Topic : 03/07 Dr. Phil Now: Sex Offenders Next Door

Do you know that in Illinois juvenile sex offenders have to register but the information is not available to the public?  I know this because my daughter a senior in high school was dating this fellow that had graduated from another area high school the year before.  Recently we just had a regulation passed here in Robinson saying that if you wanted to bring a date that did not go to your school to the prom you had to fill out paperwork and give a copy of that persons id.  Well my daughter had already been dating this guy for 4 months.  And surprise, surprise the school calls me and says your daughters boyfriend cannot attend the dance with her because he is a registered juvenile sex offender.  Well I live in a small community and it did not take much to find out the particulars on this offender.  The only thing I found out is it happened when he was 14 and it was with a 10 year old boy.  I have a 10 year old boy I would have liked to known before I let this man into my house. 

 

And it gets even better a few years ago my stepbrother who lives in Indiana molested my nieces who at the time the youngest was 5 years old.  They sent him away for a couple of years to live in a group home with counseling and then he got to move back in with my dad and stepmom (who live in a retirement community) and he did not have to register and do you know when these sex offenders turn 18 it goes off their record.

 

The young man my daughter was dating also was a noncompliant sex offender because he moved to a different state and when he moved back did not reregister and they didn't catch him until he was an adult and he still only has to reregister for 7 more years,.  So there isn't even any probation violation recourse for such things.  I will tell you only our voices will change these laws I have been writing to senators and governors anybody I can get to listen and call them they get sick of hearing from you and they might finally do something about this. 

 

I am not saying they cannot be rehabilitated but studies show that 85% of the time these offenders will do it again.  Its attrocious that we as a country care more about protecting illegal aliens rights than our own children.  Thank you concerned in illinois

I realize that I cannot fight the world.  The ignorance and the excuses people give for their sexual predator loved ones makes me sick.  No investigation, no facts, just the word of the people that have proven they cannot be trusted.  I'm not gonna swap war stories as the ones involved all have good reasons and people believe them as they continue to this day with their activities, yes the rehab is that great.  Good luck to all you people, you're gonna need it.

I have to agree with what you have to say. I am from Ontario Canada, and here ANYONE can be considered a "sex offender" all it takes is a comment like "you have a nice butt" and that can get a sex offender title. It is considered a form of sexual assault here in Canada. Sexual assault can range from a sexual comment to something as bad as assaulting a minor.

I am watching todays show and it makes me sick. I live about 10 minutes from where Briana Denison was abducted and I will tell you now I am always scared now. I have 5 small children. I have 4 daughters with my oldest being 5.I am scared to send her top school. I found out there are 3 sex opffenders in the small neighborhood around the school. That really makes me sick. I dont even like going to the store by myself anymore with this killer and serial rapest on the loose.

These sex offenders gave up their rights not to be labled with a "scarlet letter" when they commited these acts. People deserve to know when their safety and security are in danger!!! By letting these felons live together, you are only fueling their fires. They are going to talk amongst themselves, and get the urges to attack once again from hearing of attacks on others. If they are stupid enough to commit these crimes, they deserve to have the whole world know about it. I like the ideas that some states are doing of having license plates that announcing their crimes, and I hope even more states pick up on this! I think the registery isn't tough enough! Most offenders can register and the people they interact with on a day-to-day basis still won't know what these monsters have done!!! I think we need to crack down on offenders that don't register. We need to protect the lives and innocence of ourselves and our children!!!! We need to get more involved in knowing what is going on in our communities, and protect ourselves from these monsters. They do not deserve to be able to work anywhere where they may be in contact with possible targets. They do not deserve to live close to children or others that they may attack!

We have NO responsibilites to these people. We don't need to see to their well being...anyone who commits this kind of disgusting crime is on their own!!

I completely agree! There needs to be way stricter consequences for these people!!!! And to the people who are saying we need to "chill out" and not be so harsh because "a 15 year old can claim rape on an 18 year old even though she told him she was 20" --well first I think we need to send them off for a weekend with these rapists and molestors. Let them hear about the sick things they have done to people, then maybe they will understand how serious this really is. And second, these kids need to take more responsibility and make sure they really know this person instead of going out and having casual sex. People need to know that there are consequences for their actions!!!!!

time for your son to grow up, your story is the same as the mother of the 19 year old,

I knew the age would grow,  where does it end, next there will be a mother of a 25 year old, no wait i think there is one posting out there, saying how their poor boys where trick by these lying girls, it not their falt, it never ends its not their falt, their the adult blaming the child for lying,

 

your boy is 21 she 15 he should go to jail for a very long time, your son is the creep an pervert who likes younger girls,

at what age do you think a man should be before its just creepy, is it ok for a 40 to have sex with a 15 because his mommy thinks hes young for his age,an knows no better PLEASE

How about we change our laws? One of my favorite quotes comes from the Batman movie...batman begins...."Criminals thrive on the indulgence of society's understanding" yes a quote from a movie...but does that mean it is not the truth? At least how I have always viewed the world. We always have an excuse for these people...they can't help it, it was how they were born, they Are 'trying' not to rape children, or whoever...I mean it goes further then sexual preditors on children, what about women who are raped? and the guy who did it served his 5 years and is now out so he must be okay now...After all he was only in jail for 5 years (with other preditors) Probably didnt learn any new tricks or anything and is probablt rehabilitated...With very little doubt now in cases of innocene or guilt...because of DNA, technology...ect ect...I dont see why we put up with Violent criminals, just because old laws protect these people. Now a guy who is drunk and made a little mistake by showing a bit much of himself, to me is not a violent criminal and should probably do some community service to teach him a lesson...But a man who breaks into a house, takes a child or (anyone) violently rapes them maybe kills them...most of the time they serve a pathedic amount of time in jail, and then are released due to time served or crowded prisons (and that is a REAL issue) I have another idea...its called a needle...its a lot less painful then what they do to their victums...And anyone who wants to tell me my opinion is too strong or lacks compassion....I have little to say to you other then your a weak person who knows little about real life...Ever seen a dead girl? Beating and raped, left under a bridge to die slowly...as she was still alive though her signs of life could only have been measured with high tech equipment? I have...And the person who did it to her was 17...therefore he served a couple of months...im serious....and well lesson learned....Also I myself was a victum of sexual assult at a younge age...and do you know who was punished? me...Because neighbors suddenly wouldnt allow me to go near other children, I was made fun of...I was called names...(I was 4) ...So I say Enough!!!! Enough chances! Enough compassion! These are our lives! Our childrens lives...(I now have 2 children...a boy and a girl) Why is it a right to live even if you take another life away? Why do we care more about the bad guys then we do about the victums? These people made their choices...maybe we should make one ourseves...if anyonne in the government has the guts...Things will only get worse with internet, the way our children dress now, and too many people crowded too close together...My opinion is to fight back...Not with jail time which only costs so much tax money...but with Justice. Im not saying, if you steal a chocolate bar...thats it....Im ONLY talking about proven violent criminals...Or we can continue on...with sooo many missing children out there, or damaged children like myself who spent most of my life ashamed of myself.

You didn't have "consensual sex" with a 15 year old. 15 year old's cannot consent to sex.  You are saying it was a "mistake"...well, what should your punishment have been then?

I'm sorry that you feel your punishment is called for, but just because you BARELY crossed a line doesn't mean you didn't cross THAT LINE. You were a high school graduate, college aged ADULT who had sex with a high school freshmen aged child. I think that is dangerous.

Just because you say you are no longer a threat doesn't mean you aren't. Every criminal in the world can say that, they are some how the exception. Should we let them all off the hook too?

And as for your argument about drunk drivers, well, that is a faulty argument in many ways.

First of all, I personally think people who have driven a car drunk even ONCE should have their license suspended. If they are caught again they should go to jail. So you don't have my sympathy there. You assume people who are hard on sex offenders aren't also hard on drunk drivers...wrong.

Second of all, I am not sure about drunk driving, but sex offenders are notoriously repeat offenders. They cannot be fixed. If you fall into that category, I do not know. But I say better safe than sorry.

I do feel for people who get caught up in the letter of these laws a bit, but I feel it's worth it. I really do.

why should We pay for them to live?...get there 3 square meals...I could think of better ways to deal with people like that...much more simple and cost effective ;) to those who say im cold, read my previous message...I have seen much in my life, and im sick of society's compassion for the bad guys...and lack of respect for the victums.