Topic : 08/19 Tired of Being a Mom

These women are just selfish. If they didn't want kids then why did they have them. I want kids so badly, it hurts. I was told that I may never have kids of my own. I would jump at the chance to be a mom. And I think that these women should count their blessings and stop being so damn heartless and selfish.

Being a mom of a son who has RAD and ODD, it was obvious that Alyssa was a RAD child.

Two books that have helped us are Beyond Consequences and Parenting with Love & Logic.

Let's educate each other, not judge each other. Until you walk this road, you will not understand.

A therapist put it in a nutshell for us "Adoptive kids are traumatized kids." I live it, I know.

Cause we all know how taking children's things away from them as punishment, instills a great sense of trust of their parents. I'm being sarcastic. If I took away things you enjoyed from you, what would you learn from that? Other than I'm a theif. All discipling your children by taking things from them teaches them is:

1. My parents are to be feared, because if I don't do as they say I'll loose the things I love.

2. The way to teach people how to do what I want, is to threaten them.

3. When I'm in school I'll be able to bully the other children, because my parents bully me and I'm powerless to stop them. So I'm going to take out my powerlessness, by holding power over those who I think are beneath me.

You want to raise a bully for a child?

I agree with you completely. We are in a society that suffers from mommy martyr syndrome. We have shows like this where all the mothers do is whine about the position they put themselves into. Unfortunetly, despite how well Dr. Phil did at explaining that the mothers don't have a right to play martryrs, there are parents who will see the title of this show, and feel it's approving of them having a victim mentality about being a parent.

You can't even ask a parent to move their children down a few tables, so you don't have to hear them scream or yell, without a diatribe about how hard their life is and you're not a parent so you have no right to adress them. This is a major problem with our society, we're tellng parents, especially mothers, that they are entitled to acting as if the rest of society is beneath them. Even at times their own children.

I think parents who joke about abandoning their children, should have their children taken from them. They're admitting their child is at risk, of them at a whim deciding they just don't want to do it anymore. They're kids, not virtual pets.

This mother doesn't understand why her son with Down Syndrome/Autism keeps saying "mean!" at her, well it's probably cause she is mean to him. She's not taking the time nor the effort to understand him. She sees the only way to interact with him is through discipline.

If this show had anything positive for it, it showed that the husbands were far better parents than their wives. Like that woman who kept saying I want to leave my family, fine, go. Give her children the opportunity to have a mother who cares. Not a mother who in public says she'd die for her kids, then in the next sentence talk about leaving them at school like sacks of flour.

Do these mothers think their children are unable to hear that they're not in this with full support. Do they think that they don't know their mommy cares about them with the same extent they would care about a object? Why do you think these kids are having problems, cause instead of being raised by their mothers, their mothers are on the phone playing martyr mommy with their friends.

Hikerchick, expect to get alot of angry posts here. As someone who tells parents alot of what they don't want to hear on bulletin boards, I know very well that it's expected that I'll be the target of alot of parent temper tantrums. What I'm saying is, alot of people probably won't agree with you. You are dealing with reality the best way you can. When you tell parents they have to buck up and live in the same world you and I live in, it's easier for them to attack what they don't want to deal with, than to deal with it.

Cause we all know how taking children's things away from them as punishment, instills a great sense of trust of their parents. I'm being sarcastic. If I took away things you enjoyed from you, what would you learn from that? Other than I'm a theif. All discipling your children by taking things from them teaches them is:

1. My parents are to be feared, because if I don't do as they say I'll loose the things I love.

2. The way to teach people how to do what I want, is to threaten them.

3. When I'm in school I'll be able to bully the other children, because my parents bully me and I'm powerless to stop them. So I'm going to take out my powerlessness, by holding power over those who I think are beneath me.

You want to raise a bully for a child?