Quote From: peterspumpkinOk, actually, I think you misunderstood what I was saying. After I've fought and fought and fought for however long and I'm tired of fighting, I take a night and I go out and get blitzed. Yes, the problems are still there the next day but that's how I escape them for one night. I do not delay dealing with them, I just need a break from fighting my way through life every now and then. Also, I didn't mean it's the only way, I meant for some of us it's the only way WE'VE FOUND. I've tried other things, I've yet to find a better way. Also, I was absolutely not using the excuse that I'm bipolar and can't get medicine. The fact is I AM BIPOLAR. I CANNOT GET MEDICINE. I live in podunk Oklahoma. I have no health insurance. I am epileptic so I can't drive to mental health which is REALLY FAR AWAY. There is no public transportation. There are not resources here for me to get it. But it was not an excuse. I was simply stating that EVERY NOW AND THEN I do use it to help. It cracks me up how you people are so quick to judge. Do you not think I have exhausted EVERY option that I can imagine? I realize you don't know me but if you did you would know I am not one to make excuses. I have been fighting for 31 years to try to change my situation. Most of my problems are due to outside forces, they were not any choice of my own. It's great that you have this ability to get your life out of the ditch. It's awesome that your mind works that way and you probably have family and friends and your life is in order. Not all of us work that way. I would give ANYTHING to find my way out of this but I DON'T EVEN KNOW WHERE TO BEGIN. Obviously you've never been in my shoes. Obviously you have no idea what it's like for your entire life to be screwed no matter what you do to try to fix it. This started long before I was ever even able to make a decision on my own. Why don't you people that know it all teach some of us who are a little confused.
Okay, I'm sorry if I sounded harsh. I just have little patience with people who use lame excuses to justify their destructive behavior......not saying that's you...but, your post hit me that way at first.
You say that obviously I've never been in your shoes? Guess again!! You have no idea what all I've been through, even before I, too, had any say in things. However, here's what I know: you can whine about your childhood and blame everything that goes wrong in your adulthood on it, OR, you can grow the heck up, put on your big girl panties and DO something to make your life better....one step at a time.
My life is in order because I made it that way! No one jumped in and fixed things for me.
Now, in fairness to you, can you tell me what it is you can't get out of? You say you don't know where to begin. Maybe I can give you a direction in which to go...I don't know. Try me.
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