Topic : 03/07 Dr. Phil Now: Sex Offenders Next Door

I WENT TO WWW.MEGANSLAW.NY.GOV AND SAW THAT THERE ARE 2 PREDITORS IN MY AREA BUT I HAD TO PAY A FEE TO GET THE INFO ON THEM THIS IS OUTRAGOUS! WHY DO I NEED TO PAY A FEE TO KEEP MY CHILDREN SAFE? MAYBE I DID NOT DO IT CORRECTLY PLEASE LET ME KNOW IF THERE IS A DIFFERANT SITE THAT I CAN GO TO, TO FIND OUT ABOUT THESE  PREDITORS IN MY AREA.

HUGE DR. PHIL FAN, BARBARA

      I think before people start judging others they should be more informed to know exactly what they are talking about.  A sex offender is a human being whether you want to accept that fact or not. And "sex offenders" is not even the right term to use because many of them have only offended once and yet they are called sex offenders as though they will always offend.  And as far as labeling people, why don't they have labels for drug addicts, drunk drivers, and other felons who can harm our children?  Why do we squirm at the word sex offender?  We squirm because we hear all the "bad news" about those few who are sick and who would offend again and again.  So does that mean we should treat them all the same?  I don't think so.  I think the law is so unjust when it comes to so called "sex offenders."  It is bad enough that they can't find anyplace to live, and that they have to register, but for the police to send out fliers to the community is not only wrong, but it puts the person and their families in danger. How many people have been harassed or killed because they find out a "sex offender" has moved near them?  Maybe you don't even care and think it serves them right.  But you do not even know them or the story behind their arrest in the first place. 

 I have children and grandchildren and my heart goes out to those who have gone through some horrible experience because of a sex offender.  But they are not all the same.  And many are never given a second chance.  They have to die with that label.  And no matter what their story is- behind all the hysteria- some have been punished more than anyone should ever be punished.  Some have never seen their grandchildren because the law prohibits any contact whatsoever with children and this is for all sex offenders, whether they are pedophiles, whether they offended once, whether it was a 19 year old that was turned in by a 17 year's old mom, or whether they were drunk and urinating and someone saw them and turned them in.  There are way too many reasons why people are labeled sex offenders and to treat them all the same is totally unjustifiable.

  And do you really feel comfortable knowing where they all live?  Can't this give people a false sense of security?  Sex offenders of all sorts are walking around every day.  They may be someone in line in front of you at the bank.  They could be someone you had a nice chat with at the grocery store yesterday.  They could be someone cleaning your carpets.They could be anyone you come in contact with on a daily basis.  So what now? Do we register where they  work or what they do for a living? Wake up, people!  We have normal everyday people who can have a clean record and all of a sudden may wind up killing, raping, or molesting someone.  What parents and the community needs to do is take care of their children and do the best they can to keep them away from all danger.  We will never have a perfect world.  We are all sinners.  That is how it will always be.  We cannot go on picking on one class of felons and make them our main focus.  I wish the world was safer for our children, but it is not. We  will always have drunk drivers, killers, rapist, burglars, drug dealers, and all kinds of law breakers no matter what we do.  I just wish people knew more about sex offenders before they classified all of them as being evil or being sociopaths.  I feel sorry for those who can't see what they are doing as being totally wrong.  And I feel sorry for those who are so ready to cast the first stone.  I sure wish Dr. Phil would have talked to me for this show.

To all the sex offenders hugers out there,  I hear all the mamams, and wifes,  out there complaining that their sex offender is different,  MY poor 19 21 25 year old boy, was trick by a 12, 14 15, year old girl, and that they shouldn't be held in the same class of men on the sex offenders reg. they are not there are different levels, an can be gotten off the web site Dr. phil is giving out.

This show was not about your little mama boys or sad man. it was how to protect our children

not a pitty party, about mama's boys who broke the law.

I can hear it now, my son needs to be protected from lying little girls,  well I guess you should of sat your sons down again and gave him anouther sex talk when they turned 18, and told him about the new risk out there,  along with how not to get a girl pregant, or stds.  You  should of warn him about the lying little girls, and if you get caught you will go to jail, and you will have to reg. as a sex offender for 10 years or the rest of your life.  There are many dangers out there, and  they didn't have to do the act,

The child is not going to jail forlying and  having sex, the adult will,

women and girls have been blamed for years and years, for the the mans lack of control sexually. so give me a break, they could of  should of keeped it in  their pants.

The tide has turned and the free pass older boys and men, saving sex with children are over,

It was the law when your sons and husband  Ignored andcommitted the act, there for they will paay for breaking the law like everyone else.

and ignorance of the law is no defence, in any court room.

IT'S CALLED THE RIGHT TO BARE ARMS,  AND IT WAS ONE OF THE FIRST THING OUR FOUNDING FATHERS BUT IN THE CONSITUTION. TO PROTECT OUR RIGHTS, AGAINST OUR OWN GOVERMENT OR FOREIGN GOVERMENTS.

I know your his mom and you can only see it though your eyes,  but I see it a different way, though the law. I'm sure when your son got his license, you reminded him if he drinks and drives and gets caught, he will go to jail, lose his licenses, and it will be hard to get in school, get a job,  and you would tell him that the act of drinking and driving would not be worth all that he will lose,  so don't do it, you don't have to drink and drive,

The samething aplys to your son and the law he broke when he had sex with a minor, He shouldn't of had sex with someone he didn't know. He was in charge of his own body, not her. the boys will be boys excuse is not working any more,  you can not control any one but yourself, he choose to have sex, he took a risk, as the person who drinks and drive does,  that person doesn't want to kill someone, or in the best situation, go to jail, lose their licenses, and pay for it, by losing out on things he would of had if he didn't commit the act.

I will say it again ignorence of the law is not a defence, this girl did not rape your son, he went there willing , he took that chance,

people lie, its up to you to protect yourself,  ask anyone out there who has gotten a std, from a sex partner, most will say, they lied to me, they said they where clean. and now they have to live with it, the act of beleiveing someone can hurt you.

Here is a link to the Virginia site, run by the state police.  They also just did a 'sweep' of illegal aliens who are also sex offenders; I know because we had a registered offender on my court of 9 houses and his name disappeared from the site.  He was from Bolivia based on what I could find out, and also illegal. Now he is at a detention center, waiting to be deported.

http://sex-offender.vsp.virginia.gov/sor/

  I pray nothing like this ever happens to someone in your family or someone you love. Because if it does you will see how important the "what ifs" are. And you may not believe it but innocent people are accused and put in jail every day. Some pleas are taken out of fear of the system. A system that does not work in many cases for either party. It is the only system we have but it comes up lacking.

I would covet your prayers for our family and loved one and the accuser and family. This is a bad situation and we all must endure with faith and love for all involved. Please try not to be so willing to believe the worst because you hear the words S.O.