Topic : 03/07 Dr. Phil Now: Sex Offenders Next Door

doctor phil,,

     Ths show really upsets me. It is my belief that all the adults in this show are to blame for that poor boy getting molested. It is the fault of both the parents and the grandparents. If the mother truly believed in her

heart that she was molested. And the father new about the molesting of his wife by the father. Then there

should have been no way in hell. That man should have been near the kid. And if the grandmother knew of

the stuff going on by her husband. There should have been no way that she should have left that little boy alone with the grandfather. For him to be able to molest him. I also think that the parents should press charges against the grandfather.

 From 90 to 95 % of paedophiles live in the family home or visit every Sunday.  Stop worrying about 'stranger danger' and look closer to home in order to protect your children.
                                                       Kay

They often visit more than on Sunday.  I know from first hand experience, you are right, your stats are right, and I only WISH I knew then, what I know now.  My children NEVER went outside alone, never went to camp, to pre-school, daycare or any place but public school, starting with kindergarten.  I kept them "safe".  Too bad their older sister had this boyfriend/fiance/husband, someone I called "the perfect one", in our lives for 6 years.  Him I trusted implicity, and I do NOT freely give that kind of trust.  I was so busy worrying about who was hanging wall paper..keeping them near me, who was painting...etc.  Him, oh they could hang out with him in the playroom while I made dinner (wished he chocked on it).

My older daughter has not spoken to us in 8 years..they have , from what I have heard through the grapevine, two little girls..my daughter did not believe her siblings.  I'm the devil because I had him arrested, but due to statutes of limitations, and no concrete evidence, plus the fact, the abuse had stopped, charges were dismissed.  He said/she said is hard to prove.

I was soooooo careful, and he was doing in my home, under my nose, and the children were too close to him so they kept silent for 6 years...didn't want to "lose'" him.

Your post speaks volumes, and I hope people listen. 

So much talk about sex abuse in families.  So many Dr. Phil shows illustrating that the offender usually has a cover,his wife, (or his girlfriend.?)  I have read your posts, Kathleen, and I think you are a mother who is in denial.  I have some experience in the courts.  Your case got too far to think your kids wre not believed.  Your daughter knows this as well as anyone.

He was doing things for a long time before your kids told you.  Don't you think it is strange that they came out after your daughter was out of the house?

Don't you think it's strange that she left without looking back?

How many shows in this year alone, have we seen mothers who looked away while their child was being molested?  Had they called it in, it would have stopped, the offender removed from the home, and maybe done jail time.  The perverts got away with it for so long because they were being covered by a person the victim trusted and loved.

I think your children were sold out by their sister, and I only pray for your grandchildrens' safety.  I'm sorry to be so blunt, but I think you are in denial about your daughter.  Start to think more about those young girls and do whatever you can to get involved in their lives.  Those children, in my opinion, are at risk, and I think their grandmother knows that. Don't let history repeat itself, if it hasn't already.

Everyone that doesn't feel save inside their own homes should without a doubt get a dog. I'm not just talking about a small silly looking hairball... I'm talking about a real dog.

I have a Doberman and Doberman's are known to be the sweetest and most loyal dogs alive. I know there are a lot of people who fear them because of the general image that the media has given them but that's basicly only because they look good on camera to strike fear into trasspassers.

But to the point. If anyone sees you walking the street with a Doberman, or any other kind of dog that atleast has the size of a Doberman, they will never consider entering your home because if you have a dog that you have trained and treating with love and respect, that dog will give his or her life for you. Dogs, if loyal (not all dogs are loyal) they fight till the death to defend you.

Also, Doberman's have the natural instinct to sence people's intentions. If someone is using drugs, they are aware and they will stay close to you. If someone has aggressive tendencies or behaviour they will make it clear that these people need to stay at a distence.

I can absolutely garantee that if you get a dog from a save breeder with the nessusary bloodline papers that you will have a healthy, good natured dog that will grow to become a part of your family, it will love you, it will protect you and it will die for you if it has too. It's a constant silent protector and a friend for life.

I will say this... do not get a dog from a dogpound, large dogs get attached to you, they share a special thing with you and once they leave their original owners, they sometimes tend to act different to other people, because in all fairness, these dogs feel just as strongly about love as we do, they have emotions and feelings and you would also not like to be left by your parents and guardians.

Get a dog if you do not feel save in your own home. You can get a gun but it's a risk for the entire family, young kids pick it up or find it laying around... We've all heard what happens then...

Greetz,