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Topic : 03/04 The Dr. Phil House: Rules of Engagement, Part 3

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Four engaged couples have been living in The Dr. Phil House to determine whether or not to marry. The last day approaches as the couples are put to one more test. Dr. Phil gives one person from each pair a "bump in the road" to see how their partner responds to an unfortunate turn of events. Donning a pregnancy suit, Lacey surprises Kalin with the news that she’s pregnant with someone else’s child. Steve is made to look older and obese. Lisa loses her good looks as she’s made to look like she’s living on the streets. And, Tim is in a wheelchair and tells Lilly he won’t be able to take care of her like he used to. Don’t miss the surprising – and not so surprising – reactions. Then, in a final meeting, the couples learn what Dr. Phil thinks are their biggest challenges as partners. Find out who has the hardest time with Dr. Phil’s relationship diagnosis and leaves the room in tears. Finally, Dr. Phil reveals some amazing prizes for the winners of the teamwork challenge. As some rejoice, others don’t handle the disappointment well. Plus, Dr. Phil gives an update on his guests since they’ve left The House. Are they all still headed for the altar? Tell us what you think!

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March 1, 2008, 9:49 am CST

Doctor House Part Phil Show Three.

Doctor Engage House Ment Of Phil Rules The Three. Finaley that what did it. Doctor Phil now you did it.----

You whent to far but I still like your show alot. See you on Tuesday March 04th, 2008. Sincerley Your. Rus--

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March 2, 2008, 12:58 am CST

03/04 The Dr. Phil House: Rules of Engagement, Part 3

Quote From: hpmx59

Doctor Engage House Ment Of Phil Rules The Three. Finaley that what did it. Doctor Phil now you did it.----

You whent to far but I still like your show alot. See you on Tuesday March 04th, 2008. Sincerley Your. Rus--

sell Vlaanderen.--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------

All I have to say is DON'T DO IT!!! I've been there, done that twice. It's just not worth it.
 
March 4, 2008, 4:25 am CST

03/04 The Dr. Phil House: Rules of Engagement, Part 3

Quote From: mhpked

All I have to say is DON'T DO IT!!! I've been there, done that twice. It's just not worth it.
Don't give up. Maybe you did it with the wrong people.
 
March 4, 2008, 8:06 am CST

PROMISCUITY AND REPEATED INFIDELITY - MALE AND FEMALE

If you are with in a relationship with someone, you expect the relationship to grow and deepen over time; you expect a heart connection to be made and maintained.  You operate your life based on this expectation.  When your partner in the relationship does not or cannot make an emotional connection, the relationship becomes very painful.  Some of my favorite books that provide a great introduction and insight into personality types most capable of repeated infidelity are:

  

 

Why Is It Always About You?  The Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism by Sandy Hotchkiss AND Emotional Blackmail:  When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation and Guilt to Manipulate You by Susan Forward

 

Malignant Self Love:  Narcissism Revisited by Sam Vaknin MAYBE The Professional Bachelors Dating Guide:  How to Exploit Her Inner Psycho by Dr Brett Tate

 

Get Me Out of Here:  My Recovery From Borderline Personality Disorder by Rachel Reiland OR Girl Interrupted by Susanna Kaysen AND Stop Walking on Eggshells by Paul Mason and Randi Kreger

 

Healthy Boundaries Workbook: Using Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills to Set and Maintain Better Boundaries by Deborah Deiboldt Legge OR Overcoming Passive-Aggression by Tim Murphy and Loriann Oberlin

 

How to Journal for Therapy:

http://arar.essortment.com/therapyjournali_repu.htm

 

Healing Anxiety and Depression (7 types of anxiety and depression) by Daniel Amen and Lisa Routh OR Getting Help:  The Complete and Authoritative Guide to Self-Assessment and Treatment of Mental Health Problems by Jeffrey Wood

 

 

Though harder to spot, emotional abuse is easier to deny.  But just as physical abuse has signposts to mark its presence, emotional abuse, being a systematic attack on one's sense of self, has common traits.  Physical abuse comes in degrees of severity - emotional abuse also runs the gamut of intensity and damage.

 

There are relationships, marriages and families that are so destructive the only option is for a person to get out.  Get out with the little bit of sanity you may have remaining.  Make a promise to yourself to leave.  Leave so you can begin a life of healing and recovery.  Leave so you can learn to live a joyful, peaceful, trusting, supportive, and fulfilling life.

 

Hope it helps!

 
March 4, 2008, 9:24 am CST

Don't get along when dating....BREAK UP!!!

Have to admit I turned off these shows very quickly.

 

As far as I am concerned, if ANY COUPLE has lots of problems dating, they should simply BREAK UP. If there are children invovled, that's a different story (they should work on their relationship tooth and nail).

 

Marriage is 1000x harder than dating. Dating couples should be having the times of their lives. IF they are not, they should find someone else to be with (or go it alone until they GROW UP).

 

I have been married HAPPILY for 18 years. We have 2 children age 7 and 13. We are the best of friends and lovers. Never a mean word. We spend our free time together. We have great relatives and parents. We attend church together on Sundays and all take active roles in the church. We volunteer. Life is GREAT.

AND WE HAD THE BEST YEAR OF DATING!!! We were committed to eachother then as we are now!

 

Life is too short to live in chaos. If you can't get along when you're dating, you'll end up in divorce court. Why waste your time now. Work on growing up before messing up your life, some other adults and the lives of innocent children!

 
March 4, 2008, 9:27 am CST

It takes TWO to dance...

Quote From: housewife52

Don't give up. Maybe you did it with the wrong people.

If s/he did it TWICE, who's the common denominator? (as Dr. Phil would say).  It take 2 to tango. Both people are responsible for making a relationship work.

 

Marriages are supposed to last a lifetime. They are supposed to be committments before God, if people are Christian. And it seems SO many people want big church weddings these days:)

 

Too bad most of us humans spend more time working on our careers and planning our social lifes than we do working on our human relationships. I'm not directing this to you or the poster; I'm making a general statement. With our country's high divorce rate, you KNOW there's a sad problem...

 
March 4, 2008, 11:14 am CST

Lacey and Kalin

I know they're a long shot but I'm hoping they work things out. Kalin has certainly done awful things but he has self-awareness and a desire to change. Dr. Phil asked Lacey why she kept going back to him and she didn't really have an answer, but I think it's probably because they have so much time invested in each other, plus, lets face it, Kalin is a very handsome man and she loves him.
I didn't think their role-play was entirely fair. Yes, he had an affair, but he didn't get the girl pregnant and bring the baby to Lacey to raise. That's what she was asking of Kalin. It takes an exceptional man to love and raise another man's child and Kalin would be the first to admit that he's working hard to reach "average" not exceptional.
Frankly, I don't think we can expect unconditional love from our spouses. If we're lucky we get that from our parents but we all have limits to what we will put up with where our spouses are concerned. At the end of the day we can only truly have unconditional love from the amazing grace of God.
 
March 4, 2008, 12:47 pm CST

Why do we care about these people?

Whether or not these people get married, and beyond that have successful marriages is of no interest at all to me.  They're living together, they're enjoying all the benefits of marriage, why should they get married?  They are living what many would consider an immoral lifestyle, so why should we worry about their marriages failing if they do get married? 

 
March 4, 2008, 1:09 pm CST

Lacey and Kalin

Lacey should run and not look back. Once a cheater always a cheater. When things go wrong, these kind of men always run away. They are too interested in themselves to care about another person.

No relationship exists if it's not based on love, trust, faithfulness,integrity, or honor.

Run, Lacey, run as far and as fast as possible.

 
March 4, 2008, 2:08 pm CST

03/04 The Dr. Phil House: Rules of Engagement, Part 3

I think Stephanie made some remarkable progress toward the end of today's show. That "princess" mentality she brought with her is a developmental phase most children go through when they enter toddlerhood. And, normaly grown out of. Stephanie just grew out of it much later in life, with Dr Phil's help. Now, it's Steve who needs to grow up! Accusing the team who won the tire-change challenge of cheating was bad enough. But, sulking about their prize was so over-the-top childish that had I been there, Dr Phil would've had to physically restrain me from sticking a pacifier in Steve's mouth. He knew that team would be getting a prize. And, for a tire-changing challenge, car's are logical prizes. And, they weren't even that expensive. KIA SUV's are about the lowest priced on the market. One would think, the way that steve threw himself on his bed, that the other team had won pimped out Beamer or Lexus SUV's. I'm surprised he didn't suck his thumb. Grow up, Steve!
 
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