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Created on : Friday, March 14, 2008, 02:37:04 pm
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Are you in love with being in love? Do you jump from relationship to relationship because you can’t stand the thought of being single? Dr. Phil’s first guest, Dawn, says she definitely fits this description. The 42-year-old says she’s been hopping from guy to guy since she was 14, has been married and divorced four times and is now in a three-year relationship and feeling the itch. Dawn’s current boyfriend, Paul, feels like he's being used and says he’s not ready to be her fifth ex-husband! Kurtis, Dawn’s 22-year-old son, says it’s high time his mom settled down. Is Paul really Dawn's true love or should he pack his things and hit the road? Then, Joanne says her cousin, Theresa, is obsessed with her boyfriend, Ken. Joanne and Theresa’s sister, Christine, say Ken is mentally abusive, but no matter what he does, Theresa keeps going back for more. They say Ken threw Theresa, her kids and all their belongings out on the front yard for the entire neighborhood to see, and she still took him back. Joanne and Christine aren’t the only ones who dislike Ken. Theresa’s mom says she can’t stand him either -- to the point where she hasn’t spoken to her daughter in nearly two years! Theresa says she just can’t live without her man, and her relatives will have to deal with their relationship. Don’t miss Dr. Phil’s plan for mending this broken family and talk about the show here.

Find out what happened on the show.


 
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March 18, 2008, 2:13 pm PDT

love junkies

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I think I'm very used to the blacks & greys.  Nice job Robin:)
As for Love Junkies...I've seen them.  Hopefully he'll get her some self-finding counseling...she's missing something.  You don't need a pushoever, you need a man.  I'm so glad my fiance doesn't back down, he tells me how he feels and we've gotten through a lot of different "issues" so much easier because we can talk about things. 
I think she's confused about the definition of love....
I love Dr Phil...
I am interpreting this situation as one in which she needs to develop and use the skill of conflict resolution.  Now her solution is to run.  She needs to learn and practice the skill of expressing her unhappiness with the perceived problem and then working toward a solution.  This is hard to do but so much better than running.  I don't think she is a bottomless pit (Dr. Phil's words) but someone who lacks skills of conflict resolution.
 
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March 18, 2008, 2:18 pm PDT

I just went thru this

My best friend was dating a Dawn clone for the past 3 years. Yep, she dumped him just before Christmas, absolutely devistating him. Of course, she was seeing someone new before ending the relationship with him. This was the "girl of his dreams", and he planned on spending the rest of his life with her.  Naturally, she was living with another guy when she started seeing him. In fact, the only two differences between her and Dawn - she's only been married once (2 kids), and she's 42 years old. I spent many a night on his couch for about 2 months, since he could't be left alone. He's over it now, since she served him with a restraining order. And he still hasn't gotten his stuff back yet.
 
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March 18, 2008, 2:21 pm PDT

EGOCENTRICITY

This woman is a player!  It seems to me that she thinks she' s better than the men chooses.  Perhaps she needs to be kicked to the curb so she can see how it feels.  She is a user and abuser. 

 

Her big "AHA" moments with Dr. Phil seem to be contrived.  I think all this attention from Dr. Phil is still stroking her ego.  I'm recommending serious therapy!!
 
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March 18, 2008, 2:39 pm PDT

I agree

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I listened to a little bit of her crap and just think that after that many men in her life and all the failed marriages the only common denominator is her. Call it a disease or a disorder or just a problem but quit ruining peoples lives and quit trying to make people think you are the victim. It is only you that causes these issues in your own life. JUST GIVE UP and no more people will get hurt. It is not the end of the world to be single. I have been single for 3 years after a 9 year marriage and I was cheated on several times by my wife. I have never been more happy and now realize that happiness is an emotion that can only come from you. No one can ever "make" you happy. Men are being hurt all over this world because of women like her and to them it is just a problem that they need to work on..blah, blah, blah. If you want men to act like men then stop acting like a highschool girl at a party with a list hidden in her jewelry box of how many guys you bagged, and start acting like a woman whom should be the foundation of love and stability that the family structure is missing so badly in modern times. If you want to know where society has went wrong it is with women like this. Disorder...Please, just give up your childhood and you will be fine.

Hi,

You sound like a great guy. I agree with you totally about woman doing this, there is no stability anymore.

Anyway, it doesn't sound like you'll be single for long!!!

have a nice day
 
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March 18, 2008, 2:40 pm PDT

ONCE A DRUNK ALL WAYS A DRUNK

 Easter Basket   This woman is not even thinking of her children is she.

The woman's family needs to take the children out of this mad house and help the kids.

I was in the same kind of crap and even the police said they couldn't do a thing about my ex.

Dr Phil make this woman see what this man is doing to her and the kids.

HELLO get this woman some help

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March 18, 2008, 3:04 pm PDT

You gota be kidding me.

 Dr. Phil, are you kidding me?  This woman is obviously suffering from no self-esteem.  She has been taken care of so much she doesn't have any strength in herself.  My advise is that she should be single, no dating for one year.  She needs to learn to be alone and take care of herself.  Her fear of being abandonded is screaming so loudly it overpowers her ability to hear that great guy telling her that she is loved.  .... and yes I'm divorced, for 10 years.  And would just jump out of my skin if I could find someone that would be so  loving and attentive to me.  Right now she just needs to heal herself, and if I could give advise to the guy... run don't walk there are a lot of good women out here that would love to meet someone so nice.
 
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March 18, 2008, 3:05 pm PDT

This man is not a man if he has to hit this woman

 Easter Basket  Child Basket  Easter Church I went threw this kind of life for 27 long hard years.

He could never see that he was doing this to me.

He also drank and it was not fun.

  He all ways told me that no other man would ever love me.

     Well I have some one in my life and he is a very loving man and life is good now.

But i still have days where I get scared and so I have been told that may not ever go away.

I still look around me to make sure I am safe as the ex is and all ways be a JERK.

 Be safe and don't let any person do this to you.My Ex broke my back and don't let this man do this

to you.

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March 18, 2008, 3:21 pm PDT

Leave Dawn alone!

For those of you that are judging Dawn because she can't stay in a single relationship, consider this.  Just stop & think of what would you do if you were in Dawn's shoes, & just can't be satisified with just one person. Many people in this world are like that. Perhaps she has some issues that she dealt with her entire life. I'm figuring that she has some sort of illness, stress, a disorder, or some sort of how she's been this way since she was 14. She had a bad childhood, has been suffering abuse from her past relationships, etc. It could be that she has never felt true love by anyone (except for her son), & feels that she shouldn't have to be alone, that's all. I wouldn't exactly call her a "Player", as some of you have put it. I think it's because she's very uncomfortable, has a disorder, or some sort. Unless many of you have been in her shoes, I don't think that it's fair to judge her harshly. I feel sorry for her & I just hope & pray that Dawn gets all the help she needs to overcome these obstacles.
 
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March 18, 2008, 3:33 pm PDT

NOT just in love with a person

One thing that Dr. Phil didn't address was how these "love junkies" aren't just in love with a person. My husbands ex-wife fits the description of a "love junkie" and with respect to her, I have watched over the past 15 years how she falls in love with houses, cars, and now school.

 

It's that feeling of something new, we have watched many men come through her door including the 5 she has married and divorced. Next thing you know after she ends a relationship she buys a new car and a little later she will buy a new house.

 

Since ending her last serious relationship she has gone back to school, which I seriously admire her for. How she lives her life is none of our business except they share a [now 17 year old] daughter and we have already saw similar characteristics in her. We don't want her to experience the heartache that we have watched her mother go through and I'm sure we don't even know the half of it.

 

 It's a hard thing to address and I appreciate Dr. Phil for bringing it out in the open.

 
 
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March 18, 2008, 3:45 pm PDT

03/18 Love Junkies

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For those of you that are judging Dawn because she can't stay in a single relationship, consider this.  Just stop & think of what would you do if you were in Dawn's shoes, & just can't be satisified with just one person. Many people in this world are like that. Perhaps she has some issues that she dealt with her entire life. I'm figuring that she has some sort of illness, stress, a disorder, or some sort of how she's been this way since she was 14. She had a bad childhood, has been suffering abuse from her past relationships, etc. It could be that she has never felt true love by anyone (except for her son), & feels that she shouldn't have to be alone, that's all. I wouldn't exactly call her a "Player", as some of you have put it. I think it's because she's very uncomfortable, has a disorder, or some sort. Unless many of you have been in her shoes, I don't think that it's fair to judge her harshly. I feel sorry for her & I just hope & pray that Dawn gets all the help she needs to overcome these obstacles.
What if Dawn was a man? You know what I think? I think if Dawn was a man some of us would think of her as a player or someone who just couldn't commit.
 
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