Topic : 03/17 Bishop T.D. Jakes

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Are you stuck in an emotional, marital or financial rut? Dr. Phil has advice for reshaping your future, and he’s bringing reinforcements! Joining him is Bishop T.D. Jakes, pastor of one of the fastest-growing mega-churches in the country and author of Reposition Yourself. First up, Dr. Phil and Bishop Jakes tackle a shocking story that made headlines. Tongues wagged when New York Governor Eliot Spitzer resigned over a sex scandal. Should his wife, Silda, have stood by his side? Robin weighs in with a woman’s perspective. And, Rachelle says her husband, Rob, was unjustly fired from his job as a police officer more than eight years ago, and the incident was highly publicized. Rob says his life was turned upside down and admits he hasn't been much of a father or husband since the firing. His four children say they want their "vacation dad" to be their full-time dad. What's really at the root of Rob's pain, and what will it take for him to return to being the man Rachelle married? Share your thoughts, join the discussion.

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March 18, 2008, 4:01 pm PDT

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I read your posting about being in a rut and I know saying Happy Birthday, right now probably doesnt help much yet, however, if you start right here (ON THE INTERNET) you can search for all kinds of grants. You should be careful about paying someone to give you a listing of grants, though there are some programs that charge a small fee for the listings and they are legitimate organizations. If you just type the word Grants in Google you will get a bunch of replies. I would start with the SBA especially if there are any business type things you may want to try. Every state has a Small Business Administration, and I know in New York we also have SCORE.  These are mostly retired professionals who want to help. Generally they will be working with people in setting up a Business Plan, helping you decide what may be the best suited steps for you to take and even what you are best suited to do.

 

Also, as you start going through the different grants out there, you may find that there is grant that is for something other than what you were originally looking for, however, it may provide you with funds to buy a home (Any Kind) and free up other money for you to fix the car.  My point is dont just look at grants that are to fix your car, and buy a mobile home. You may just find something that gets you excited again. The library should have some books on government grants as well.

 

Colleges will also have someone who is familiar with grants, and yes other than just for school. I am sure your local community college will have a counselor who would be happy to meet with you and will be able to point you ion the right direction. Most college librarys will have books or even old Microfiche with grants and nowadays grant searching help on the internet. If you call them and set up an appointment especially a community college, they will help you. You can as last resort merely tell them you may also be interested in taking a class or 2 and then they will absolutely help you. You may even find that a class or two may help get you out of the rut. And dont be embarrassed about school at 50. Night and weekend courses are filled with people our age.

 

Speaking of schools, check with local automotive schools. They may offer to help fix your car. Meet with the teacher, and discuss what you need. Again, I do not know what state you live in, so its hard to be specific, but check technical schools and colleges with an automotive technology program and see if they will help. Dont be surprised if they will. I also dont know what you do or what you like so it is also hard to be specific about certain things.

 

Regarding your original question, just remember that I mentioned that Google will give you several hits just by searching the word grant, burt dont stop there, start going deeper and de3eper into the web with your searches.

 

I hope this helped a little and remember 50 today really is like 35 , 25 years ago! I only get on this site when I come in from work, and usually while watching the show, however I put the show on DVR and then watch it at 7:00. Feel free to stay in touch through t his site and let me know how you progressing.

 

  I just turned 51 and live in ca, I am disabled and on SSI sence 1986. I have

 no one close to me, so thank-you for the comments.

 
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March 18, 2008, 4:43 pm PDT

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I have depression too, but I wonder if the book can help someone who has a biochemical disorder.  Behavioral mod can be very helpful though, think I'll have to read it.

 

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Well, here is how I think of it.

The brain is an organ and it can get ill...a common brain illness is depression. (Common, not unimportant.)

Depression can lead one to do and feel and think many incorrect things.

So while it is the brain disorder that may be making you think negative things, think of the cognitive therapy techniques in this book like physical therapy would be for a hip replacement.

:o) I hope it helps....I found it VERY useful.

My avatar is Alanis Morrisette.
 
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March 18, 2008, 4:45 pm PDT

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I only suggested her because she is so devoutly Jewish. In her books, she spells "God" this way "G-d." And, I doubt she would see any justification for getting involved with prostitutes. Especially to the tune of $80,000.
You'd be surprised....I used to listen to her for years. She firmly believes that woman are to blame for men straying.
 
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March 18, 2008, 5:44 pm PDT

ITA...

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Well, here is how I think of it.

The brain is an organ and it can get ill...a common brain illness is depression. (Common, not unimportant.)

Depression can lead one to do and feel and think many incorrect things.

So while it is the brain disorder that may be making you think negative things, think of the cognitive therapy techniques in this book like physical therapy would be for a hip replacement.

:o) I hope it helps....I found it VERY useful.

My avatar is Alanis Morrisette.

 

I agree.  Textbook therapy for depression, pharmocotherapy (meds) combined with psychotherapy.  As long as you use it as a tool with psychotherapy, not as a replacement (but I know you know that, just reiterating it).  My therapist told me to get "The Depression Workbook", but it was really more of a tool to document the thinking process instead of "exercises" per se.  I think that your book would be more helpful to find ways to actually manage the negativity going on up there.  Thanks again.  :)

 

P.S.:  It may even help me control my anxiety levels b/c negative thinking is a major cause of that for me as well.

 

Take care!

 
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March 18, 2008, 6:02 pm PDT

I Agree!!

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I just want to say that I love it when Bishop T.D Jakes is on the show. He always lifts up my spirit and motivates me to be better with different things in my life. And as always, Robin is amazing and I love listening to her talk too! Thanks for having him Dr. Phil. 
I believe that these two men, Bishop T.D. Jakes, Dr. Phil and of coarse Robin are a HUGE inspiration. I have watched them faithfully and I believe they help me in my everyday life. I was diagnosed with Depression 4 yrs ago looking for NO end in sight. These people inspire me, lift my spirits, and make me feel like a normal person. Meaning "HAPPY" at least for a bit. I truely want to get Bishops Book Repositiong your Life. But listening to them helps me more and more each day because they make sense they dont talk nonsense. They say it like it is and in ways that keep you thinking all day they say things that actually stick with you. I just want to say a big THANK YOU to Bishop TD Jakes, Dr. Phil, and Robin. Im working on myself with your help. I enjoy watching you all and am glad God made ANGELS like you 3 for people like us who take you seriously. At least i know there are people out there who are in it to help not to see what they can  get outta you.
 
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March 18, 2008, 6:12 pm PDT

A word of encouragement for Rob

Rob, as the wife of a police officer, I know of the great sacrifices that you and thousands of law enforcement officers make on a daily basis for the protection of the citizens of this country.  You are called to make life or death decisions in a split second and that takes courage and strength.  I, for one, am incredibly grateful for the people that have chosen to put the lives of others ahead of their own.  Please don't blame or beat yourself up for the tough decision that you had to make many years ago.  You did what you felt was right at the time and you shouldn't have to apologize or feel bad about it.  God Bless you and your family and God Bless Dr. Phil for the way he generously helps others. 
 

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March 18, 2008, 6:46 pm PDT

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    . . . and then there's the money.  If you were better off financially kicking him to the curb, you would have done just that.  Instead, you played the long-suffering martyr.

    It must have been more profitable. 

Nope.  As for the conclusion to which you came, the answer would be that it was actually quite the contrary...very much the other way around.  Financially?  Much better off on my own...by far.  Perhaps the next guess would be that I'm afraid to be alone?  Actually, I do quite well on my own.  It's easier in many ways.  Martyr?  Nope again.  No ulterior motives.  As hard as it may be to believe, it all simply comes down to this:  Just trusting something (God in His fullness) that was far beyond my finiteness...and look...it worked to the better.   We don't always know what's best and, left to our own devices, will often make poor choices.  Life can obviously make some people become cynical and bitter, too, which can easily eat a person from the inside out just like a cancer...if you let it.  Or a person can choose, beyond all hope, beyond all that everyone says, beyond all logic, to believe and trust that God knows best and will bring good out of everything...if we just do as He guides.  Things may not always work out the way we want them to or as quickly as we want them to, but SOMETHING good will come out of it if we are pleasing Him in our choices...even if we can't understand it at the time.  During that painful time, so filled with grief, I remember crying out to God, begging Him to tell me why, and telling Him, "It just seems so hopeless."  Immediately the words came, not in a audible voice but strong and definite, "Hope less.  BELIEVE more."  Believing means trusting and having faith in and for something one can't see or touch.  That's a scary notion for most of us.  It's relinquishing control...and that's really scary sometimes.  But, regardless of whether or not we get what WE want, God will never let us down...as long as we follow Him.  Don't be afraid to trust Him.  Perhaps you'll find things will go a little better for you, too, as it appears you've responded with a lot of pain in your heart.  You've just been prayed for.  If you listen, you might just hear the guidance that perhaps you've been too afraid to ask for.
 
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March 18, 2008, 6:58 pm PDT

Officer Rob

Officer Rob you are being too hard on your self. When you left for your JOB that horrid evening you had only 2 obligations. 1) Serve God 2) Come home alive. You did both. God gave all animals something called instinct. Without it we could not survive. It takes more than a millisecond to consider all the possibilities when facing live or death. This is the job of our instincts. We react, we don’t think, nor should we. You are questioning yourself when none of it was your choice. God decided that night that you going home safe was more important than a JOB. You did what you were supposed to do. Because you are still second guessing your reaction, you are unfit to serve. Your faith in yourself (instinct) is loss and because of that you may not use it the next time you need it. Being unable to react can kill you in this JOB. There are other public safety jobs than patrolling. Firefighting, EMA, EMT, consoling law enforcement and their families…..I am speaking from experience: my family is a law enforcement family. We do the best we can with what God has given us. I commend your family for not giving up. It is very difficult not to become the JOB because you are always on duty.  I will pray for you and your family. Blessing to you all.

 
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March 18, 2008, 7:49 pm PDT

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Agreed.

 

These policial wives have had decades of learning how to act and speak so as to help get their husbands elected to office (sometimes MANY offices). They walk the walk and talk the talk IN PUBLIC, but just imagine what life is like behind closed doors!

 

Also, I am confident she wanted to rip his throat out, but she is  the mother of his children, so her immediate thoughts are probably on what is the best way to behave for the sake of the children (regardless of their ages). She will most likely do the public "dance" for the cameras and also for the children, but show a different side of herself in private.

 

And, of course, her livelihood DOES go down the toilet when her husband's does, so her welfare IS dependent upon his. It must be scary to think that the income will stop, especially when you've stayed home to raise the family and be the social organizer for years. She is going to do what it takes to have him land on his feet. HER income and that of her children's dependents upon it!

Your last paragraph made the most sense to me.. I don't want to make assumptions but don't these political wives get to live a pretty affluent life without having to work at their own job/career? If they leave they just may have to support themselves and their income may plummet so they stay.
 
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March 18, 2008, 7:51 pm PDT

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Why is it that a woman isn't responsible for her behavior?

Her standing by this guy is a BAD example. Women aren't so weak minded and frail that the get knocked off balance and they only way they can maintain composure is be braced up by a man.

Seriously....this just gets me. Not all women are feeble minded weaklings. 
I couldn't agree more.
 

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