Topic : 03/12 Let’s Talk about Sex

I would like to reach out the guest that was on the show today that was speaking about her lack of libido due to her Interstitial Cystitis.  I was recently diagnosed with IC and have also been dealing with my lack of libido.  I am also engaged and I can completely relate to you when you say you feel less of a woman because of this.  I have talked to my Gyno about this and she attributes my low drive to stress.  I found that hard to believe because even when i had stress in my life, in the past I still had a sex drive.  Ever since being diagnosed my drive has decreased tremendously.  I do get flare up sometimes after having sex, but I feel my lack of libido goes deeper than the IC.  I am scared and feel this could eventually be a major problem in my upcoming marriage.  My fiancee trys to assure me that it would never come to that, but we all know men and their "needs".  I truly felt alone in this until seeing you on the show today.  Thanks for having the courage to share your story with the rest of the world.  I'm sure I'm not the only woman out there you've touched.  Thanks and stay strong!

I have been with my faincee for 5 yrs on and off and now for 6 yrs steady. So for a total of 11 yrs.

The question i have is he rather masterbate then have sex with me or not have sex at all Is this abnormal or I am i overreactting?

I am 55.  For years like 15.. sex was painful and i was on anti biotics for my bladder.  I was lucky, I guess.  I met a new OB/Gyn.  He gave me a hysteretomy.. Everything was taken out.  My bladder was fused to my uterus and so he cut and fix the bladder.  He then repostioned my bladder and put fat around it so it would not slip again. 

I started on natural hormones and found that in a month, all the pain and bladder problems were gone.  I was lucky my husband stay with me through the hard times.  I now feel young again and we have a good relationship in and out of bed..  Sex was bad and now it is not..  Maybe this could help someone. Cincinnati..

Dr. Phil!  Shame on You and Your Expert! 

My Mom suffers with IC, it is a CHRONIC DISORDER, that affects almost a million people in this country, over 95% of them women.  It is painful on a daily basis. Takes years for a correct diagnosis, often misdiagnosed and there is no cure and no reliable medication that offers any type of relief.

IC affects the bladder, inflaming the lining of the bladder - like having a kidney infection all the time!  When my Mom started having problems, she was treated for kidney problems but the problem is inside the bladder and the regular medcations don't help.  She has a treatment every couple of weeks that involves a cautheter and a fluid injected into her bladder and being held fthere or 30 minutes.  It is painful and takes her days to get over.

IC has made my Mother's life a living Hell!  I had hoped that your expert would have addressed it.  Many women suffer sexually with  IC.   But, for all of them just the quality of daily life is horrible.

Please address this disease on a later show!!!

Hi, I just watched the show about sex and I have a question, what would you do.?

I have been married for over 30years, I have grown kids but they are all out of the house. Here is the problem. I have not had sex with my wife for over 1 year. I love sex,she hates sex. She keeps making statements like,"When a person gets to a certin age,sex should not be necessary". We are both in our mid 50s. She have never been one to make the first move,and if I dont make the first move ,we dont have sex. We are both healty and active.

She is very verbally abusive (has been for the entire 30year) and controlling. Dr phil had a show about the most controlling woman in America ,well he has never met my wife. Any way that is another post.

My wife will NOT go to marriage counceling becasue in her mind there is nothing wrong with our marriage. I made a committment to God till death due us part so divorce is not an option. So what do I do? Go without sex for the rest of my life. ? I dont want to go outside my marrige but at this point I dont know what to do. My wife thinks just because she does  not think sex should be important and she should not have to do "that " at this stage in her life,she thinks that is everyones opinion.

SO  what would you do? just go without,also she never shows me any attention or love or respect. I used to do all of these things for her but after years of getting pushed away, I have stopped too.

any advice would be helpful .

thanks

Bare with me but this is my first post and I really don't know what I'm doing.

I wanted to comment on todays show 3/11/08.  I watch Dr. Phil as much as I can and have missed a lot of shows.  Today was all about women and their problems.  Is it normal for a 41 year old man to have total lost any sexual drive?  He started slowing down in his 30's.  He talk to his Dr. and they took blood and the Dr told him that there is nothing he can do for him other than viagra...etc.. He doesn't have enough of a drive to take a pill to get hard.  Is there help for a man who wants his drive back?

WOW   !!!!!!!!!!!    i was so EXCITED about todays Show.............   I AM NOT ALONE.........  there are other women like me out there........  I am a woman who can NEVER have enough... I am always wanting more and more.......  and it isn't cause it is wham bam....  it a like lots of foreplay and then hard core sex and then a little more ....  it is so good..... i am like the first guest the teacher.......  i thought i was hearing myself speak.......lol.........  

The problem with most women i must say is:     Most women are not OPEN about sex........and they DON'T want to even wanna talk about it........   I think women should  tell their man or women what they want or don't want......  and they should Tell them what they like and don't like.......      Women need  to take the time to KNOW their BODIES>>>>>>>   mean they need to take time to explore their body and what feels good to them ....   play with the nipples and and the clit....  and    GET a TOY........  use it as a learning tool.......

to learn what YOU like and what makes YOUR body feel    OH SO GOOD....... 

then take that information and teach your man or your woman what you like...... and what feels good...

 It may take a little while to know yourself and what feels good .... 

DO yourself a FAVOR and LEARN what your body likes and wants............

i am glad that i am not alone.....  .......