Topic : 03/03 Teens and Sex with Bishop T.D. Jakes

My parents thought once I reached 14 they could go back to work fulltime because I was old enough to be alone...they went to work 3-11pm...My only supervision was my own...Well I did alot of stuff I should have never been allowed to do..All I'm saying is don't think you can go back to work just because your children are old enough to be on their own,get different schedules,have a grandparent stay w/ them,get them involved in extra after school activities....I wish my parents had...

This is idealism at it's best, there is NO WAY kids are not going to have sex, espeically if society starts saying it's wrong. Sex & safe sex education is absoultely nescessary in this world. Just because a kid has sex doesn't mean they're going to be called a slut, this is so ridiculous and outdated. I'm ready to change the channel...

I agree with you completely. I have birth to my son in January of 2005. I was very lucky that my school allowed my to go on maternity leave. They allowed me 2 weeks before I had my son and 5 weeks after I had him. I believe that a mother needs the time to bond with her baby. Just because society looks down on teen mothers doesn't mean they need to make the baby suffer by not having enough time to bond with its mother.

Teen sex wouldnt be the rule if you didn't just hand them birth control. Its one thing to educate them and anouther to pass out birthcontrol to children so the can have sex. Before birth control was passed out in schools there were a few girls that had sex and had babies before they married. Now that the schools have been pass it out  about half the girls here are unwed mothers and a lot of there children have different fathers.

 

  There are two different things with this topic. one rather or not schools should pass out birthcontrol. The other is to swear in public that you will remain a virgin.  I do not believe school should pass it out but I also dont believer they should have students stand up in public and swear either.  

Human chemistry and sexuality didn't change age simply because the religious fanatics of our society did.  I am a 30 year veteran of the medical industry and we would not have the disease and teen pregnancies we see today if communication was open and honest.  As a parent of two responsible, and sexually active older teens, ,my way works.....communication, communication, communication starting at a very young age.  Where you found the idiot on stage, I have no idea but teens are NOT contracting disease because of non-intercoursal sex!!!!  HE needs an education.  Teens are also not nessisarily permiscuous if they are active.  Both of my kids waited until they found someone to have a dedicated, loving realationship.  Europeans sit back and shake their heads at us Americans.  We have a totally open society and are the most sexually uptight people in the world!  I don't want school systems teaching sex because they won't teach it the way I feel it should be taught.  However, there are so many parents not discussing it, they need to learn the facts somewhere.  But Lord help us all if the 'teacher' on stage is the only option.  And to the Reverend....'children do not have sex'  HELLO????????????  Our parents, grandparents and greatgrandparents and  great great, etc got married at 13!!!!!!  There is a reason for that.  It's called chemistry.....HUMAN CHEMISTRY!  YOU CAN NOT CHANGE IT!  This IS God's way.  Now, do I think people should still be getting married as teens.....no, most definitely not.  But that does not mean they can't learn about their sexuality in a real and safe manner.  Wake up.  Teaching abstinance has not solved the growing problems of STD's and teen pregnancies.  It's long past time for open and honest communication.

I totally agree with promoting abstinence but also believe in educating kids about places such as Planned Parenthood where they can go anonymously.  I don’t believe kids make the decision to have sex because they have protection.  From my own experience, I believe very little thought goes into that decision. 

My concern about today’s show was some of the attitudes towards these young girls after they became pregnant.  As my Dad used to say, “You can’t lock the barn after the horse is stolen.”  That is not the time to correct or punish by keeping them out of school or making them return too soon.  I gave birth to my first child when I was 16.  I was scared, embarrassed and humiliated.   I didn’t know which way to turn.  I needed advice, not judgment.  I quit school and stayed with my baby’s father because I didn’t know what else to do. 

At the age of 20 I was divorced with 3 children.  I took a GED and spent 9 years earning a bachelor’s degree.  I am proud to say that those 3 girls now have bachelor’s degrees and are happy, well-rounded young ladies.  Even though we came through this pretty well, many do not.  I whole-heartedly believe that the best thing to do is educate and support these girls and help them into adulthood.  Judging them only tears down their self esteem.  Keep in mind they are now mothers and we need them to be mentally, spiritually and financially healthy to raise the next generation.

 

What part of sex is something that a 9 year old can't understand? I think it's all pretty much understandable...By the time my child is 9 she will know pretty much everything about sex. Why? Because she'll be going through puberty only 2 years from then!

My daughter already has learned about sperm and eggs and how the different body parts fit together like a puzzle...and she's 3!

I believe that purity is the way to go, if I had the chance to do it all over again I would wait in a heart beat. I believe that sex is great after marriage but until you are married you should wait. Find other things that can keep your attention such as sports or whatever. No man can ever be respectful of a woman and vice versa when they are having sex before marriage. I believe that when you get married it's greater later.

I believe that morals should be put into a child's life while they are young, by their parent or guardian. If a child is taught not to have sex they are less likely to. The information learned in a classroom will not make them want to go and engage in sexual activities. It would just be education. Also, giving condoms will not be an Okay for sex. Giving a teenager a condom is not telling them its Okay it's telling them to be safe. When I was in high school and received a condom I gave it to someone I knew was sexually active, because I knew I did not need it. Giving a condom is not going to make them say, "Let's go try it!!!" And I think that that is ridiculous to say. If children are being taught the right things at home no class will change their morals.

Overall, I think we should give young people more credit than we do. They all are not as easily influenced as we may believe.

Well when I was in school, I had a sex education class...my teacher taught every form of birth control including abstinence.  Theres no reason a school cannot teach both...whether some people like it or not, teens are boud to have sex...so why not inform teenagers about all sides to having sex including consequences, birth control, and abstinence.  I am a teen mother and I think it is even rediculous to not offer maternity leave to student mothers.  Maybe people out there arent happy about children having children but dont penalize someone for having a baby "too young" by societies opinion.  Just like a grown woman needs time to heal so doesnt teenage girls, even more so when it comes to hormones.  I dont think that schools should hand out birth control to students, but i do think maybe they should hand out resources to local planned parenthoods that do hand out birth control.  If you really think teens are going to talk to their parents about sex, your sadly mistaken...some teens may but most dont...its just all around an uncomfortable situation.  Like i said I am a teen mother, I do not regret having a baby and i do not live off of my mother or father.  Just because a teen has a baby doesnt mean their life has ended... i do not recommend getting pregnant before finishing high school because my life could have been alot farther than it is now but at the same time i would t change my life for anything.   Anyhow my point is this...if teenagers are going to have sex, why not educate all sides, so at least they will be a bit safer.  Like the obgyn said, everyone is their own person, it is hard to just teach abtinence because not everyone will listen...actually the majority will not listen.  telling teenagers to not have sex is going to push them to sex...thts just the way it is.  addressing every issue is the best solution for everyone...because there is no way to make teens stop having sex all together.