Topic : 08/19 Tired of Being a Mom

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(Original Air Dare: 03/25/08) Motherhood isn't always about the good times, like baking brownies and having game night with the family. Dr. Phil talks to women who say they can’t cope with their children, and they’re running out of resources. Robyn adopted her 10-year-old daughter, Alyssa, six years ago from the Ukraine and says she actually has thoughts of sending the girl back. Robyn says that Alyssa hasn’t bonded with her and doesn’t know how to love anyone. She says her daughter screams, cries, yells and even threatened to kill herself! Robyn’s husband, Joe, can’t imagine living without his adoptive daughter and intends to stand by his commitment to the child. What's the real reason Robyn never bonded with Alyssa? Then, Cyndi says if she’d known her 12-year-old son, Alex, had autism and Down syndrome, she may not have brought him into the world. She says he hits himself, screams, grunts at the top of his lungs and wears two pairs of diapers at a time because he’s not potty trained. Her husband, Ulis, says he doesn’t find it difficult to care for Alex, but Cyndi says she’s exhausted and overwhelmed. Should the boy be institutionalized? Find out what Dr. Phil thinks. Plus, meet a mom with four kids who’s already left home twice. Now she’s scared she may leave again — this time for good. Talk about the show here.

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April 3, 2008, 3:17 pm PDT

03/25 Tired of Being a Mom

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Why is it that I'm feeling insecure? Maybe it you who feels that way? because you know if a adult would feel that way, a child would. and its not semantics, one is relating to a feeling the other is not no word playing here.

 

and I like your word probably, when your a parent you don't risk your childs mental health on probably.      If there is a better choice.

 

There you go again talking like you know her,

If only I could have been perfect I would have...if only...if if if....
 
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April 3, 2008, 5:14 pm PDT

03/25 Tired of Being a Mom

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If only I could have been perfect I would have...if only...if if if....
If there was only a way for a parent to get help with her thoughts and spare her children any emotional burdens. IF IF......( light bulb flashing) go to the local shrink, she can get help there!!!! and her needs are meet without draging her kids into her guilty feeling and sharing those kinds of thought with her kids.
 
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April 3, 2008, 5:25 pm PDT

03/25 Tired of Being a Mom

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If there was only a way for a parent to get help with her thoughts and spare her children any emotional burdens. IF IF......( light bulb flashing) go to the local shrink, she can get help there!!!! and her needs are meet without draging her kids into her guilty feeling and sharing those kinds of thought with her kids.
But OMG! What if her kids find out she went to the "local shrink" (nice term btw...) and they blame them SELVES for her needing help!

IF IF IF
 
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April 3, 2008, 6:20 pm PDT

03/25 Tired of Being a Mom

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But OMG! What if her kids find out she went to the "local shrink" (nice term btw...) and they blame them SELVES for her needing help!

IF IF IF
Her thoughts would between her and her shrink, thus not getting  her kids into something that they can not control. and getting a happy mommy back, a win win
 
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April 3, 2008, 6:39 pm PDT

03/25 Tired of Being a Mom

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Her thoughts would between her and her shrink, thus not getting  her kids into something that they can not control. and getting a happy mommy back, a win win
I don't think you are getting my point.

Sure, she could have done things better, she could have done things worse...fact is, she did SOMETHING to help herself.

So, at the end of the day, everything is good.

I'm sorry, but I think that this idea that all mothers HAVE to be stoic and extra-humanly strong is terrible. I suffered from PPD and I had a time when I didn't want to be a mom. I didn't want my beloved baby girl in my life. I felt trapped and locked and miserable. And I am glad I told people, and I am glad that there are women strong enough to SHARE their pain so I didn't feel alone and so I didn't feel like a monster.

You are making way too big a deal out of this. Her HONESTY and her COURAGE will not only help HERSELF, thusly her kids, but will help OTHER mothers who are feeling the same thing, but are too scared of people JUDGING THEM to come out and seek help.

We are simply going to have to agree to disagree...not all of us have charmed lives.
 
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April 3, 2008, 7:50 pm PDT

03/25 Tired of Being a Mom

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I don't think you are getting my point.

Sure, she could have done things better, she could have done things worse...fact is, she did SOMETHING to help herself.

So, at the end of the day, everything is good.

I'm sorry, but I think that this idea that all mothers HAVE to be stoic and extra-humanly strong is terrible. I suffered from PPD and I had a time when I didn't want to be a mom. I didn't want my beloved baby girl in my life. I felt trapped and locked and miserable. And I am glad I told people, and I am glad that there are women strong enough to SHARE their pain so I didn't feel alone and so I didn't feel like a monster.

You are making way too big a deal out of this. Her HONESTY and her COURAGE will not only help HERSELF, thusly her kids, but will help OTHER mothers who are feeling the same thing, but are too scared of people JUDGING THEM to come out and seek help.

We are simply going to have to agree to disagree...not all of us have charmed lives.

I got your point and answered your point, so what if they find out about her seeing a shrink like a million others. Point is its just between her and her doctor.

 

I'm sorry to hear that the bar is so low to be a good parent, That the child needs to do whats best for the parent  put parents needs first, that the children are now parenting the parent.

 

My opinion is she is selfish, and that is how she came accrossto me, her problem was a easy fix, a tap on the computer, a talk with a friend who would tell go see a doctor if she could not figure that out on her own, she looked  no where but the front door, before going to Dr. Phil, the other mothers on the show, where out of options looked everywhere, books the web, other mothers going through the same as them

 

and you are right we are going to have to just disagree, my take on her is different,

 

a charmed life is what you make of it, I could of sat down and pittied myself and cried woes is me, and keep looking at the otherside of the fence, and drove myself crazy,

But I'm a mom, and the day my first child was put in my hands I knew my life changed, there is so much more good then there is bad, and my children come first when it effects them or could do them harm, I'll find the other path,  remember she does not have PPD.

 
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April 3, 2008, 7:58 pm PDT

03/25 Tired of Being a Mom

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Its when kids start wanting to be cool  I worry about. Its not cool to tell a teacher.
Yup, you have a good point. As someone who spent most of their time in school being a dork, I never really payed attention to what was cool.
 
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April 3, 2008, 8:28 pm PDT

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Yup, you have a good point. As someone who spent most of their time in school being a dork, I never really payed attention to what was cool.
I don't know what group he will fall into yet, but one thing I know I don't what him to fall into is the token friend with a disablity,because it makes them feel good, because they are nice to him, I see it now when some people talk about my son, they feel good about themselfs because they treat and talk to him as a equal,  when he is already, and in some ways  above them.   they think by reading a few books or watching a show they understand. it drives me nuts.
 
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April 3, 2008, 9:25 pm PDT

03/25 Tired of Being a Mom

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I don't know what group he will fall into yet, but one thing I know I don't what him to fall into is the token friend with a disablity,because it makes them feel good, because they are nice to him, I see it now when some people talk about my son, they feel good about themselfs because they treat and talk to him as a equal,  when he is already, and in some ways  above them.   they think by reading a few books or watching a show they understand. it drives me nuts.
Yup I know. He might be the person who everyone thinks is really smart, cause he has a natural drive for knowledge, like I do. My sister said to my mom once it seems like I know everything, and I was like "Uh, I just look it up on the net", lol.
 
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April 3, 2008, 11:12 pm PDT

03/25 Tired of Being a Mom

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I got your point and answered your point, so what if they find out about her seeing a shrink like a million others. Point is its just between her and her doctor.

 

I'm sorry to hear that the bar is so low to be a good parent, That the child needs to do whats best for the parent  put parents needs first, that the children are now parenting the parent.

 

My opinion is she is selfish, and that is how she came accrossto me, her problem was a easy fix, a tap on the computer, a talk with a friend who would tell go see a doctor if she could not figure that out on her own, she looked  no where but the front door, before going to Dr. Phil, the other mothers on the show, where out of options looked everywhere, books the web, other mothers going through the same as them

 

and you are right we are going to have to just disagree, my take on her is different,

 

a charmed life is what you make of it, I could of sat down and pittied myself and cried woes is me, and keep looking at the otherside of the fence, and drove myself crazy,

But I'm a mom, and the day my first child was put in my hands I knew my life changed, there is so much more good then there is bad, and my children come first when it effects them or could do them harm, I'll find the other path,  remember she does not have PPD.

"Point is its just between her and her doctor."

Yes, let's keep it under wraps that moms are merely human...don't let ANYONE know!


 

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