Topic : 03/07 Dr. Phil Now: Sex Offenders Next Door

1. The act was consensual between the victim and the offender but due to the victim being under 18 years of age, the offender was found guilty; and
2. The victim was 14 years of age or older at the time of the crime; and
3. The offender was less than 5 years older than the victim at the time of the crime; and
4. This is the offender’s only sex crime conviction or adjudication.

My father, who has now passed away, unfortunately was  prone to lust after women no matter if they were elderly, married or young enough to be his daughter's age.  He was married to my mother and they had a disastrous life together.  He sexually molested me when i was 23  and i was devastated. I was married then and i was too ashamed that my own father did that to me and i couldn't tell my then husband of 3 years. I was so confused because when i was little he loved me so much and i was his little treasure.  He always would buy me things on his payday and spend heaps of time with me reading the books he used to bring home to me.  I used to sleep between mum and dad until i was nine years old.  If he did anything to me inappropriatly i would not have known ,as i slept with my parents since i was a toddler. I just hope and pray that he never did anything like that to me.  As i was saying up top, that i was very confused after he molested me and wondered why he loved me when i was a child and not then at 23.  At 23 he went  over his boundary , but he should never have thought of me in a sexual way.  I think i let him down when i ran away from home at 16 with my then husband.  That's another story full of alcoholism and sexual abuse from the life my parents allowed to happen in our house.  From then on he changed and only saw me as a sex object and it was other women too as I mentioned at the beginning. He got fairly sick with diabetes and cirrhosis of the liver and ended up in hospital with gangrene etc, heart attack etc.  The night before he died i went to see him at the hospital and i am sure he was hallucinating as he looked at me in a strange way, I said how are you Dad?  and he said nothing, but lifted his gown and exposed himself to me.  I was so upset that i ran off and never saw him until he died later. My Shrink at the time said not to take it personally but it's very hard not to .  I still couldn't hate my dad, i did love him and i guess i still do after 25 years gone.  I could never have gone to the police and reported my dad.  I didn't trust him with my two girls either.  I always had that fear  in my head.  What's left now is anger, confusion, and some self-blame, maybe if i didn't run away at 16 my dad would never have molested me or seen me as a sexual object.  I still always have that block when it comes to my father.  I can't forgive him for the anger and confusion he has filled me with, as i cannot find closure this side of Life.  Maybe one day when i pass away i will see him and will find closure and peace then. I have two other sisters and he was always the proper loving father to them but not to me so i do take it personally i guess. 

Lory (Australia) 

Hi

I totally agree with you on this one, thanks for letting me read your message

H Wilson