Topic : 03/03 Teens and Sex with Bishop T.D. Jakes

I am a 21 soon to turn 22 year old student who is about to finish my fourth year od college and my 3rd year of nursing school. I have a little insight on this sitution seeing how I am looking at it as a future health care provider and a young women living and being bombared by the media about sex. In the 5th grade we got the "talk" at school and I remember everyone being like Oh my gosh! In jr high we were presented willl all of our options when it comes to having sex and protection. We even took home electronic babies that would cry and ect. In high school at my church we were tought abstenistance. I was able to make a informed decision. My mom is also a nurse and I was able to go to my mom with any questions that i had. I can't believe that there are people out there who think that you should not be teaching young peopl about all of there option. Why would we wnat to present  these kids with only one side of the story. I was able to make a decision on my own of what i wanted to do. I made it through several years of college and never  had sex. I am sexually active now but I am getting married in a year and I have only ever been wiht the man that i am marrying and the same goes for him. I live in area where teenage pregancy is the highest in my state. We need to be educating these children on their options to help lower therse rates. Who know what will happen is we actually allow or teenagers to grow up and make sure major decision like this own their own. All parents what their child to have a good head on their shoulders and how can they make the decision with out all the information on the table. Most of us look at all sides of the information before we make major life decisions like this.

As a sixteen year old, I obviously know all about the conflicts that the US is having with teen pregnancy and sex at too early of an age. It IS a big problem, whether people want to acknowledge it or not. Hell, just this week there was chaos at my school when a girl in my grade (sixteen years old) made a sex tape with her boyfriend BEHIND THE SCHOOL STAIRCASE. Then the tape was sent throughout the school via cellphones and youtube.

Honestly? I don't think that teens are smart enough to have sex while fully understanding what the are doing. I'm a virgin and plan to remain that way until I found someone truly love when I'm out of highschool. I'm not religious or something, and I didn't have abstinence drilled into me since I was young. I was simply taught not to have sex, and that was the extent of it. However, I have enough self-worth and self-respect that I know I shouldn't give into peer pressure.

I think that's the problem. The girls don't have any self-worth. They think that it's normal to have to do these things, and that they should since others are doing it. It's ridiculous, in my opinion. They should have more respect for themselves than to do something that they can't even fully comprehend at their age.

I apologize for typos, this website makes my keyboard skip for some reason.

In response to Bishop T. D. Jakes comment about having a show about 6, and 7 year olds. I have a 6 and 8 year old who is constantly bringing up sex because of other children in school. I have not decided to have the sex talk with then yet but I plan sometime in the near future because there is no where around it. We as parents and as Christians try to teach our children the best that we know however once our children are away from our care they belong to someone else. I do not agree on birth controll in school because there needs to be a seperation. But I do agree with the doctor that was there that they need to develope a relationship with a doctor because after all children do have their own minds and will make their own decisions. The ultimate is to teach our children and put trust in them they will make the correct choice, but it is also up to us to give them the tools (education they need) about sex and should not be left up to the schools to do it.

I believe education is key. In this day and age kids know a lot more then we like to give them credit for. They will do it when they feel it is right, and parents may not be aware that it is happening. As in many other things in life, keeping them informed will allow them to make an appropriate decsion. But not only should we teach them about safe sex, but all options when it comes to sexual activity.

I personally believe that sex before marriage is very important. A healthy marriage must include happiness in all areas of the relationship. If one waits until he/she is married, and finds out that sexually he/she is not compatible in that department, I believe that over time resentment grows, and thoughts of straying develop, making for a very unhealthy relationship.

  Children should not be encouraged to have sex,period!  Having condoms and contraceptives available to teens because it gives them the allowance to have sex and think it's ok to have sex just because they have condoms! Just wait! You will not die because you are not having sex. America today has lowered its standards and everyday it lowers exponentialy. Soon there would be no standards to go by and that is not good at all.

     It's sad to watch a 14 year old saying that she became sexually active at 13. Just because she's using condoms doesnt make it alright at all!  Even though she is mature,she shouldnt be having sex. I'm dissapointed with her mother. She is only 13 and disgusting. Yes,13 year olds in my country r married and it's their custom. But they are married,not single.

    I dint have sex until I was 21. And that was a year ago... I wasnt taught sex ed. in secondary school and that didnt make me ignorant about sex. I know what sex is  and what sex is for... Not one day did I decide to have sex because I knew the consequences...Abstinence people!!