likes boys. But she's been told what they're about. She also knows her mother got HPV from being stupid by having sex before marriage. She knows about sex and the difference between love & committment (marriage) and a young, immature relationship that ends after high school. She knows that everyone wants immediate gradification, but mature people can wait. She knows that anyone who TRULY loves her will respect her enough to wait for her.

Will she wait until marriage? Who knows. Only she does. She's gorgeous. She's an Honors student. She's an athelete. She's an independent and kind young woman. She's also blessed to believe in God and have a family who follows His teachings. And most importantly, she's blessed with a strong family and a great dad who's told her to accept no crap from guys. But we surely don't push the idea of HERE'S PROTECTION on her. We don't make it acceptable. She knows it's out there. She also knows the STUPID kids are having sex young!

Children are NOT little adults. They need to know about sex and that includes ALL the bad stuff, which is 99% of teenage sex. They are not emotionally nor physically ready for sex as teens. Look at the stats on being used. On lonliness. On disease. On pregnancy. On abortion. On suicide. On how it feel physcially for the female (often not good).

Too many people leave GOD out of the picture. It's sad that people call themselves CHRISTIAN but forget all about God's teachings on sex. How convenient for us. Apparently HE knew what he was talking about because if we followed His teachings we wouldn't have disease, abortion, suicide, lonliness, unwanted pregnancy,etc!