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April 2, 2008, 12:40 pm PDT
03/03 Teens and Sex with Bishop T.D. Jakes
Quote From: gwarrior6
It's wrong to keep people ignorant of their own bodies. Sex ed is a must, but also keep that ongoing talk and expand on it as they grow. Teens are going to have sex, it's pretty much a rule. I'd like to think that knowledge is protection. Doesn't the pastor want kids to be protected? HIV/AIDS, Hepatitis, and Syphilis are 10x more horrible than premarital sex. It's preventable if they have the info- and there is a myriad of it now- and info is control, control is empowerment.
I don't think the stigmatization of virginity is fair, either. You can focus sexual energy into immense productivity, which can help achieve your goals. But it should be a personal, private, informed choice, not something you swear to in public. It can be a beautiful, spiritual thing if it's kept a personal matter, IMO. Don't share your sex status with a fundamentalist, NEVER a good idea.... I am rather amazed that people are surprised at the current state of our young people. If I have processed my information right, our kids are obese, sex-crazed, disrespectful, and stupid. But, I think most of us so-called 'parents' have the situation reversed. These children are doing exactly what they are allowed to do. And, a lot of them are copying what they see mommy, and daddy doing. Are you really surprised that a school is thinking about giving out birth control? Think long and hard about it. When these kids come home from school, who is there? Mom's have to work these days just like Dads do. If you were a teenager coming home to nobody, what would you do? The possibilties are endless. Some kids are going to do the right thing. Some kids are going to some of the right things, and one or two wrong things. Some kids are going to do whatever they want, and that includes drugs, sex, and nothing to do with school studies. Is it any wonder kids are making bad choices? Who is there to guide them? A lot of people think that when a kid gets the word 'teen' in his age description, you can kind of let them go. I think you have to guide, and teach them how to make the right choices. In order to do that you have to be there. A lot ot the problems that we are having with our youth come down to one thing. A lack of supervision. I remember being a teenager during the 80's, and you talk about fast times. Drugs, sex, and rock n' roll were a way of life for a lot of my friends. Their parents would be at work, or whatever, and these kids did whatever they wanted. But, not me. My mom would be sitting there on the couch waiting for me almost every day. I had to be home by 3:30 p.m. I had to tell her where I was going. She would go in my room to make sure there was nothing in there that shouldn't be in there. I had to be accountable. As a teenager, I hated it. Why couldn't she mind her own business? But, now that I am almost 40 years old, with a daughter of my own, I thank my mother for what she did. She saved me from a lot things that I saw my friends go through. I was not pregnant at umpteen years old; I was not hooked on alcohol, or drugs. I was a supervised child, and as things came up, my Mother helped me through it. I can't thank her enough. I have seen a lot of my peers deal with everything from having babies to soon, to drug addiction, to AIDS. I have at least ten friends who were dead by 1999 as a result of decisions they made in their teen years. Kids need truthful information, guidance, and parental supervision all of their young lives in order to have half a chance of getting through the minefield of the teen years. I, also, emulated what I saw in my home. My mother did not drink, or do drugs in front of me. She was married to my father, and acted the way a married woman should act in front of her children. You can't get drunk, and stoned in front of your children, and then try to tell them that they should not do the same thing. It doesn't work that way. You, also, can't be out of touch with your kids, and then be surprised at the things they chose to do without your guidance. A lot of these kids are operating on their own. The schools are going to be the first in a lot of cases to see whats going on. That's why this particular school is even talking about the birth control issue. Some kids don't want to talk about sex with their parents, others can't talk to their parents for whatever reason. But, it just seems to me that a lot of these kids are on their own. I don't know what the answer is to a lot of this, because it costs so damned much to live these days, and mothers have to work in a lot of situations. But, I do know that our children need us, and our wisdom. A lot of them are not getting it. I don't like judging people, because I don't know what a lot of people's deals are, but I just see a lot of kids on their own, and making some horrble mistakes.
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Should schools be allowed to pass out birth control to students? Should teens be forced to take vows of purity? Dr. Phil and Bishop T.D. Jakes, author of Reposition Yourself, tackle these and other controversial issues. First up, Ed is an abstinence educator who believes the only safe sex for teens is no sex. But 21-year-old Shelby calls Ed’s tactics “dangerous” and says kids need sex education in schools to stop teen pregnancy. Are abstinence-only programs effective? See what Dr. Phil and the Bishop think. Then, Lisette says if she had had access to birth control when she was 12 years old, she wouldn't have had a baby at 13. Is her school to blame for not handing out birth control? What’s right for your child? Plus, is it realistic for teens to live by purity pledges until they get married? A sexually active 14-year-old and an 18-year-old virgin face off on this touchy topic. And, another issue making the headlines is: Should pregnant teens be given maternity leave? Dr. Lisa Masterson, an OB-GYN and member of The Doctors, shares her views, join the discussion and share your views too!
