Topic : 03/14 Legal Wars

Doctor Legal Phil Wars. What does that means? I donot understand that at all. I hope this week will go------

well. See you on Thursday March 06th, 2008. Sincerley Your. Russell Vlaanderen.----------------------------------

I divorced my husband 15 years ago because he was verbally abusing me and my kids.  It took me over 2 years to get the divorce finalized, because marc did everything he could to delay the process.  I've spent over $70,000, and the last 15 years fighting him in court over various issues.  I fought for 7 years before I was awarded full custody of my kids, by a sympathetic judge who listened to my story and believed me.

Now my ex has served papers on me to get full custody of our 17 year old son.  (He will be 18 in three months.)  And my ex served papers suing me for $8600, because he paid for half of "after school care from 2002 to 2006" for our kids, and he said he found "new evidence" that I did not provide after school care for our kids. 

What makes this whole thing so disgusting is that marc has had little to do with our kids since I was awarded full custody of them.  He blames the lack of a relationship on me, but the truth is that he rejected our kids.  He used to tell them frequently that he was "too busy" to see them, and the only time he saw them was for dinner a few times every year. Now all of a sudden he wants full custody of our son (but not our daughter!)?  And another reason he listed for getting full custody of our son was because I "did not foster a relationship between the kids" and marc.  He did a fine job of pushing  the kids away from him all on his own!!

My ex has caused so much emotional damage to the kids and I.  And we are not done yet.  Dr. Phil, I hope that you can have an impact on the legal system, and help to prevent abusers from continuing the abuse through the legal system.  Many judges (including my current judge) do not have an awareness of abuse, and don't know how to handle abusive men in court.  The judge we currently have told me that I had to endure being called indecent names, being cursed at, and being lectured about all my "faults" by my ex, so that I could get important information from him!  Huh?  I wonder if the judge is verbally abusive to his wife.....

Yes, that case even made headlines, well, subheadlines, here.

Rich fundamentalist couple, ugly divorce, lots of expenses for the NY courts.

Were they living here, it would be a Halachic divorce, and she'd more than likely be left penniless.

I'll go back to the site here, after the show airs, 'cause we get the reruns with a delay of about two years!

      Ok, you told me all about what you want.  What does your son want?  Does he want to have the best relationship he can with his father? 

      It is a hard choice:  Do you want your son to be happy, or do you want to be right? 

     I was in high school a long time ago.  I loved speed as much as anyone else. 

     One day, I watched a spot on television.  It was about Mario Andretti, who had the pole position at Indy, and won the 500 that year.  He was driving to work.  He used his seat belt.  Checked his mirrors.  Started his private car.  Obeyed traffic laws.  Used his turn signals.  "If everyone drove like Mario on the freeway, the world  would be a much safer place." 

     Then, they showed him parking his car in a parallel sport.  Perfectly controlled, of coarse.  Then, he reported for work as a race car driver--in a controlled setting with equally excellent co-workers. 

      Mario has had a lasting effect on me. 

Doctort Legal Phil Wars. That did it that went too far Doctor Phil. Slow down a little bit. See you on Friday----

March 14th, 2008. Sincerley Your. Russell Vlaanderen.----------------------------------------------------------------------