Topic : 08/19 Tired of Being a Mom

I told them that by leaving I had a really bad couple days and finally one night when my hubby got home I told him I needed a break and left the house and spent the night at my friends house. Abandonment? No but I felt GUILTY for needing that break, like something in me thought I shouldn't need to "get away".  I was back the next morning but felt sad that I had missed a night away.

The statement about part of me has died came when we were talking to the staff and they asked if I ever had plans or wishes to ever do anything else besides being a mom, and I said sure, there were lots of different careers I was interested in and things I wanted to do but I feel that part of me has died. I personally feel, NOT SPEAKING FOR ANYONE ELSE (maybe you should try that), but anyways I said I personally feel that it is the children's best interest to have me home with them full time and not drop them off at some strange place and pay someone else to raise them for me just so I could go out and do whatever job I felt a fancy for.  In that aspect I told them I had to, in a sense, let those dreams die, at least until the children were older and all in school.

Keep throwing your jabs dear because with every letter you type, I am realizing, compared to your angry, judgmental nature, just how good a mom I am.

And as far as appearing on the show, I had no idea what the other moms stories were. I believed it was going to be a group of moms discussing how to deal with the guilt we feel when we fall short as parents. Sure you can just say, hey that's just how it is but I looked for that magical switch and couldn't find it.

But you seem to know everything so I guess you already knew that.

So if you went to get help for yourself, would you leave your child with your parents and step brother? or would you find another way, that would not put your daughter in danger of being hurt.

we don't help the parent and hurt the child

I've never said she didn't need help,but question the way she went about it.

she did not need to expose her children to her thought, to get helpfor herself, and thats the bottom line, get help but don't hurt your children while you are doing it. what is so hard about that,

we don't throw the kids in front of the bus, we step in front of them.

Are you so insecure with your own parenting skills that you have to beat up Charity?  Please.  If you read my post, I answered your question directly in another post about abandonment.  Read it, I assume you can. 

I can't speak for her children, but I don't personally think it will hurt them at all.  In fact, if I were looking at it from HER child's perspective, I would be glad that mom cared enough about me to bring her stress to a venue where she felt she could get help- hell, I'd be PROUD of her.  Even if they don't totally comprehend what's going on, they know "Mom's on TV, to be a better mom". 

I don't think she "abandoned" her children- she never left for good, use the word abandonment properly, please!   Again, if you read my previous post, I addressed this already.

Penny,

Thank you for sharing that part of your life here, it offers a great point of view from a former child- now adult and how you feel about your relationship with your parents.  I can't imagine your hurt from the actions of your parents, and I can't speak for all kids.  Surely there are children out there who are abused and abandoned- and I'm empathetic to any child that hurts from this. But IMO (just IMO) Charity's kids fall into a whole different category- it's comparing apples and oranges.  I didn't see any abuse going on, but that's from an outside perspective. 

Not all kids think that way.  That's one way a kid COULD think, but not how ALL kids think.  Can you jump inside someone's brain?  I didn't know you were telepathic.  I guarantee youre not perfect either, or instead of attacking another MOM online, you'd be taking care of your kid like you should be.  Grow up and take care of your kid!  How does THAT sound to you?

Is she hurting her kids, probably NOT.  I seriously doubt it.  All Charity has to do is talk to her kids about it and explain that she was getting help.  Kids are always going to tease other kids about SOMETHING (as a mom, you should KNOW that)... then they'll tease someone else when they get bored with that kid.  It's most likely NOT going to create as much drama as you say it does.

If a friend of mine came on national tv and said she was tired of being my friend and was stressed out all the time, I'd be SUPPORTIVE of her and give her all the time in the world away, even if it meant the end of our friendship.  I dont take it personally, that's just how she feels, and I respect that.

If my mom went on national tv and said she was stressed out and spent the night at a friend's house.  Fine.  At least she went to get help- and guess what?  She CAME BACK!   Voila!  All she needs is time away, time with friends, time to talk with other adults, maybe time to pursue a degree online and fulfill some of those dreams or even get a part-time job and still be there to pick me up in the afternoon if it makes her feel fulfilled and "alive".  I'd be SUPPORTIVE!  She didn't throw her kids under the bus at all, she's saying she was overwhelmed. At least she's working on being a good mom by taking breaks and working on being an even better mom, how is THAT bad?