Topic : 08/14 Hitting Rock Bottom

    My condolences to Shauna for caring for her son, whom is terminally ill.  That is about all she can handle. 

    Perhaps she should let the issue of her husband's drinking rest.  If he refuses to face it, there isn't much she can do to force him.  An alcoholic's problem with alcohol is not having any alcohol.  They never admit they have a problem.   They only want everyone else to shut up and leave them alone with their best friend.

   Shauna has more immediate issues. 

My heart hurts for you. There isn't much to say about your husband until he want to get help for himself. Your goal should be yourself and your son that is ill. I have been in your shoes and it does get better. Keep your head up and there is help around the conner.

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efore. See you on Wednesday April 02nd, 2008. Sincerley Your. Russell Vlaanderen.-----------------------------

My prayers are with this family.  I have seen what gambling can do to people and their families. Obviously the child is the number one importance.  On a practical side, I can tell you this, after working at IRS for 15 years and being a self-employed tax consultant, there are ways of working with the IRS.  There is something called an Offer-In-Compromise that they may qualify for where a deal is made with IRS to pay a reduced balance or if that doesn't work there are payment plans.  The IRS offers a taxpayer advocacy office in most states and their web site may be able to give this family guidance.  It won't fix the bigger issues in your lives, but it may relieve a little of the preasure.  I have prepared many offers that have been excepted where huge tax bills have been reduced, others the IRS has not agreed to but payment plans have been worked out.

Again,my prayers go out to this troubled family and healing prayers for your son.

In today's world we are all getting hit some way or another.    This world is revolving around the "Almighty Dollar"!.     But we all have to remember that money is the root of all evil.

The thing is with money people are getting to greedy.   "It is easier for a camel to pass through the eye of a needle then for a rich man to enter the kingdom of Heaven."      

I have yet to see a U-haul on the back of a herse!

I am also at rock bottom but with the power of prayer I am getting by.  For the last 6 months I have been getting my mortgage paid by the grace of God.   So if you pray it will work.  

"Ask and you shall receive."   "The Lord will provide."

I am single and I am epileptic and having a terrible problem with my memory therefore trying to get a job is very difficult because this so called "Equal opportunity employers" is a bunch of bull!!

I have not had a stable job (that lasted a year) since June of 2006.   I have just been rejected by 3 temporary to hire positions because they are not willing to give me that little bit more time to learn it. 

The only thing I fear is losing my home that I was able to buy when I had my job with AT&T from 1995 to 2003 at which time they relocated from our state to another, which they always do. 

We are too hitting rock bottom.  We got an eviction notice and as I am sending this email, I have 10 days to get out of my home.  I have 3 children living with me and my Fiance.  I had few strokes and my Fiance just had a major surgery and he is not allowed to work at the moment.  He also lost 2 children. They drown on August 27, 2007.  His depression is really bad.  And to complete this problem, he is also going through a custody battle against his ex-mother-in-law.  He is a great guy.  My kids love him and I definitely love him to death.  We want to change our lives but we are so sick and in our county there is not much help.  Please let us know if you could give us any advise what to do since we don't want to loose our sanity through out all these problems.

Sincerely,

Michelle from PA

I remember when I was in HS back in Yonkers, there was an article that I read in a girl's teen publication about teen drinking.

It gave a statistic, as a given, that 90% of husbands will leave an alcoholic wife, but only 10% of women will leave an alcoholic husband.

This was given as a reason for girls not to drink to excess.

Nowhere was the intrinsic fairness of the situation even questioned!