Topic : 03/18 Love Junkies

The term "love junkies" made me want to turn away but I realized that Dawn's story is just like my childhood best friend, who was made fun of and ostracized in school and now has serial relationships. My friend's first relationships made her feel valued, but they dumped her after a few months when they got bored (14 year old boys). My friend's self-esteem was so low that she thought those kids were right, she was a loser and this was the best treatment she was ever going to get from someone. So, she dated guys for a few months and dumped them before they dumped her.

ANYWAY, making a long story even longer this was a good show and I hope Dawn finds the love she deserves. Walk away from that terrible past, Dawn!

I have been watching todays show and the blonde gal that has been married 4 times and still can't make up her mind needs to let the nice gentleman go.  She is only playing him and he seems way to nice for her games.  I am a hard working single female that would love to have the honesty and sincerity that he seems to have.  There are not many men left out there that would like to have the one on one committment that he is looking for and she should be very grateful to have him.  She has no love or respect for him and he should move on before he gets his heart broke.  She is not looking for the same thing as him and she WILL break his heart.  He is way to good for her, or so he seems on TV anyhow.  She needs to wake up and smell the roses.  There are many of us women out there that would love to find a true gentleman .... why is it that the women that like to play games end up with the good ones???  I just don't get it.  If she wants a game player I can hook her up with several!!!  She needs to leave the decent guys alone!!!

Dr. Phil isn't talking about Junk Food.  This show is about People addicted to love.  Now do you understand?

We shouldn't need a show on this topic! LOVE IS EASY.

If it hurts physically, it's NOT love. If he makes fun of you or calls you names, it's NOT love. If he belittles you and is emotionally abusive, it's NOT love. If he calls you fat or ugly or dumb or lazy, it's NOT love. If he doesn't want you to go out and have fun with your friends from time-to-time (without him), it's NOT love. If he doesn't trust you, it's NOT love. If he cheats on you EVER, it's NOT love. If you get more emotional support from your girlfriends than you do him, it's NOT love. The same goes for men!

Your husband or husband-to-be should be your BEST friend. He shouldn't want to hurt you emotionally or physically. He should LOVE spending time with you, love building you up, love sharing you with the world and love it that you are strong, bright and independent. If he doesn't, it's NOT love. GET OUT!!!

Take this from somone happily married for 18 years and with two happy, healthy children age 7 and 13. I have gained 100 lbs since our marriage and my handsome, rugged, successful, fun, gentle husband LOVES me, our kids, spending time with me, spending time with our family, going to church together, having family meals together and JUST BEING A CLOSE FAMILY. We don't want chaos in our lives and don't allow it into our lives to invade our space. BOTH of us came from 2-parent, dysfuntional homes and we made a vow to eachother (prior to marriage) that we would  NOT have a lousy marriage or have our children suffer in a lousy marriage or thru a divorce.

Life is too short to NOT know what REAL LOVE is. Sometimes being alone until you figure out WHO you are, WHAT you want and HOW to have a good relationship is what you need. Being alone and happy is much better than being together and miserable!

And we must NEVER forget that men and women in this country were often raised by their mothers.....mothers who chose the men who lived in the homes where these children grew up.

 I wish more women would take responsibility for the choices they make; many of those choices have lasting, sad impacts on their kids. Men often abandon families, which is horrible, but many women often move men in and out of homes/beds and it's the children who suffer. Too often we blame the men and forget about the other half of the equation.

Such a sad situation for you....but, thank God your grandchildren have you to love and guide them, like a light in the darkness!

Sometimes we cannot see the immediate impact we have on others, but I promise you, nothing positive that you do for these children is wasted. You are probably the only thing standing between them and disaster. If not for you, they may become lost and their lives ruined. Who knows....because of you and your love and sacrifices for them, they may succeed where otherwise they would have failed. They may become something wonderful; make a difference in the lives of others where otherwise they would just be wandering aimlessly and making poor choices for themselves. Your love for them may make all the difference in the world. 

Don't lose faith or hope.

and anyone else in this same situation: It's never a win when you make your child (adult or otherwise) choose between someone they see as their "great love", and family. 

If you want to know why, and what to do about it, please go to my website, click on January posts and scroll down to the article I wrote titled "In-laws..And Outlaws".  I've been there!

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