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Topic : 03/07 Dr. Phil Now: Sex Offenders Next Door

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Created on : Thursday, March 06, 2008, 04:36:16 am
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Don’t miss Dr. Phil’s exclusive interview with Brianna Denison's mother who is speaking out for the first time since her daughter's body was found. Nineteen-year-old Brianna made headlines when she was kidnapped while she slept on a friend's couch. Brianna's killer – an alleged serial rapist -- is still on the loose in Reno, NV. And, a controversial issue is heating up the headlines: Where should registered sex offenders live when they’re released from prison? Residents of Long Beach, California say not in their neighborhood. They’re outraged that an apartment building is allegedly housing 13 registered sex offenders, and the building owner is reportedly receiving $1,000 per month to house them. Former tenants, James and Getania, were disgusted to learn that the sex offenders were living in their building, and local residents weren’t happy either. Dawna owns several properties near the apartment complex. She says she’s losing tenants and the sex offenders are stalking others. Then, Jake Goldenflame, a registered sex offender who was convicted of molesting his daughter and young boys over 25 years ago, says he's still attracted to teenage boys, but says people like him have no resources and need to live somewhere. What does Dr. Phil think? Should the sex offenders be forced to leave the community, or should their neighbors just learn to live with them? If it's happening now, Dr. Phil is going to deal with it now! Join the discussion.

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March 6, 2008, 2:52 pm CST

WHERE YOU SAY

Quote From: snowflaque

Pedophiles cannot be 'rehabilitated'. Where should they live? Well, there's a lot of desert in California and Arizona! 
ALCATRAZ ISLAND WHERE THEY CAN PUT A SHARK ENCLOSURE OUT 2 MILES AROUND ISLAND! MILITARY FOOD DROPS FOR SHARKS AND PEDS.
 
March 6, 2008, 3:31 pm CST

Sex Offenders

I think sex offenders should be put in prison for life.  It has been proven that they cannot be rehabilitated. I agree with the person that said Loce them up and throw away the key!!!!!!
 
March 6, 2008, 3:50 pm CST

Helping to stop the problem

As a former teacher, I heard boys saying horrible things about girls and making them sound like prey and worthless beings, not equals.  When a female teacher would say anything, the boys would simply nod their heads as if they understood, only to start when the teacher left.  Very few of the men teachers ever said anything, as if they were in agreement, and diffinitely did not offer any direction as to what young men should be thinking and how to behave in civilized ways.  -- Programs, movies and even grown men do not treat women or girls with respect, but again show them as lesser creatures,  and men who score are called winners.  Until these attitudes change, the sex offenders will feel that they have a right to females as much as hunting and killing birds.  -- We must keep the males who belittle females from producing programs and games that show females as weak, stupid, and "fair game" or even treated with anything but respect and kindness.
 
March 6, 2008, 3:57 pm CST

Sex Offenders Next Door

The first thought that went through my mind is my own daughter who is only 8 years old. As a mother I will be able to connect with  Brianna's mother.

 

The scary reality is registering is a choice sex offenders can make and hopefully they are willing to be considered accountable to their community. Does this system really work? It's a sad truth to know and even grasp that they do not have to register as I am pretty sure it is not law for them to register yet. I'd be more concerned about the unregistered sex offenders! So what choices do communities really have as the offenders that are registering, what does that tell you about them!?

 

What I really hope to get from this show that is yet to be aired (Canadian viewer here) is how we as a society can equip our families, neighbourhoods and daughters and sons for that matter from becoming a victim of sexual rape/violence and molestation?

 

One thing for sure as parents both my husband and myself have taught and roled played somewhat (you don't want to scare them to live in this world) with our children about talking with strangers and what would you do if you were pulled into a car or put in the back of the trunk. There are things you can do! What is inappropriate touching and who is the only person that can touch their body and that is a doctor and that while they are still young as their parents we will always be present when they are with the Doctor. Good Family Physicians will always (should) ask for your permission before they do examine you and tell you what they are doing for you medically when they do examinations. Education is empowerment.

 

Understanding what sex offenders are capable of is also good empowerment. Getting into the mind of the molester sex offender is what I will be looking for in the show. Perhaps Dr. Phil will have preventative maintenance listed on his website as tools that we can use to equip us and our loved ones!?

 

Questions I have always wanted straight answers to on this subject is;

 

Does our less dress is best motto fasion society contribute to the minds of those who sexually offend?

Does pornography industry fuel and feed the ill minds of sexual preditors?

What if the fasion industry changed to a more less revealing but all the same pleasing motto, leaving much to the imagination, would that really help lesson the effects of offending?

Or is it all about control and power and the preditor/offender's need to graditify and victimize?

What is the fine line between molesters and rapist and rapist who kill? Is there one or is it like a linked chain going on a downward level of a slippery slope where some offenders go and others are more strong and do not kill their victims? I guess this question is also asking is this truly reversable or does it continue to get worse as the offender continues to offend?

 

I rarely if ever miss an episode and my hubby and I watch it together (dct recorded) and watch on our own time after our 'kidz' go to bed! Looking fwd to learning more on this topic.

 

Cheers, Nancy

 
March 6, 2008, 4:03 pm CST

Sex Offenders in our neighborhood

I have 2 opinions to this topic.  I actually personally know a sex offender, who was a 18 year old young man that had consensual sex with a 16 year old girl who got preganant.  The girl's father was an important man in the community and he ended getting charged and convicted.  In this case i don't think people should judge him as a sex offender. 

I myself personally would prefer for their own safety they be secluded.  I was molested as a child myself and I know the affects it has on someone.  If my children were to be attacked, molested etc., the sex offender wouldn't live long enough to go on trial.  I don't think it is fair to the community to release those at risk for re-offending. 

 
March 6, 2008, 4:27 pm CST

Prison is not the answer

I do not want my tax dollars paying for 3 hots and cot for sex offenders!!!! This is unacceptable. The money spent on these monsters could be going towards something useful like assistance for their victims. I think they should be secluded from society but not at our expense. I agree with sending them to an island somewhere far from any innocent people. They don't need food drops or anything else. They didn't care how their actions affected their victims. Why should we care how their punishment affects them?
 
March 6, 2008, 4:29 pm CST

Finally someone who has given this some thought~

Quote From: ladiehawke

This is a topic that has come up more than once between my circle of friends. We have talked it and taked it to death many times. There is no good answer.

Firstly, these people have to live somewhere. Our laws do not allow them to be taken out of society permanantly. Truthfully, I find the idea of them living all in the same building, isn't a bad idea.

My big problem with the sex offenders registery is that today someone can be labled a sex offender for getting drunk and taking a whizz on the side of the road. There are many people out there that have been forced to register for petty stupid little things that shouldn't be listed as a sex crime. Forcing someone to register as a sex offender should be saved for those who truly are sex offenders. And I hate to say it, but if this country is gonna place a scarlet letter on these people's chest and basicly prevent them from being able to work and live anywhere, then the bovernment should figure out a way to house and feed these people. You can't make a group of people pariahs and not see to their well being.
I am the mother of a sex offender...I'll explain, my son at the age of 19 ( by one month) met a girl on MySpace whom he thought was 21.  She had posted 21, she looked 18, I think. They got together after chatting online several times.  He has always liked girls a few years older than him...he asked questions such as "where's your car"  she replied, "it's in the shop", he made other comments and asked other things, she had a reply that would validate her age of 21.  They were together consensually twice.  This girl has been dating a 23 year old and others, my son just happened to be the one to admit to knowing her and being with her, he didn't think anything of it when questioned by the authorities.  This girl was actually 14, her father is an investigator the the local sheriff's dept.  My son is sitting in jail with a whole bunch of young guys in this same situation, he is also sitting in jail with a man that sexually abused his own 4 year old daughter, older men who have forced themselves on young girls within the same age of the girl that my son was with.  I ask why do we place ALL of these people in the same bucket and label them the same?  My thoughts are that the sex offenders have different classifications for the degree of the offense.  Do you agree?  I thought the same as all of you who have expressed your thoughts and feelings as to where they should live and how "they" should be treated by society.  I thought those thoughts until I walked in the shoes of the mother of a sex offender.  I can't express the hurt that I feel, not for me, but for my son and the other kids that do have the scarlet letter forever stamped on their forehead.  Where does my son live when he gets out, where does he work, is banning sex offenders from neighborhoods discrimination, is it fair?  This "girl" that I speak of is still advertising herself on MySpace, with the same age of 21 posted, with the same picture that makes her look pretty close to the age she has posted.  Her life didn't stop, her life didn't change, she's not locked up for entrapment or lying or changing my son's life forever.  What's fair about that~ 
 
March 6, 2008, 4:39 pm CST

We have to do something!

 Unfortunately we give NON Violent drug offenders more jail time than SO's. That is our first problem! We need to insist our politicians change the sentencing system. I personally don't want to live next to an SO.

The recidivism rate of an SO is HIGH. That tells me they shouldn't be put back in communities. Maybe if they had the jail time they deserve . We wouldn't have to worry where they were living!!!

 
March 6, 2008, 4:46 pm CST

03/07 Dr. Phil Now: Disturbing Headlines

Quote From: trlemay

I am the mother of a sex offender...I'll explain, my son at the age of 19 ( by one month) met a girl on MySpace whom he thought was 21.  She had posted 21, she looked 18, I think. They got together after chatting online several times.  He has always liked girls a few years older than him...he asked questions such as "where's your car"  she replied, "it's in the shop", he made other comments and asked other things, she had a reply that would validate her age of 21.  They were together consensually twice.  This girl has been dating a 23 year old and others, my son just happened to be the one to admit to knowing her and being with her, he didn't think anything of it when questioned by the authorities.  This girl was actually 14, her father is an investigator the the local sheriff's dept.  My son is sitting in jail with a whole bunch of young guys in this same situation, he is also sitting in jail with a man that sexually abused his own 4 year old daughter, older men who have forced themselves on young girls within the same age of the girl that my son was with.  I ask why do we place ALL of these people in the same bucket and label them the same?  My thoughts are that the sex offenders have different classifications for the degree of the offense.  Do you agree?  I thought the same as all of you who have expressed your thoughts and feelings as to where they should live and how "they" should be treated by society.  I thought those thoughts until I walked in the shoes of the mother of a sex offender.  I can't express the hurt that I feel, not for me, but for my son and the other kids that do have the scarlet letter forever stamped on their forehead.  Where does my son live when he gets out, where does he work, is banning sex offenders from neighborhoods discrimination, is it fair?  This "girl" that I speak of is still advertising herself on MySpace, with the same age of 21 posted, with the same picture that makes her look pretty close to the age she has posted.  Her life didn't stop, her life didn't change, she's not locked up for entrapment or lying or changing my son's life forever.  What's fair about that 

I don't believe your son is a sex offender. I don't think anyone who is tricked or lied to in a situation like that is. I also don't believe two teens having sex should label one as a sex offender. It's unfortunate that your son is dumped into the category with the real criminals. I believe when people mention punishments for sex offenders they are referring to the sick people preying on small children and abusing our youth. The kids pretending to be older than they are should face consequences. It's not right nor is it justice for them to get away with what they are doing. The ruin Innocent people's lives and don't have to own up to what they've done.

 
March 6, 2008, 4:47 pm CST

Who are you to judge?

I would like to know who you are to judge all sex offenders???? My husband is a sex offender and has been rehabilitated. He spent his time in jail.  Did not see his kid for 4 years. The fact that he was listed a sex offender when it was proven in court that his ex wife set him up by her own mouth. But since he did what he did well he has to now check in all the time. With all the laws about how sex offenders can not live within 1000 yards of any kind of school. for some sex offenders they can not be rehabilitated at all and will offend again, but then you have men like my husband who have children and are not to be near the school but still need to pick them up. How do you say or judge. Now if you take away where they can live then where will they go. If they are in building then you at least know where they are. You are all a bunch of hypocrites. You don't look into their stories but you prefer to judge. Well I am here to tell you you are not judge and jury GOD is!!!!!!! Lets see if you can go to heaven when you are not to be judging others. It is in the bible.
 
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