Topic : 08/19 Tired of Being a Mom

A Being Doctor Mom Of Phil/Robin Tired.  I hope that Robin is not tired of being a Mom because she is a---

Mom of two born sons name And Jay Jordan. See you on Tuesday August 19th, 2008. Sincerley Your. Ru--

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I have an 18 year old daughter and a 16 year old son. My son is easy to deal with. My daughter has made my life heck from day one. She is not mentally handicapped or has no diseases. She inherited her fathers work ethic and values. GENETICS. She does not have a job. She was in the gifted class in elementary and junior high. Then her grades went to heck. Her dad mooches off everyone. Now she is doing the same. I know I will have to make her move out, but it is SO HARD. Being a mother is HARD. It is NOT FUN. I have a friend that is 42 and can't have kids and is trying so hard. She does not know how lucky she is. Having kids is NOT the answer to HAPPINESS.  My friends with NO kids seem to be much less stressed out then my friends with kids.  My daughter is killing my enthusiasm for life.

Well it is great that your kids turned out nice. Try being the mother to a problem child or a handicapped child. IT is draining and NOT rewarding. Especially when you have to work all day and come home to a problem every night. It is not what it is cracked up to be for everyone. Give her a break.  It is easy for you top talk to talk, but walk in the shoes of someone with a difficult child. It is not that rewarding.

What kind of person would even think of sending a child back to the country she came from?    This woman needs some good strong guidance -  and some love in her heart  The child is young and she is responding to the person who is supposed to love her   -  and doesn't  -  and shows it.     With a little encouragement and genuine love  she would more than likely blossom  but how can she warm to a "mother"   who doesn't want her now.       There are far too many partents like that today -  and take the easy road and leave.      I'm sure you will be able to talk some sense into her -  you usually succeed - you have a very direct  manner "tell it like it is"   and I like that!       Thanks Dr. Ph8  you are doing a wonderful job -   my husband used to laugh at me watching your show every day  and now he does too!!    

Florence H

  I am a mother of 3 grown children and now they have babies of their own.  I am pround of being a Grandma.  Every mother goes through period in their lives, you get so tired and wonder if " I can make it".

Sure you can, children can really try your patients.  My first child was a boy and he never changed our lives at all.  He was a good baby and toddler and almost 3 yrs later I was given a set of identical twins. They were born a month early and had to stay in the hospital for 3 wks to grow.  I drove to the hospital daily to feed them.  They just plain did not want to eat.  They finally got to 5 pounds and we all went home to be a family.  Now I will say, the twins, sure changed our lives ( totally ).  The would not sleep  or eat very well and was up every hour crying.  I had to sleep at all, but mananged to keep the house clean, wash 80 diapers ( cloth ) a day plus all out clothes.  I even mananged to bake daily homemade ( not anything ) from a box.  I also had supper on the table.  Yes it was very trying times and I got very frustruted a lot..

We the girls were toddlers they would not takes naps and I remember crying and begging please girls just go to sleep.  I needed time to myself.  They did not sleep all night until they were 3 yrs old.  I praised God when that happened.  But, I made and they all grew up very well and were good kids. I never had to worry about anything with the 3 of them.  They all went off to college and are all married and have their own families.  My girls made a remark a few wks ago, Mom us girls wanted twins, we have changed our minds.  They said, Mom I do not know how you did it and all the baking you did daily.  They said they miss my baking and thank me for being the mother i was.  They said, we learned so much from you.  I am now 57 and look back and wondered , how did I do it.  I say my the grace of God.  God will never give you more then you can handle. 

Hang in there women,,,,, you can do.

I realize this originally aired back in March, so I hope Robyn and Connie both read this if no one else does.  Let me begin by saying I am not a mother yet, so I can't know or have an opinion of what either of you are going through in that aspect.  However, I once was a child with a disability, I am now an adult with the same disability.  I have cerebral palsy and for the first 9 years of my life I had multiple seirures a day for which I was on medication, until I was 12.  I'll never forget the seemingly never-endless doctors visits that I hated with great passion, I might add.   Due to God's healing and the correct medication, I am happy to say that I've been seisure-free for the last 15 years.  I live a completely normal life.  There's isn't a single thing I can't do that I put my mind to.  I am very determined!  It may take me longer and I might have to find a different way, but I can promise you I will accomplish it.  There is hope for you!

I cannot stress enough that I would not be the 27 year old woman I am today if it were not for my mother, father and 2 older sisters. My mom drove me to all of my my doctors visits, did theropy, and made sure I had all of my medicine. She had alot of help and support from my dad and sisters, as well.  Even though mine and your children's disabilities are very different, symptom wise, the stress and frustration of it all as a parent is very much the same.  So, please keep pressing forward as the awesome mother's both of you are and help your children through this difficult time.  God chose you to mother your kids because He knew both of you  were the ONLY ones that has what it takes to get them through life.  Like I stated,  as the child, I can't imagine the emotional and physical stress you have as the mothers. However, as the child, I can honestly say the only possible way your children will be who God has destine for them to be is if YOU raise them.  God would not have put that much faith in you if He didn't think you weren't capable.  One of my favorite saying is "If God brought you to it, He will bring you through it!"  God bless you both!!!!